Formula Feeding & Postpartum Questions

If you are talking about Good Start by Carnation, then I highly recommend it. It was the one formula that my children (I have 5) did okay with. The rest all seemed to bother their little tummies and made them much more spitty and the vomit was awfully smelly! Good luck with it all.

I had a c-section, and depression with my first and only son. However, I do not know if my postpartum depression was due to the c-section or because of personal reasons. My sister and her newborn died in a car crash coming to visit us.

I to had a very hard time breastfeeding. And I could not decide what I wanted to do. I eventually decided to do both. Breastfeed and formula feed. I am glad I decideded to do both. Because now I still have that bonding with my son, and I can also leave my son with other people and I do not have to worry about him starving. I also work full time so it works good.

We used primarily Enfamil and Similac, but mostly because we received a lot of free samples from them.

I have to healthy boys one formula fed the other breast fed and they are fine, actually the one breast fed is the one with frequent ear infect. and colds????? i think either is fine as long as you are good with the decision, we also used enfamil soy formula because of the constant spit up but i hear the nestle comfort one is also good. Wish you well and i too suffered from postpardom and went on meds and doing fine now!!! (off the meds now)

Formula feeding your baby does not make you a bad mother. You have to do what is best for your family. I have three children, and the first two I started out breast feeding. I hated it. I never knew if they were getting enough, they had a hard time latching on, my nipples cracked and bled, and that made me depressed! My last child I didn't breast feed, I put him right on formula, and I never felt better. Formula is safe and effective for babies. You really should take some with you to the hospital just in case they don't have the kind that you are going to use.Do not feel guilty for not breast feeding. As for your depression, please seek help immediately if you feel yourself going down that road. There are many options to help you.

As for some of the others posting on here, we as mothers should be here to support each other, not try to guilt someone into doing something because it is our own belief. We all choose what is best for our own families, try not to judge.

Hi GK. I really feel you need to do what is best for you. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty if you do not breastfeed. Yes it is a great source of nutrition but being able to be there for your child emotionally, is, I think more important. I suffered from PPD with both of my pregnancies and Anti-depressants really helped. I have read that there have been new studies done about anti-depressants and breastfeeding. Some of these new studies show that there may be risks to babies who are breastfeeding from moms on Anti-depressants. I do not know how true this is but you should definitely talk to your doctor about all your options and their consequences. Only you can do what is right for you!

Just a side note to some of the respondents - Everytime someone on this sight questions whether to breastfeed, some people get very judgemental. Millions of children in this world do not breastfeed and they do fine. It is a very personal choice that can only be made by each individual. This is supposed to be a network for support. If you can't be supportive, please don't respond!

I got a little worried when I saw all the replies coming in that you were going to be attacked for maybe not breastfeeding. Thank goodness you are getting some good feedback.

I had 4 babies and nursed them all from 6 months to a year. I DID NOT ENJOY IT. I wish more moms were honest about their experiences when I was younger and also feeling guilty.

Now that I have had 4 and met many mothers over time I found more moms than not choose to bottlefeed or also did not enjoy breastfeeding but did it for the benefits. I think that you have to do what is best for you and your baby. Obviously you are carefully choosing what is best next to breastmilk. Stop feeling guilty embrace the power of being a mom. If you still are not 100%, try breastfeeding a day at a time because every day you do it you are providing the extras that baby could benefit from breastfeeding. You have the right to change your mind at anytime.

Good luck with our C-section and your precious new baby. I pray that you bypass the whole PPD thing this time. Good Luck.

I had postpartum after my daughter was born. It was hell because I wanted to be a good mom and I just couldn't get over my anxiety. I kept trying to breastfeed and it wasn't working which just added to my stress, so we ended up bottle feeding and it was the best decision I could have made. My husband could help with the feeding more often which really helped with their bonding and I was so much calmer my daughter and I could have some really special moments. I finally settled in to enjoying her and it made us so close.
My daughter is a beautiful and very healthy 8 year old. No allergies, no ear infections, and is rarely sick.
The breast feeding people will try to make you feel guilty about not breast feeding but don't buy into it. You need to do what will keep you healthy and sane and that is the BEST gift you can give your child. That way you won't have to worry about taking medication if you need it. I feel so strongly about not adding more guilt to our already guilt filled "mommy lives". You need to do what feels right to you and your family.
If you are concerned you could breast feed initially when you are in the hospital so your baby gets the collastrum ( not sure on sp.) which is supposed to be the best for them and will help your uterus contract.
Best wishes to you and your family.

I bottle fed my first son and breast fed my second for an entire year, and they are both happy, healthy and intelligent. Don't stress over bottle vs. breast, it'll be fine. Start with whatever formula you want, but you may have to switch several times before you find one that agrees with your baby's tummy. Good luck!

Hi G K,
I had my first daughter naturally (and it was an awesome experience), and my second daughter via c-section. I was pretty devastated when I found out that #2 was breech & had to have a c-section. I was worried about recovery & milk coming in. However, the c-section was awesome in its own way -- I knew when it was going to happen, it was quick, I was not as tired, and I actually had an easier time recovering from c-section versus the vaginal delivery of a 9 lb. 10 oz. baby. Some good advice that I got was to not try to be a hero, and take the pain medication for the first two weeks (which I should have done with my first baby.)
Re: Milk -- my milk came in fast, on day 2, with the c-section. I was worried that it would take too long, but I was told that what triggers the milk is the separation of the placenta from the uterus wall.
Re: PPD -- I had a rough first week with my first, but had a much worse time of it with my second. It was a perfect storm of colicy baby, not enough help, and a 16-month old in addition to a very fussy baby. I ended taking Zoloft for about 8 months, and just tapered off it. For my future babies, I will probably go on Zoloft again (you can breastfeed), and I will think seriously about adding formula much sooner. I tend to feel very trapped when I'm the only one who can feed the baby, and that contributes to my PPD. I breastfed both my daughters for 10 months, but I completely understand the desire to bottle-feed from the start. I just switched my 11-month-old to a bottle, and wonder why I didn't do it sooner. I feel like I can bond with her more when I can snuggle her right up to my face while she's drinking.
Good luck on Thursday! I hope everything goes smoothly!

I had a C-section for my first child and will have to have one for my second. I didn't have any problems with my c-section, nor did my son. I'm not sure about the hormone situationa and whether it will contribute to postpartum depression or not. But as far as the procedure and the healing, I didn't find it hard at all. In fact, I was off pain meds completely after the first 5 days.
I made the decision to formula feed my son. I tried breastfeeding as a favor to my husband but decided against continuing. There is nothing wrong with formula feeding your child. My son is a healthy 2 year old. He has never had an ear infection, rarely gets sick, and has always been in the 50th percentile in size and weight. We also used a generic formula that is equilviant to Enfamil (we discussed this with our pediatrician and he agreed that it's the same formula~they all have the required nutrients in them). I know many women feel very strongly about breastfeeding and will criticize anyone's decision to formula feed. There are extra benefits to breastfeeding, but it's not going to affect your child's growth or development if you decide not to. Stick to your guns and feel confident that you are doing what you believe is best for you and your child. Good luck!

I had a hard time breastfeeding my second..everything that could go wrong did...and I never got much milk. I kept at it for 10 months, but always had to supplement with a bottle after I gave her what I had. It wasn't a bad combo..doing that. But if you have other medical reasons to just bottle feed, really...it will be ok. As things always go, my first child was easy to breastfeed and things were fine, but because I have a health condition that required some new drugs..I couldn't nurse after 2 1/2 months. I was so sad, but he really is just fine with the bottle and formula. There were many nice things about using the bottle/formula too... I do have some friends who always get post partum with every baby so they start taking antidepressants a few weeks before the baby is born and continue for a while after. Makes a HUGE difference in their new mommyhood. And it is ok to take meds too.

OK, i had c-sections with both my kids. With baby 1 things went fine, i didn't have any "depressed" feelings and successfully breastfed for 6 months, easily switching over to formula. WIth baby 2 it was a different story... the c-section went well and i actually recovered alot faster the second time around. BUT... my baby had some health problems and was in the NICU for 10 days. I wasn't able to hold him until he was 12 hours old and then it wasn't until he was a week old that i got to hold him for th esecond time. I also was trying to pump around the clock to get my milk built up...It never worked..i was stressed and also depressed because of not knowing th efate of my child. If i could do it over again i would not of even tried to pump and just went with formula. THas wahat ended up happening anyways because i couldn't produce enough milk (probably because of all the stress i was under) IT was even harder for me to accept the fact that i couldn't successfully nurse him.... so that added to the depression for me. I say formula feed...but the hospital will start them on something in the nursery so if you have a specific formula you want to use take a can with you so they can start you child on it. We were always told no to switch around formulas once they got started ( unless for med reasons). Make sure you tell your Ped and the nurses fron the start too. Good Luck!! IF you have any c-section questions feel free to contact me!

Hi GK,
I have 2 kids both by C-section. Both surgeries were pretty easy. I haven't had a vaginal birth so I can't compare recovery time but I didn't have any problems when I went home. I never had to take any pain pills and felt back to normal within a month.

I also bottle fed after 3 weeks with both. I agree with another mom that said something about not enjoying it at all. It was extremely painful for me because neither one of my boys latched on correctly. I had lactation consultants to my house to try and help me but with both I switched to bottles. They are both happy, healthy boys. Good luck.
Chris

I really didn't have the choice to breastfeed, I was unable to produce milk, so don't worry about not breast feeding your children. I have three wonderful children that have no health problems from being formula fed.

Do what you feel comfortable with, and don't let anybody make you feel guilty about it!! I went through the same guilt with all three of my children. I nursed all of them minimally, and my mother-in-law made me feel so guilty about it. However, it just wasn't for me. Thankfully my husband was very supportive of me. I found that I had to use formula that was low in iron. Everytime I used the regular stuff it made my kids constipated. However, my brother and his wife had good luck with using regular Similac. The powder form is much cheaper and worked fine for my last baby, but it was to airy for the other two and I had to use the liquid concentrate. Another option that worked well for me is to use a breast pump. That way I was able to give my babies my milk without having them on me all day long. Also, then my husband could get up in the night and help out with feedings. However, it did get to be time-consuming to keep track of when I pumped, and keep track of when baby was fed, so I only did it for about a month. So just find what works for you and don't feel one bit guilty about it. It seems like such a big important decision, but in all reality, when your baby walks into kindergarten the teacher will have no idea who was breast fed and who was formula fed. They all turn out the same in the end. :)

Its been a while since I had new borns, my girls ae 6 years old. I also had a planned C sectin. That in itself was pretty easy because my body was not tired out from any labor. The recovery was really quick.
I tried to breast feed and it was not working out seeing as I had one in NICU and one at home. Plus they were premature and not strong enough to suck yet. I decided to pump and bottle feed them and that was even more grueling on my system. It felt pretty unnatural to be hooked up to the pump. I lasted with that for 3 weeks. I got a lot of greif about not breast feeding from moms who thought that was the best for the baby. I felt so guilty like they were saying that I wasn't as good as a mom because I chose to formula feed. Then a nurse assured me that the best thing for the babies was what was best for me. I stoped feeling guilty and I switched to Carnation Good Start. The formula was gentle and they digested it well. What ever you choose to do should be up to you. You have your reasons and thats all that matters. Your child will be loved and well fed either way.
There are pros and cons to any question. Some will say that it is better to give the baby the breast milk because of all the natural vitamins. Some will say that there are vitamins added to the formula that allow the baby to get more nutrition.
I really feel that it is a mothers choice and no one should judge someone because they are not doing what someone else thinks is right.
Good luck to you with your C section, It really isn't that bad when it is planned. As far as postpartum, I didn't feel any effects that I didn't consider normal, considreing I had one child in NICU.
I wish you the best.

Both my children were formula fed. They are both very healthy and happy children. Don't let others make you feel guilty for choosing to use formula. It is a personal decision and your decision should not be pressured by anyone else. Do what you think is best for you and your baby. Your children will turn out just fine either way!

I just had my second child 2 weeks ago. I Brestfed my first and chose to formula feed this time. My Husband and I decided that this would be the best choice for our family for various reasons. I have gotten a lot of negitive comments for choising to formula feed (especially from my mom) but I have to tell you that I am confident that it was the best choice for our family at this point. Plus I am really enjoying the freedom of not having to go into hiding everytime I have to feed my baby. My advice would be to just make the decision that is right for you and for your family and dont let other people guiltrip you.

Hi GK,

I had my second c-section and my first was natural as well! I wouldn't completely count on postpartum for your second, for each pregnancy and experience is different. You have some experience being a mother now and the shock of that is not an issue this time around. C-sections are not as bad as some may say. It is nice to walk in and know when everything is going to happen, and it's over with in a matter of minutes! Recovery on the other hand is a bit more challenging. Laughing and coughing/sneezing will be hurtful at first, but really, if you get help for the first few weeks, then you should be just fine. You just need to believe in yourself and don't assume that clouds are going to hover over you again.

As far as formula goes, you need to do what is best for you. Don't feel pressured to breast-feed if it is going to stress you out. There are many great formulas out there that will give your little one the nutrition he/she needs and will grow up just fine! I hope this is helpful. I wish you luck on Thursday....you will do just fine!!

Hi GK,

Just wanted to write you a quick note to say that formula feed babies turn out just as great as breast feed babies. I have a 2 1/2 yr. old and a 7 month old and both were formula feed. I never got any milk in after having them so that's why I did it and believe it or not, I still was judged for not breast feeding my babies. We use Enfamil Gentlease and it is great. It seems to be easier on the tummies. It's just a bit more expensive but is worth it to not have a fussy baby with a bloated stomach! Good luck with your new baby!

I formula feed. My oldest is 2 and my youngest is 4 months. I chose too, not because I couldn't. I don't feel guilty at all. Its my choice and what I prefer. Don't feel bad about it. I have seen nothing about my children that is different from breastfed children. In fact, my 2 siblings and I were all formula fed. We are all healthy, high metabolism, adults.
And to answer your question about formula. I use enfamil. My children have always done good on enfamil. My sister used nestle good start after she stopped breastfeeding and liked it for awhile. Although, she eventually did switch to enfamil. I know lots of people that use similac too and like it.

Good luck on the postpartum. At least you will be a little prepared going in this time if you do get it.

Hello friend. I have only one child, and suffered through severe postpartum depression. I was breastfeeding my son, and it seemed he was always eating, but after four weeks, and increasing blues, my OB suggested that I stop breastfeeding and put him on formula. I was wiped out physically and emotionally, and she felt that what I really needed was for my husband to help with feeding so I could sleep (I did pump as well, but, like I said, the kid was always eating!). I felt very guilty for not continuing with the breastfeeding, but came to realize that I couldn't be any good to my son if I wasn't well myself. It wasn't my first choice to formula feed, but it helped me to make that switch and make conditions better so that I could work on being a good mother. Many moms use formula by choice or necessity, and it's okay. You'll be great!

i had a c-section with both of my kids (both of them were breech) i tried to breastfeed with my oldest, i wanted to so badly...but almost nothing came out and it just really stressed both of us out. with him i used similac and now with my youngest i am using enfamil (i am on the WIC program and they switchd the formula they will cover). my oldest is so smart and we have bonded just fine, he is never sick and is just a super great kid. there is absolutely nothing wrong with formula feeding. sure they say that breast feeding makes you closer and it helps thier development...but formula did the exact sme thing. we are super close and loving. my youngest does just fine with it as well. no ear infections, no extra spit up, nothing like the horror stories you hear about formula feeding. if it is what works best for you darlin', go for it and don't let ANYONE tell you its wrong or make you feel like a bad mom because you made that decision. it is alot more expensive, but can save you alot of hassle and pain!! and most formula is enhanced with DHA and ARA...vitamins that promote development of eye and brain functions. just watch out for lactose intolerance, they have plenty of soy formula's for that problem tho. good luck and congrats on number 2 :)

I really didn't have a choice about formula or breast feeding. We adopted out daughter and of course gave her formula. She is now 3 and I really don't see any different in breast feed babies to formula babies. She was a healthy baby and didn't get sick at all. I don't think there is anything wrong with formula. We used good start and it was great for her.

My first word of advice for you will be to do whatever is best for you and your baby. Don't let the stereo types of breastfeeding make you feel more depressed. I have had four children and bottle fed them all. When my first child was born I couldn't produce what she needed and almost sent myself over the edge thinking I was a bad mom. A wise friend looked at me a reminded me that I had been a bottle fed baby and turned just fine also. I would also suggest talking to your doctor about anti-depressants. I have been on this road too and after 3-6 months you may be able to get of of them. You aren't alone in this struggle and a good book to read is one written by Marie Osmond about her own struggle with this disease. It helped me out a great deal. Good luck.

ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY NOT!!! Just because you choose formula over breast feeding does not make you a bad mom...and if anyone tells you otherwise they are full of it. I am sorry if this is harsh...but after facing the critics these past 6 months myself, well, frankly I am sick of it. I firmly believe that what is best for mommy is best for baby. If formula feeding will lead to an environment where there is less stress then I am all for it. You need to do what is best for YOUR family...please don't let anyone try to make that decision for you. My little girl has been formula fed from day one...she is healthy and growing bigger and stronger everyday (even though she has a heart condition that "is supposed" to keep her on the small side!) The truly important thing is that you love them...hold them close, snuggle, talk to them...and you know what? If you do all those things it won't matter where their supper is coming from! (Sorry, I'll get off my soap-box now!)

I didn't breastfeed...but I know plenty of women who did. Some had an easy time of it...a lot of them did not. If you are going to be potentially facing PPD, it might take a huge load off your shoulders if you didn't have to deal with the stress of breastfeeding. Some say that formula-feeding is more work...well, maybe technically it is...but it certainly isn't stressfull!

As for what type...We used the GS Natural Cultures for a few months and switched over to regular Good Start Supreme (Orange Can). The Nat. Cult. NEVER goes on sale. Also, the jury is still out on whether or not the "probiotics" in it will truly make a difference. The regular Good Start was a lot easier to mix and our daughter seemed to like the taste a lot better.

One more thing to keep in mind about the Nat. Cult....if you plan on warming your bottles you need to be really careful. If they are warmed above 100 degrees the cultures break down.

I didn't have a c-section with my second baby, but I had post partum depression after both of my babies. I think with the second I was a little more prepared for it. I recognized the signs and got help from my doctor sooner than I did with my first. It is hard to go through and it helps to have a good support system too, someone who could even take the kids for a couple of hours and let you rest or do something just for you. Just a thought.
I chose to formula feed my kids. I tried to breastfeed both of them, but it was so painful that I couldn't keep doing it. I only made it 2 days with the second because he wouldn't even latch on. People made me feel like an awful mom because I wasn't breastfeeding and I cried a lot over it. I read an article in a magazine, I think it was Parents magazine, that said that there is nothing magic in breast milk and formula fed babies were just as healthy as breastfed babies. There are some things i think that are better in the breast milk, but the way formula is made, it is very close to breast milk anyway. Both of my kids are healthy and growing well. It is your choice. I think formula feeding is fine. It gave me more time to spend with my first child as well and I liked that. It also gave me a little more freedom and more sleep, since my husband or someone else could also feed the baby. There are pros and cons to both and you have to decide what is right for you. I don't think there is a wrong decision as long as your baby is fed. I hope this helps a little.

Hi there~
Sounds like you are talking about me! Little did I know I was a sitting duck for ppd after my c-section. I didn't know the risk was higher so kudos to you for being prepared. Other moms will hang me for saying so, but formula feeding your baby will help ALOT. Of course, breastfeeding is best, and in my case I was bent on nursing, but it turned out to be at the risk of my own sanity. I just couldn't do it...my body had done so much already and I was honestly losing my grip on reality. My family was afraid to leave me alone with my kids and to be honest, I was afraid to be alone with myself! It helped me to remember that formula feeding doesn't make you a bad mom, just like breastfeeding doesn't make you a good one! You have to decide what is best for you and your family as a whole! You will find the extremists who will make you feel like a bad mom, but I have found the lack of support comes from true ignorance of the situation...they just haven't been there! Billions of babies have been formula fed and are alive because of formula!

We also use Good Start Natural Cultures and I love the fact that it has the probiotics in it...its a great choice!

Also, be proactive in your care. It is SO true that a c-section makes your more at risk for ppd! Talk to your OB about ppd openly and honestly and see if they recommend treatment before the baby is born...or even right after. You can't be a good mom if you can't be sane! LOL

Good luck to you and know that you are SO not alone. Msg me anytime if you find you have trouble...I learned some fantastic ways to help myself and luckily my ppd lifted quickly! And please, please ignore the ones who will try to make you feel bad and change your decisions instead of support you!

~L.

G K,

I totally disagree with Stephanie in her statement that breastfeeding is easier and more convenient than formula feeding. Ask any breastfeeding mother and if she is honest, she will tell you that there are most definitely downsides to breastfeeding vs. bottle(formula) feeding. We all know what they are; you must always be the one to stop and feed, unless you pump, in which case you have to take the time to do that. There can be no diet restrictions to heavy diet restrictions. It is a process figuring out what those are. There are many medications that YOU cannot take while breastfeeding. That can be a true downside. The list is long. I am not advocating NOT breastfeeding, but it is certainly not the only option. She is correct in saying that it is cheaper.

Also, I am always amazed when people say that a breastfed baby is more "bonded" to his/her mother than a formula fed baby. That is a ridiculous statement, totally untrue and I resent people who say that. Not only am I a mother of four, but a childcare provider for the past 18 years to countless newborns. I have bonded with each one. Having a nursing degree DOES NOT make one an expert in childcare, newborns or bonding. I breastfed two of my babies and formula fed two. I was no more bonded to my nursed babies than my other two. I was able to look at their sweet little faces in all circumstances. I was able to touch their cheeks, look lovingly into their eyes, inspect their ears and memorize every expression EACH of my children has. I held their hands, stroked their arms and held them close. The fact that I was formula feeding OR breastfeeding had no impact on how or when or why I did that.

G K, you need to do what is right for YOU and your family. There is simply NOTHING wrong with formula feeding your child if that is what you choose to do.

I wish many blessing upon you, your newborn and your entire family.

C.

I have a 7 week old daughter that I just switched to soy formula over a week ago becuase she was having problems with cow's milk protein. I was breastfeeding before this. I spoke with my doctor and she said that she hasn't ever seen a difference in babies that are breastfed vs formula fed. I also asked her about the different brands of formula because it is so pricey and the off brands are so cheap. She said that in order to be called "baby formula" companies have to meet strict FDA guidelines and that she hasn't seen a difference in the off brands vs the name brands of formula.

At first it was hard for me to give up breastfeeding but I actually find formula feeding easier and more convenient. After hearing what the doctor said, it also made it easier for me to make the decision of formula feeding. However, you will always run into those that will make comments about breastfeeding being better for them and you just have to ignore them. You have to do what works best for you and your baby and what you are most comfortable with. As long as you and your baby are happy and healthy - that's all that matters in the end.

I wasn't going to respond because you have gotten some great feedback BUT the response saying that you can be happier if you want to and taking charge of your emotions just didn't fly with me. If you have PPD don't let anyone minimize what you are going through-especially yourself! Breastfeeding was HELL for me and I did it for 11 months with my son and 12 months with my daughter, supplementing with formula all the way. I do believe that it is better than formula but the misery I put myself through was ridiculous.
I agree with the lady (Cathy???) who said a happy mom is a happy baby so BE AT PEACE with whatever you decide and let others be smug in their ignorance.
If it makes you feel better, give breastfeeding your best shot. Mabey you will be pleasantly surprised and mabey it will not work out. Who knows??? Blessings on you!!!

I wish you luck with the c-section. I've never had one but I imagine it's scary. I"m not sure on the hormone thing. Seems weird to me but again not sure. As far as breastfeeding vs bottle, you need to do what is best for you and the baby. If breastfeeding is going to be hard on you and cause problems than I say bottle feed. It doesn't make you a bad mom and you shouldn't feel guilty. I breastfeed and will eventually bottle feed when he is older however it's not for everyone. You need to make sure you do what is going to be easiest for you. A happy mommy means a happy baby. As far as what formula you can start with that one. If your baby doesn't like it he/she will let you know and you can try another. You may also want to see what the hospital uses and perhaps use that or bring in the one you want to use and have them use it so you don't upset his/her stomach with a drastic change from one formula to another. I wish you luck and congrats.:)

I don't know anything about c-sections OR ppd. Just want to respond to your worries about bottle-feeding. I tried to breastfeed BOTH my babies and it just didn't work out for me, I tend to "dry up". Any way, with our first I tried two or three different "name brand" formulas. The ONLY thing she would tolerate was the Good Start. The second time around, we started him on Enfamil Lipil and it gave him terrible gas. So, we went strait to Good Start w/ him. If we ever do have another baby, I'll try to nurse him/her, but once I can't anymore, I will definitely go to Good Start and not even mess with anything else.
Don't feel guilty about not breastfeeding, it's every woman's choice. Some woman can't (like me) and other moms don't want to and there's nothing wrong with that. Your baby will know you love her not matter how you feed her. Hold her, look into her eyes. When I bottle-feed my son, I hold him close, look into his eyes and talk to him. Sometimes I tell him "hold my hand" and he grips my fingers. You don't have to breastfeed to build a bond.
Good luck with your delivery!

Hi GK~
First and foremost, you need to do what is right FOR YOU when it comes to breastfeeding. I breastfed my first for 6 weeks, my second for one day and my third not at all. It just wasn't right for me and personally I was able to bond more with my child bottle feeding, where I could see his face and both eyes and make complete eye contact with him versus staring at the top of my boob and only half of his face. DON'T let anyone push you into doing something you don't want to do and DON'T allow anyone to make you feel guilty for not breastfeeding. I got a lot of grief for not breasfeeding from family and hospital personel(as a matter of fact the day I delivered the lactation nurse was in my room - she said she was there by mistake (yeah right) - but she managed to ask me why I wasn't breast feeding and it really ticked me off. Who is she to tell me I should do something with MY body. Either way the choice to breastfeed is yours and ONLY yours!! Whichever you choose it is the right decision.

As for postpartum depression. I wasn't clinically diagnosed for it, but I was very anxious, moody and such after my first two (my first was natural and my second and third were c-sections)but with number three I have been just fine - actually absolutely wonderful!!! I had a lot of anxiety with #2 and was put on Effexor XR (lowest dose possible) and will never do it again. It definitely helped, but when I had to go off it I was sick in bed (literally) for almost 2 weeks! My doctor said that going off drugs like that is worse then getting off a street drug like cocaine. The thought of my body being soooo dependent on a drug really bothered me and I vowed to never get on anything like that again. SO...I am currently taking Levity. It is an all natural mood elevating daily vitamin. I actually began taking this (with my dr's o.k.) about 2 weeks before I had my third child. I have been taking this for about 2-3years now and it is great!!! And I am great. I feel better than ever and am better off physically, emotionally and spiritually than I have ever been (no I can't contribute it all to the pill, but it does help:). The only complaint is that they taste absolutely awful. If you go to http://www.geneva-health.com/levity you will see it there. It is also quite inexpensive. Good Luck and try not to worry about Thursday! Things will be just fine! God Bless You!!!!

AFTER THOUGHT: Just because you don't breastfeed it DOES NOT mean your child will be sick more often than a child that is breastfed. Sure breastfeeding is the most "Natural and Innate" way to go, BUT is it really the BEST way to go? I often question this b/c of the drugs the majority of our society is on or the preservatives and other un-natural 'stuff' in a lot of the food people eat or even the pollutions in the air that we take in our bodies on a daily basis. This is all being passed to your new little miracle when breastfeeding. Is breastfeeding really better than bottle feeding???? Like stated over and over - DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU MAMA :) !!!!! (Carnation Good Start Supreme is a good formula. The Natural Cultures Carnation is fairly new and I am unfamiliar with it - sorry!

I have had two vaginal births and one c-section (twins) and have both formula fed and breastfed and had post partum depression and not had it. It's definitely been a roller coaster for me. With my first girl (vaginal birth) I had post partum depression, but didn't realize it until later when I didn't have it anymore. I tried my hardest to breastfeed her, and since she was jaundiced, the doctor had me supplement a little formula with each feeding to help her gain weight faster and dissipate the bilirubin. I tried breastfeeding her for 3 months, but was supplementing more and more each feeding that evenutally I just gave her formula only. I tried multiple formulas for her, and she seemed to like the Similac or Enfamil the best. She spit up the Nestle Good Start Supreme like no other and seemed fussier after eating it.

When I had my boys, I had a C-section because one of them was Frank Breech. They were 6 weeks premature and had feeding issues. I had plenty of milk supply with them, but had to pump and feed them through a tube and then a bottle because they were so small. By the time they were big enough to start nursing, they were not interested and would only take the bottle. The pumping and feeding cycle for two newborns was taking up the whole day and leaving little time for the older sister so eventually I just formula fed them too - Enfamil (after about 6 weeks of Pump/feed). I had major post partum depression after them, and was on anti-depressants for a month and a half after delivery. After that, I started getting into a routine and the depression slowly disappeared.

With my third delivery (VBAC) I breastfed for about 6 weeks, never got the hang of it, and switched to formula. I had absolutely no depression after her and am doing very well now (6 months later).

All of my kids have eventually been satisfied with the Enfamil, and I now feed my youngest the Target brand of formula because it is basically the generic Enfamil. Her doctor also said there is really no difference between the two. On the package, it is basically the exact same ingredients at the exact same levels, is half as expensive and seems to dissolve in the water more quickly also.

I tried breastfeeding 4 times, and was never successful at it for different reasons each time. So, as was said lots of times before, if you decide to breastfeed or formula feed, just make sure whichever decision you make is the best for YOU. Not for society. Good luck with everything!

I have two children 7 years apart. I nursed both and had postpartem with my first and absolutely no symptoms at all with my second. My first i nursed for a year, my second i was only able to nurse for the first month or so and they both turned out perfectly healthy no significatn differances in their behavior, fussiness or sleeping patterns. I also have a twin sister who just recently had her third child and formula fed all three of her children. The Carnation Start formulas are great as far as we are concerned. Formulas now are almost just like breast milk without the breast. If you want to bottle feed go for it, if i could do it again with the formulas they have now i definately could do without the engorging, drying up, leaking, pumping and especially the sagging breasts. Dont forget to ask your doctor for something to help with the process after you give birth. My sisters milk didnt even come with her first child, it did with the second, and not again with her third. AS far as post partem all i know is i had two totally different experiences, keep positive and expect to have the greatest expereinces all around. Now you have the information and while you are aware of the signs dont seek them out. Congratulations and best wishes to you and your family.

I have a 2 month old daughter and I chose to formula feed over breastfeed. I was going to breastfeed at first but then I realized that I might be uncomfortable doing it so I chose to formula feed. Formula feeding is also very healthy so I don't think you should have to worry about it. They say breastfeeding is best, but formula feeding is also very healthy and nutritious for the baby. I chose to go with Enfamil Lipil because it is the closest formula to breastmilk. It has all of the nutrients and vitamins that a baby needs. So I would go with that, but it is just a suggestion. Also on postpartum depression, I know exactly how you feel because I have that also. It wasn't fun but my doctor prescribed me with an antidepressent so it is starting to get better. So that is all I have to say.

I had a c-section with my second child but not the horrible depression I had after my first. But every woman's experience is different. If you do ask for help right away. I think it helped knowing what to do with the baby so I was less stressed. Formula wise I used the Walmart brand Parents Choice. It has the same ingredient as regular brands at half the price. I tried my darndest to breastfeed my first child and was not successful. I just pumped for the first 3 mos. With my second child I just bottle fed and she is very healty and happy at 2. Just take it easy after your C-section. Get plenty of help. I was lucky enough at the hospital my doc let me take a whirlpool bath. Congratulations on the new baby!!

I haven't had a c-section, so I don't know much about that. But this is the first I've heard that not going through labor "holds in" all the hormones. I would do more research on that.

I did have serious baby-blues/postpartum depression with my first child. It only last 5 weeks, but it was so horrible I swore I'd never go through that again. So after I had my second child, I asked my doctor how long she would suggest I give the hormones time to level out before coming in to see her for help. She suggested 2 weeks. To my surprise, I didn't have anything. Not even baby blues. (Although I was upset when my son didn't want anything to do with me for about 3 days.) So just because you had depression with your first, doesn't mean it will happen again. But if it does, I encourage you to get help from your doctor - you won't ever regret being a happy and healthy mom to your children.

I also formula-fed my first child (he couldn't breastfeed) and it is not bad to feed formula. I do believe breastmilk is best, but you have to choose what's right for you and I can assure you that there are many benefits to bottle-feeding - you can always have someone else feed the baby (great when you really need a full-nights sleep), you can go out without your baby, no embarrassing wet-spots on your shirt, when they are older and can hold their own bottle it allows you time to do other things, etc. My second child, who was breastfed, wouldn't take a bottle for months and there were many times I just needed a break and felt like I couldn't leave her because I was her only source of food. Of course, the benefits of breastfeeding (besides nutritional) are that there is no cost, it's always there (if you're there!) and always ready. And remember you can always try to do both if you want. (Breastfeed at home, bottlefeed on the go, nights or daycare.)

When my daughter finally would take a bottle, she would use any formula, and I liked the Good Start because it always mixed well. But my son only used Similac because that's what they started him on at the hospital and he did not deal well with formula changes. So if you decide to formula feed and want to use Good Start, I suggest bringing it to the hospital with you and telling them that's what you want to use (also bring whatever bottles you're planning on using so the baby gets used to them right away). And be sure to sign up at the formula companies website so they'll send free samples and coupons.

It's a hard choice to bottle or breastfeed and no matter what you do, someone out there will judge you for your choice (I know, because I was on the receiving end of that judgement with both of my children) but you should do what you want and feel comfortable with and just try hard to ignore what others say. All that matters in the end is that you provide them with all their basic needs, teach them well and love them unconditionally!

Good luck with your choice and the c-section. I wish you a quick recovery!

I had c-sections with both of my kids and post-partum depression with both. With my first, I labored for 30 hours and then had a c-section. So I am not sure about the increased risk of post-partum from not laboring, I have never heard it before. But I suppose some moms feel guilty for not being able to go the "natural route" and that could probably play a part. I can say that I had Post-partum depression worse the first time around.

I was also told to stop breastfeeding my first because of mt post-partum. I saw that some moms said the opposite, that they think it is better to breastfeed because of the hormones, but like I said, my OB told me that the hormones can actually work against you and post-partum. Not only that, but you have to get up and breastfeed and since you will be lacking sleep, you could come to resent your child. My doctor figured my depression was worse with the breastfeeding and my sister-in-law was told the same thing. I still tried to breastfeed the second time around, but had trouble and once I quit, I felt better. So it might be good for you not to breastfeed if that is your choice. I breastfed both my kids in the beginning and so did my sister-in-law and we both had SERIOUS postpartum that was relieved somewhat once we stopped breastfeeding. My psychologist was actually relieved when I told him I was no longer breastfeeding. And PLEASE do not pay attention to what Jenny B said: "Omg did you seriously just ask if it was better to breastfeed or formula??? Oh my" Because what is best, is what works for you and your child! And sometimes it is better to formula feed. Please, be assured, your baby will get everything he/she needs as long as you are feeding him/her what they need and loving them.

I use Good Start since I am on WIC and that is all they allow you to get in Waukesha County in Wisconsin, but I also like the Parent's Choice brand from Walmart. It is basically the same, only larger and cheaper.

Most important though, listen to your body and if you feel like you are getting Postpartum again, tell your doctor. They will probably talk to you about it a lot in the hospital though, I know they did with me, and perhaps even send you home with something right away. They asked me if I wanted anything or if I just wanted to wait it out.

Good luck and if you need anything, let me know.

It is true that breast feeding is healthier for your baby, but you have to look at the big picture. If you breast feed and the cost is severe postpartum depression, resentment, and stress, then it is not healthier for your baby because it will affect your ability to meet your baby's other needs. I nursed my first two children almost exclusively but it was just too stressful to nurse my third so he was formula fed.

You may not want to rule out breast feeding. Things may be better with this one. However, don't ever beat yourself up or feel less of a mother if you choose not to nurse. Only you know what's best for you and your baby.

I have had 2 c-sections and the statement about not actually going through labor and releasing the hormones is new to me. My Dr's office told me that my body reacted the same way as if I had gone through labor. I also ended up going through a depressive episode while pregnant and started taking meds to help around 24 weeks b/c I was afraid it was only going to get worse postpartum.

As for if it's bad to formula feed, that's a decision that only you can make. I had real issues breastfeeding with my first child (now 2) and had a hard time with not breastfeeding. I felt like people would think I was a terrible person for not breastfeeding. I was really dreading trying to do it again. But, I my first, and getting ready for #2, I felt TERRIBLE for not wanting to breastfeed but on the other hand, I just knew I couldn't do it. It also 'helped' me that my Dr advised me not b/c of the medication they put me on.

I hated the Good Start formula. Yes it is cheaper, but the scoop is 2x's as big as the scoop for any other formula so you go through it twice as fast. Enfamil is my preference b/c is mixes better, but I use several different kinds. I'm lucky that my baby doesn't seem to have any issues with switching. (The Good Start formula was the one that also seemed to give hime the worst gas) Bang for your buck, I like Sam's Clubs Member's Mark formula. It is less than $20.00 for a HUGE can (like 2 of the larger Enfamil/Similac cans). It mixes fairly well, has the same nutrients as the name brand and is sooo much cheaper.

Good Luck
J.

Don't feel bad about bottle feeding! I tried to breastfeed my first child he gave me up at 6 months old! And I actually used Good Start formula and it worked great!!!! I would recommend it to anyone!!! Good luck with everything and congrats with the new addition on Thursday!!!!

Do not feel quilty about having a c-section or feeding your child formula! You have to do what is right for you, your family and your newborn. My 2yr old twins were 6 weeks pre-mature, spent 10 days in NICU, came home on NEOSURE formula(for 12 months) and they are extremely healthy and advanced for their age. I wasn't able to produce any breastmilk, and with twins there was no time to dedicate to pumping. I'm with you; I would have liked to breast feed..but it just wasn't in the cards for me. I also had a c-section, I guess it depends on your pain tolerance; but for me it wasn't bad at all. Not being able to drive for a week hurt more. lol

What helps me the most(even now) was my husband's comment through-out my pregnancy, "GOD wouldn't give you more than you can handle"..Congratulations on your newborn.

Dear GK,
I understand the guilt that comes with the thought of formula feeding instead of breast feeding. There is nothing wrong or bad about formula feeding. I have two daughters, ages 4 and 1, and both were formula fed from birth. The formula gives infants the nutrition they need. My girls are both very healthy, active and intellegent.

Regarding the kind of formula, it is really dependant on your baby. I went through a lot of different brands/types for each of my daughters before finding one that worked well with their system. My oldest started on Enfamil Lipil, switched to Enfamil Soy and then ended up taking Similac Lactose Free. With my younger daughter we also tried Enfamil Lipil and Soy, then Lactose Free, but all seemed to upset her stomach. We ended up feeding her Enfamil Gentlease, which has partially broken-down protiens. Pick a formula but only buy 1 can of it and see how your baby does with it.

Best of luck to you and your family!
-B.

HI!! I am a mom of 5. I have done bottle and breast. You should do what is going to work for you. Breastfeeding would be best for the first few weeks if you can. If you don't it isn't going to matter in the long run. Formula is plenty healthy for your baby. I had some post partum depression with my 3rd baby. I would tell you that you should keep a positive mind and don't worry now. You're attitude will has a big part in all things. If you feel all anxious about it then you will be more likely to feel the blues. Focus on your new baby and other child and keep an upbeat mind frame!! Poitive thinking goes a long way! Good start is a good formula. You could breast feed and formula feed as well. Then you won't have to choose right away. Some baby's don't do well with both until they are a few weeks old. Try to breast feed exclusively as long as you feel you want to.

I haven't had a C-section so I can't help you with that, however I have used formula for both my children. With my son, who was first, I did try to nurse. It was horrible! He was a little early and wasn't quite getting it. He was also Jaundice, probably because he wasn't eating. I was an emotional wreck! The doctor kept pushing me to nurse, but I finally decided it was best for me and my baby if I didn't nurse. It was the best decision I have ever made! Happy Mom equals happy home. He started eating and I was able to calm down and enjoy being a Mom. A lot of people will say formula is bad. It is not Bad! Yes, breast milk is best, but...BUT many healthy, happy, wonderful children have been formula fed. It is Fine to formula feed. The point is to do what is best for you and your baby.

My Mom struggled with Postpartum depression really bad with her first child. She nursed for two weeks and when she finally decided that it was okay to stop nursing and started using formula, she was fine. She used formula with her first three and nursed her last two. Nursing can make postpartum depression worse. If you struggle with this, maybe you should formula feed. Again, do whats best for you! Don't let people (doctors, family, in-laws) talk you into something you don't want to do.

If you decide to formula feed, find a comfortable sports type bra, and take sudafed around the clock.(This will help dry up your milk faster.)

I used Enfamil with Lipils. Enfamil even has formulas for gassy babies and babies who spit up a lot. (I wish I had known this with my first baby.) Which formula you use is really up to you. A doctor can tell you the differences, but I've learned to always do my own research as well, and base my decision on both.

Remember, you are the Mom!
Good Luck! Enjoy the new Baby :)
C.

First of all let me state that I am a nurse and that is where my background comes from. With having a c-section your baby is more prone to having respiratory problems because they don't get to travel through the birth cancal which is usually responsible for "squeezing" the fluid out of the lungs. also, there is a greater risk of infection during the healing process for you because there is an incision that you need to care for. Watch it carefully and report and warmth, yellow drainage, and reddness.

As far as breastfeeding vs formula feeding goes....Why would you formula feed when you are capable of breastfeeding? Breastfeeding is the most healthiest and most natural thing that you can do. It helps your uterus constrict so that your body can return to normal faster. Also is helps you burn calories so that you can lose weight faster. It also provides natural immunities to diseases that formula is unable to provide for your baby. It is Cheaper. It is more convenient uses less bottles. It builds a stronger bond between you and your baby. It can help lessen the post partum depression.

I can not make your decision for you but i hope that some of this information has helped you. Good luck with your labor and delivery!

Oh, one more thing. Check with your hospital about post partum depression. Most hospitals offer classes with information for you to help you cope.

I had PPD with my 1st baby but did NOT have it with my 2nd. Both babies were c-sections. I hadn't heard about not going through labor adding to PPD BUT I was told that not going through labor makes it harder to breast feed because your body won't release the hormones so it sounds like the same thing.

I tried breastfeeding with my first baby & it was a horrible experience for me. My milk didn't come in & I didn't know it so he was always hungry & cried a lot. The 2nd time around, I was prepared. I breastfed the first 2 days in the hospital to give him the colostrum and then I was done! I started formula in the hospital & do not regret the decision at all. I had supportive nurses who didn't try to convince me that I was wrong for using formula. The hospital used Enfamil & we stuck with it. Remember that it isn't good to switch to different brands unless your baby is unable to tolerate the one you are on. We now use Costco brand because it's cheaper & very comparable to Enfamil.

I wish you luck with your c-section & congratulations on your new baby!
T.

I don't have any words of wisdom or reassurance for the post partum depression except that typically it does get worse with each child. All I can say is watch yourself and seek help sooner than later.

As for the question about bottle vs. breast I am a breastfeeding mama, but I love what my ob had to say. When he asked me if I was going to bottle or breast feed he pointed to a picture of his family on the wall (10 children and a "thousand" grandkids) and said not one person in that picture was breastfed and they all turned out okay, so if breastfeeding doesn't work out or if you decide not to breastfeed in the first place, don't feel bad." Even though I felt pretty determined to nurse, it took a huge weight off my shoulders with the "what ifs." So I say do what is best for you because you know that whether your baby has formula or breast milk he will be taken care of.

As far as formula goes, I used to work for a family practice doctor and was talking to the people at WIC. We had a patient that was not doing well on Enfamil (which is what WIC paid for in those days). The consultant there recommended the Good Start because the proteins are broken down and are easier on the baby's tummy...so good choice.

Good luck with your c/s and have fun with your baby.

Oh, one note. You may need to take your own formula to the hospital. Around where I live they only stock Enfamil and Similac. It is not a good idea to keep changing formulas so if I was you I would just start your baby right off with the Good Start.

I had ppd with both my children. My second was by c-section as too. If you haven't already, get on some meds now before your hormone levels start changing. I kept thinking before I delivered my second that things would be fine and ignored the advice by my doc to go on meds in my last trimester. Big mistake. And I did get it worse and quicker then with the natural first time around.

As far as bfing don't feel guilty either way. I formula fed my first breast fed my second. You can do both if you want, that way it will take some pressure off of you if you are having ppd issues. But don't give up on bfing just because of your ppd (if that is the reason). Even if you don't decide in the hospital your milk will be there and you can start even days/weeks later. Never tried Good Start, we were an infamil family. Do what is good for you. Good Luck.

I have not had a csection, but have heard from moms who were depressed and some who where elated over the surgery. Same with formula. i think if you are happy with your choice, it will go a long way to how you handle advice and comments from others.

I will say I was suicidal with my 2nd pp and the breastfeeding was the only thing that kept me alive. (I didn't know how to get help, nor realize it was that bad till looking back) that said, I didn't have a problem with my 3rd pregnancy.

i had 3 weeks of nursing confusion with my first and no problems with my 2nd or 3rd (or 4th or 5th). if you want to use formula, fine. but start out with the breastfeeding and see how it goes. you can always quit nursing and go to the bottle, but it is harder to quit the bottle and take up nursing.

good luck with your surgery!

I can't really give any advice on the poost partum thing... I do know many women who have gone through it, and know that medication was a good short term solution for them. You do not need to be ashamed if it happens! Just be willing to face it.

On the formula vs breatfeeding thing. I have always been an advocate of breastfeeding if you can. That said, I nursed both of my kids for the first 2-3 months, and it was hard! I had a hard time keeping up my supply (vs the demand), it was hard to pump once I went back to work... and to top it all off, even though I took good care of myself while I was pregnant and nursed both babies, one still has TONS of allergies and excema, the other has asthma, an antibiotic allergy, and may be lactose sensitive. Both of them had constant ear infections, and were sick a lot! I still feel like it was good for me to nurse, but I don't know that it made a lick of difference as far as some of the "benefits" of breastfeeding are supposed to offer to baby. The main benefit to me, was that I did lose the baby weight pretty fast.

Since my 7 year old has been born, and even since my 2 year old was a baby, formulas have come a long way! There are many that are great and offer the enzymes that are in mother's milk! I used to be an infant teacher at a chilc care center, and we had families that used all 3 of the major brands. Here are my opinions on all of them: Nestle Good Start (used to be Carnation)- easy to digest, makes REALLY nasty poop! Cheapest of the 3 major brands. Similac - seems to be fine, but stinks when you mix it up. Enfamil - not so stinky, normal poop. Similac and Enfamil are pretty close in price, though Enfamil may be slightly more... I opted for Enfamil, but all of them are fine. With my son, we often used a lactose-reduced version (I can't remember what it was called). If formula feeding is easier for you (and after a c-section, I am guessing it will be), then go for it. I have friends who have recently had babies and a co-worker about to, they talk about all the pressure to nurse. Do what is best for you and baby, and ignore the rest of the advice!

Good luck!! Get ready for a ride once #2 comes along!!!

first of all don't feel bad about bottle feeding vs. breast feeding. i have 3 boys and i formula fed all of them. the only time they ever got sick was when they were teething. they each got an ear infection. my boys have developed well and keep developing as the days go on, just cause they are getting older. I had postpartum depression the worst with my last child. he was c-section as the other 2 were vaginal. just hang in there and if u start developing symptoms of post partum immediately call your dr.

You are going to be okay! Medicating after birth with a good anti depressant has helped me through postpartum depression three times. With my second baby, I didn't wait for the depression to set in, I just started taking meds two weeks after the birth. Talk to your doctor about it. Also, you could check out Marcia Scoville @ All for Women healthcare. She is great at hormone balancing and other things that can help you feel better after birth. She has been a cirtified nurse midwife for about 15 years. She is listed on the buisness section of this site or you can just call ###-###-####

Regarding the formula, I've never been able to produce enough milk (even after doing everything doctors and la leche legue told me to do)so my babies have all had the bulk of their diet met by formula and they are just fine; smart, cute and healthy! Formula is a little harder on their bowels and sometimes they were constipated because of the formula. Water mixed with a little dark karo syrup helps this a bit. I haven't tried the formula you mentioned. Good luck

I am the mother of 6 children I only had one naturally (at home) the other 5 I had c-section. I didn't get any worse postpartum with the c-sections. I have two children with cystic fibrosis. I will give you a personal testimony that there is nothing better for the first 3 months than breast milk your baby gets very special vitamins and nutrients you can not get thru formula. For me to breastfeed all my kids was a challenge. My first was sick for 6 months before he was diagonsed with cystic fibrosis but I stuck to breastfeeding for 6 months. My 4 kids in between I nursed for 12 to 15 months. My 5th baby I had 2 1/2 months early and was in the hopital for 4 weeks I had to pump and slowly teach him to breast feed all the time. After 5 weeks he nursed all the time it was awesome. My last baby my only girl was born with cystic fibrosis and was life flighted to primary childrens and had surgery at 4 days old. I had to pump for 3 weeks before I could even try to nurse but she was feed my breast milk. I only nursed her for 3 months because her calorie intake was so high breast milk dosen't keep up with the demands. I will tell you that I have never a regret for putting up the sacrifce for my kids. My kids are very healthy even my sick kids and I trully believe that breast feeding got them on the right trak. Make sure with the postpartum to take a good multi-vitamin and ask for help when you need it and take 15 minutes a day for yourself it really helps get thru it. M.

I cannot relate to your situation, but I wanted to tell you to try not to feel guilty for formula feeding your child for whatever reason. It is a personal choice (or maybe you don't even have a choice!) and either way it will not affect your child's ability to grow up loved and happy. Good luck and congrats on the new baby!

PLEASE BREAST FEED!!!!!!!! My baby wouldn't breastfeed anymore at 2 months. We spend about $15 a week on formula and that is the generic brand. Plus, your breastmilk will provide your baby with antibodies that formula can't. No one should just CHOOSE to not give their baby an unhealthy start.

Hey there! I can really relate to your uncertainty. I have a 4 month old (my 5th). I had a c-section with her after having four natural births with the other ones. I have experienced more hormone issues. I'm not sure if it's "Postpartum Depression" or just my hormones getting back to normal, especially around my period. I have nursed my first four children, but with my four month old, things have gone differently. We both had thrush 2Xs when she was 2 weeks old. I was in SO much pain. What's worse is my baby was NOT gaining weight. When I took her in at 3 weeks she was almost a pound below her birth weight. I freaked out. I tried to nurse her more, but I was still hurting so bad. I went to a lactation specialist and tried a SNS feeder. i think with having 4 other children I was really kind of neglecting them by focusing SO much on my nursing problems. After going back and forth for THREE MONTHS! I finally decided to exclusively formula feed. I thought I could pump and feed her that way, but that was a little unrealistic. Anyway, long story, but I would save yourself the self-doubt and self-criticism and do what's best for you and your family. Honestly, formula is not as good as breastfeeding, but that doesn't mean that it's bad for your baby! In my case, it was very important that my baby get calories, whether from me or a bottle! I know it can be rough - instead of being embarrassed to nurse in public, I've felt embarrassed that I'm giving my baby a bottle in public:) Oh well, no one who's looking down on me knows my story. About formula type - all formulas are heavily regulated by the FDA - as a result, we've chosen to use the Sam's Club brand. It's WAY cheaper and she seems to do fine on it. You know, sometimes God does things that we can't understand (i.e., for me, a c-section and not nursing) but I've realized he's a lot smarter than me!

I gave birth to my daughter on October 9th, 2007. After laboring for many hours, I had to have an emergency C-Section because my little girl was facing the wrong way and I just couldn't push her out. And she was 16 days late!! After the delivery we were separated for a few days because she had to spend time in neonatal. BUT! We are fine and healthy and happy.
Probably from the stress of the delivery and the morphine, my milk didn't come in quickly enough to meet the demands of my little girl. After battling for a week or so, we decided that I would feed her formula and pump and keep trying. I was devastated. I never thought about feeding my child formula, but it was the best choice for our family... and we are so happy!!
Of course there are pros and cons when it comes to formula feeding, just like anything else.
Like I read in one of my baby books "Stand up for your right to bottle feed your baby!" Congratulations and good luck.
I live in Sweden and we don't have the Good Start formula.

Don't let the mother guilt eat at you. I had c-sections with both my kids and I tried to breast feed with the first child. It just didn't work for me and I was really upset because I wanted to do what was best for my baby. I was so overwhelmed with guilt and wanting to do the right thing I made my self crazy! I finally decided that I couldn't do the breastfeeding thing anymore and went to formula feeding and it was the best thing ever!!! I felt more at peace and I enjoyed feeding my baby instead of getting worked up when feeding time came. You have to do what is best for you too! Hope that helps:)

I have 5 month old twins. One is breastfed the other bottlefed. My son just was not interested in the breast. For me I feel you need to do what is best for both of you. If you don't enjoy breastfeeding then it is not bad to give your child formula. The one thing I have noticed is my son tends to have a lot of ear infections. My daughter who is breastfed has had non. The Doctor said this is common. Don't have so many worries. These are my babies number 4 and 5 and the one thing I have learned is to just have fun. Listen to your body and your babies and you will be fine!

Congratulations on the baby! I have narcolepsy and take medication to keep me alert and to keep me from falling asleep randomly throughout the day. The medication I take passes through the breast milk easily and it is advised not to breast feed while on such medications. It's important to talk to a good lactation specialist who can find out about which drugs are not advised while breastfeeding as any doctor I have asked is not helpful at all. Anyway, I don't know if this is the case as you mentioned postpartum is very difficult for you. I have found that the benefits of me being awake and alert for my family outweigh the benefits of breastfeeding over formula feeding. Formula now a days is sooooooo good. It is much better than it was years ago and what a wonderful option for some who can't breastfeed for one reason or another. I did breastfeed for the first two weeks, which if you can breast feed at the begining at all that is wonderful. The first few days of colostrum is very important for the baby and as much as you can after that. I use good start. We started out with cheep stuff, but it just made her constipated and so we finally tried the expensive formula. Good start keeps her regular. The trick we use because it's more expensive is to switch around within the good start formulas. They make a good start in a purple container that is just the basic. Then they make a good start in an orange container that has dha and ara. Then they make the green which is the one with dha, ara and natural cultures. I think that it's important to have dha and ara so we usually just buy the first two and make bottles using a scoop of regular and a scoop of the one with dha and ara....I'm sure that there are benefits to the natural cultures as well, so if your budget allows you could mix that as well. Just make sure that they are all milk base and that you are not mixing in the soy based one that they make. Anyway if you have any more questions, let me know. I just get excited when someone else is in the same boat as I am. Breastfeeding is wonderful, but sometimes it's not the right choice for some. I read an article on "Why not to feel guilty because you can't breastfeed". If you'd like to read it I can scan it in. Even when you make the decision and know your making the right one, you still feel sad for a while. Anyway, good luck- you'll do great!

As a mother, you are always going to feel guilty and you have to do what you need to do. I have a 4 year old who I nursed until he was 1 and then pumped and supplemented with our twins, who are now 21 months. First of all, I truly believe in the wonderful benefits of breastfeeding and wonder why you have already made the choice to formula feed, besides the depression. I also struggled from post-partum and was put on an anti-depressent with both of my pregnancies. Not fun, but it does pass. I was very tempted to quit nursing our first after the stuggle with him latching on and my depression, but I stuck with it and grew to love the closeness with him. The twins were bottle-fed for the most part, with breastmilk, but I had to supplement to keep up with their demand...ugh.

If you are one that does not enjoy breastfeeding, do what works best for you, but I would ask you to try it before you make any final decisions, or nurse a few times a day and bottle feed the rest. Any breastmilk is better than none. Do what works for you and your baby. Nobody can make the choice for you and you are a wonderful mother no matter what you decide. There are a lot of healthy babies who are formula-fed. :)

Let me know if I can help.

H.
SAHM of 3

if you can i would breastfeed it's the best way to bond with your baby and for you to get to know each other. dont feel bad if you find that you cant because i went through the same thing. good start formula is really good i find it better then enfamil and similac my son drinks the lactose free kind and is doing great! as for the PPD dont feel bad they have new medication out there that takes care of it and it's great. talk to you dr about it he or she will let you know. if you can try to get out as much as you can and try not to be home 24-7 that usually helps the PPD .
again dont feel bad that you can t or dont want to breastfeed formula fed is just as good.
cheer up, hope this works out for you,
E.

I went to a c-section after an hour of pushing when the doctor figured that wasn't going to work. I think I was in shock at that fact because I hadn't planned on a c-section. The first week I had to take the pain meds every four hours (especially when I got home...probably because I was up more). The more you get up and move around the more healing your body will do. The nurses will coach you at the hospital. It is very difficult the first little bit to move your body around, but you'll get stronger and stronger as the weeks go on. Do what you can, but don't push yourself too hard. My little guy was born right around this time that you're baby is going to be here. I really wanted to get out a couple weeks after he was born, so I bundled him up really good and headed out on a walk. I went too far and for too long. I should have just done one little round around the block. I came back exhausted. Remember that you're not only recovering from delivery, but major surgery too.
I also had some postpartum depression. I didn't have a real strong case of it. It may have been more of the baby blues, but it was still difficult to go through. I think you're more prepared to combat it because you did it once before. My husband was so good at always asking me how I was doing and if I was okay...I think you just need to communicate how you're feeling with your husband and loved ones. If you let them know that you're having a hard time, they'll be better at giving you the help you need. I can understand that it might be hard to rest because you have a little one already, but try to get as much rest as you can and eat well. You'll do great!! I hope all goes well for you.
As for the formula...I breastfed and did formula. I had to go back to work for a month or so at the end of my maternity leave, so I wanted to leave as much of my milk for him while I was gone as possible. I breastfed most of the day, but I did one or two bottles of formula a day so that I could pump. My husband would feed him while I pumped. It helped me store up my milk and also got him ready to do a bottle while I was gone. We used Enfamil for the first little bit of his life. However, when we was 6 months he wasn't gaining enough weight (at that point I was only breastfeeding because I was done with work), so I started supplementing with more bottles each day. At that point we just used the Costco brand. We used the Enfamil at the beginning because we thought it would be more sensitive on his stomach since he was so little. Anyway, you'll know what to do that will be best for you and your baby. Sorry to leave a novel for you to read!

Wow, breastfeeding vs. formula controversy. That is a hot topic among many mommies. I'm not going to sway you either way, however I will tell you what I did. I breastfed my first (now 2) for 5 months. I had several problems (yeast infection in my nipples, Reynods Syndrome of the nipples and PPD) that would have made many women quit, but I kept doing it. I intended on breastfeeding my second (4 mo. now) but for some reason he didn't take to it well. It wasn't a latch issue, he just wasn't ever satisfied and would want to feed for 1.5 hrs. then be back at it in a half hour. If that doesn't set a person up for PPD I don't know what would. I tried to work through this by pumping exclusively for 1 mo., but then I had no time for my 2 yr. old. He is now on formula (Parents Choice from Wal-mart). It's a personal decision either way for you and for any woman. Don't let anyone force your opinion either way - as long as you love your child with all of your heart (you will) and they gain weight that is all that matters, not WHAT they eat. As I said earlier, I had PPD with my first and for whatever reason, it wasn't as bad with my second and I didn't even medicate this time. Both times I had my husband on the watch for any signs. With my first, when I quit eating (I love to eat) he knew it was time to see my doc., but he didn't see any major signs the second time except for the normal hormonal baby blues. There is a difference between the baby blues and PPD. Anyway, hopefully you have someone who can be on the watch for your signs. I also earlier said that we use Parents Choice formula from Wal-Mart. I didn't at first with my first child because I thought it was substandard until our pediatrician said to try it (that is what he gave his own children). It's about $10 cheaper than the name brands (even when using the coupons). Good luck - I know that you'll do wonderful no matter what your choices are. (They are CHOICES!)

This is a very touchy subject for most. My first daughter i tried to breastfeed. It didn't work out. I felt that i wasn't feeding her enough and she wouldn't fall into a routine. It seemed like i had to feed her all the time. Anyways i stopped breast feeding after a couple of weeks and switched to bottle. They also suggest that at least do it for a couple of weeks cause the stuff that comes out in the beginning (can't remember the name of it) is really good for the baby. With my other 2 childern I only bottle fed and they are prefectly healthy kids today. Infact my youngest daughter who is 7 falls in the 95th percentile for height and weight. Very tall for her age. My Andyman is a pefect little guy. My suggest like others is do whats best for ur family. Sometimes with depression u do need some help and whats more better then quality time for ur husband and the baby while he feds the baby. GOOD LUCK !! And just stick to what ever u guys pick no matter what others say.

I am going through postpartum depression right now. I did not have it with my previous children, we now have 4. I breastfed all of them. When they started me on prozac, my husband and I felt it safest to stop breastfeed even though the benefits outweighed the risk. Someone told me that breastfeeding can increase some of the hormones that drive the PPD, so stopping the breastfeeding was probably the best thing. I also read that when someone stops breastfeeding that could possibly trigger the PPD. In any case, my best advice to you would be to totally be comfortable with whichever decision you make. If you decide to formula feed, go with that and don't look back. When I would question myself with "what if's", it seemed to drive my depression and anxiety further. Good luck!! Stay positive...maybe you won't get PPD this time!!! Wouldn't that be nice!! :-)

GK,

I have experienced both natural birth, and C-section, the c-section was with my first, they were twins, and I went through all the questions of, Do you want to breastfeed, because if you do we need to start right away (because they were pre-mature) and they didn't want me to lose my milk. One of my nurses was like, i know people who were bottle fed, and they are completely normal, and i was like so are you saying, that somehow they won't be normal if they're bottle fed? That scared me and I felt alot of pressure, and wasn't sure what I wanted to do. I finally decided to try and breast feed but they couldn't suck yet so I had to pump my milk, and they fed them with a tube. I eventually lost my milk, and fed them formula. The thing I noticed mostly with the formula, is that they seemed to be constipated. I have 6 kids, and I have both breastfed and fed them formula. I definately think in order to breast feed you have to be totally committed, because it is harder in many ways, most of my kids I breastfed for the first 3 months, and then moved to formula, but with one of them I breastfed for 11 months, because I had determined before hand that no matter what I was going to do it, even through infections and everything(cause I thought he was going to be my last) I realized that if you can get through the first 4 months, which are the hardest, then it is easy to breast feed, cause they eat food, and it's not all you. It was the first 3 months that were the hardest, and that's when I would always quit, right when it was about to get easier. there are pro's and cons to both. I think if you decide to bottle feed, just try to hold them while you feed them, cause I think it's really mostly about bonding with your baby. I Also had postpartum after every one of my babies, and with my last one it turned into clinical d. I actually did a cleanse that really helped me with that, and because of what it did for me, I would recommend it for you. I'll give you the website,and you can check it out. www.trimup.isagenix.com Good luck with your c-section. -C.

Well, it's always better to breastfeed, but if you have a situation or circumstances that make it so you need to formula feed, your baby will still be okay. Or have you thought about pumping for a couple of months? Then you can combine the easiness of a bottle and breastmilk. Good luck!

With my first, I had a c-section and chose to formula feed. I did not have post partum depression thankfully though. With my c-section, I had some difficulties including needing full anestesia (sp?) so I was very glad that I chose to formula feed, it took the pressure off to allow my husband to feed our son and to help my body get back to normal with out any added stress. I never heard anything negative from anyone about not breastfeeding so that helped as well. We tried most of the formulas out there as my son had reflux issues in the beginning and found that the Good Start formula worked really well and seemed to have fewer air bubbles. Hope this helps.

If you are prone to PPD, you should most definitely breastfeed! Moms who breastfeed are much less likely to suffer PPD. All those good hormones!! Please seek the help of a lactation consultant or someone at La Leche League. You and your baby deserve the best and that is breastfeeding! :)

I assume that because you breastfed your first baby, you already know most of the potontial benefits to you and your baby, but I did want to emphasize that the hormones your body releases while breastfeeding have a significant effect on reducing the magnitude of postpartum depression. Without these hormones, your chances of having depression again are greater and the symptoms could be more severe. I'm curious to know why you thinking of switching to formula feeding?

Hello,

I have 4 kids and I did nurse them all, but number 3 liked formula better and I only nursed him for a short time, and he turned out fine formula now days is fine and you shouldn's feel bad about it, and I think nursing can make you have more problems with emotions and hormones so if struggle with depression I would probably bottle feed too, in the long run you feeling better is what's going to be best for baby,

good luck

K.

This isn't really an answer to your questions, but I feel strongly about it. I've had 2 c-sections and postpartum depression with both. The depression with the second was MUCH worse because I took a progestin pill for birth control in combination with nursing. So please be careful of progestin-only pills if you have had postpartum depression. Progestin is a depressant.

Breastfeeding will help lessen depression ddue to the release of oxytocin. There are many anti-depressants you can take while breastfeeding so don't let that stop you! With a c-section your body will not be able to develop the natural hormones that you need to help deal with not only the physical pain, but emotional as well. Please consider it. Get advice from a lactation consultant or other professional- not other mothers who have chosen to formula feed. No matter what they say, there are studies proving the differences between breastfed and formula fed babies- higher IQ, not even comparable immune benefits, weight issues, not to mention the benefits to you in the long run. If you are feeling guilty, you know you should be breastfeeding. It is our natural instinct. Our society teaches us to go against this and this is why our children have so many problems.

Your doctor is the best person to help you decide a formula brand. Most will want to start with one containing iron. Liquid formulas that are premixed or that are concentrated and need to be mixed with water, are WAY better than the powder form. They don't get all lumpy.
The only bad thing about the liquid ones is that you have to mix them up, and keep them refrigerated...so if you are travelling or something like that, it's not as convenient.

my advise is to breast feed for as long as you can, it will help hormones balance and you can always change to formula when you want... but the baby will have colustrum and you will benifit from the hormone balancing, it will take time to deal with the PPD but you are half way there with the knowledge that you will have it... Kudos to you

I had all three of my babies c-section and didn't have any problem with ppd, so I'm not sure that will effect it. If you are concerned about releasing those hormones, though, breastfeeding is the natural way to go. It is by far better for your baby and better for your body, too. (It especially helps get off those extra baby pounds!) Make the decision that is right for you, but your baby will be better off breastfeeding.

I had a c-section with both my children. One four weeks early and one eight weeks early. Neither child would breastfeed. They got too used to the bottle. I did pump for the first eight weeks. I used Good Start with my first and loved it. They have great coupons if you sign up at the website. I am using Enfiml now. Dr. recommended. I prefer the Good Start.
The hardest part of the Csection is not being with your baby right away. depending on where you are they might let you take the baby to recovery. I did that with my first that helped. It gives your husband a chance to really partcipate in diapering and such.
Good luck! It will all turn out well no matter what you decide. Don't beat yourself up and struggle with the decision. Formula is just fine.

I just have to say that breastfeeding is so good for you and your child. I breast feed my son for 13 months, he is now 18 months old and has never had a sick visit to the doctor, and not one ear infection. I will say that it is a lot of work, but if you could do a combination of breastfeeding and formula it would be better than no breastfeeding at all. Breastfeeding also will help you lower your risk of breast cancer, help you lose the baby weight, and lower the risk of childhood obesity in your child. I have had a couple of friends who have suffered from severe postpartum depression, and if you need to take medication to be okay, I would totally pick that over breastfeeding any day. Your mental health is just as important as your baby's health, after all what he/she really needs is a loving, caring mother. Just to note: children of the mothers that were unable to breastfeed because of their medication may have gotten sick a little more often, but they are still happy, normal, healthy children now.

Hi! I have had two c-sections and postpartum was a little worse the 2nd time around. I did talk to the doctor about antidepressants because your life will be a little more stressful when the second baby comes. Excerise helps with postpartum. I started brestfeeding my 2nd son and found I couldn't keep up. I switch to formula and he did just find. It is ok to admit you are not superwomen. The formula is what my brother used with his baby and his son seems to like it. Just remember that in the end you have to be well enough and strong enough to take care of both of your children. If you you need to formula feed than do it. If you are not healthy and upset, you won't do anyone any good. Just remember to take care of yourself. BTW you may feel some labor even if you are having a c-section just depends if they induce first. Take care, good luck, and GOD BLESS!

Hello --
I just wanted to tell you that my mom had really bad post partum depression with me, but NOTHING with my younger brother. She had natural labors with both. I have heard that having a c-section increases your problems with pp depression and with breastfeeding, too, because you don't have the "normal" birthing hormones in you right away and it takes a lot longer for things to even out. However, I really hope you can try not to stress out over it, since you've probably got enough on your mind right now, lol!
As for formula feeding/breastfeeding, since you've already breastfed a child, you know the pluses and minuses. However, I'd give it a shot at least for the first week. It might go better than you expected since you have some more experience. And if it doesn't, well, then you switch to formula. Or you supplement with formula right from the beginning, but breastfeed as much as you can because it's so good for the babe and for you.
And like someone said, if the baby is breech sometimes they can be turned... if you want to avoid a c-section this might be possible. Good luck!
A.

Hi, I went through postpartum depression with one of my daughters-I have three. Strangely the depression started after I stopped nursing at about 10 mos. I don't know if nursing kept it away for a while. I would suggest nursing because it will keep your estrogen low and estrogen excess tends to cause depression. If it doesn't work out you could go to bottle feeding. Good Luck-either way you will be a great mom I'm sure.

I work on postpartum unit and see this every day. Formula is not bad(it gives the babies what they need.) but breast is better for them, because of the antibodies you have in you. Having a c/s is harder on your body. I personally breastfeed for 5-7 min on each side then give a bottle because I don't get milk until the 4th day. Its just a suggestion but it works, I don't get engorged and its not a stressful thing. I'm not worried that my baby isn't getting enough to eat. Do what you want and let your nurses know what you are going to do so they can help you accomplish it.write back if you have more questions.

Hi G K,
I myself have had two c-sections. With my first, it was an emergency after 23 hours of labor. I had mild PPD that went away after a few months. My second was a planned c-section. It was SO much easier to recover from! But, my PPD was MUCH more severe with him than with my first. My doctor and my therapist both recommended breast feeding to ease the PPD. They said that even though the hormones weren't released during labor, breastfeeding also can release some of those hormones. It also helps to put your body back together. I only breastfed him for three months, and my PPD became more severe when I stopped. It lasted until he was about 18 months old. I feel very strongly that the breastfeeding helped reduce my symptoms. If you need to, speak with a therapist before you go in for your c-section. Start trying to find one whose personality mixes well with yours. Mine literally saved my life, but it took me three tries to find the one that fit me well. I would refer you to her, but she is in Virginia. Good luck! If you need anything, I know what you're going through and I would be happy to just be there to listen. You can email me directly and I will give you my phone number. My personal email is ____@____.com Luck!!!

Sorry to hear that you have to have a C-section although I have had several friends who thought recovery was easier from the C-section in certain ways. I guess I am curious as to why you are choosing to formula feed this baby. Was breast feeding difficult the first time around? Did you enjoy it? Was there a problem? If you are worried about releasing hormones then I think breast feeding would help in that area. As a mother of three children (I nursed them all) I know how difficult breast feeding can be. It takes about 6 to 8 weeks to get used to. My third experience was very painful. But once you get the hang of it, it is really great. I am still nursing my 18 month old at night a little. As a nursing mom, you will need a lot of support and help from your husband and other family members.
Of course, it is a personal decision and nothing is wrong with using formula. I would just encourage you to look at the reasons why you are thinking about using formula and not nursing.
Also, if you are worried about postpartum depression you may want to talk to your doctor about starting some medication before birth.
I wish you all the best.

Breastfeeding is the best source of food for your child. However, I do not think it is wrong to choose bottlefeeding instead. I tried breastfeeding while in the hospital. It is very tough and you have to spend a lot of time at it and get little sleep. If you struggle with postpartum depression, it may be possible that getting more sleep because you are bottle feeding may help you. Babies who formula feed usually go 4 hrs. between feeds. That gives you a full night of sleep broken into two chunks after you are able to figure out how to get baby to sleep. :)

Formula feeding may not eliminate it completely, but breastfeeding every two hours could possibly make you so tired that your depression could be worse than if you had more sleep.

I love to formula feed my child and feel that we bond very well during feeding time as well as play time.

Breast feeding vs. bottle feeding is always a hot topic. I had my son in an area where almost everyone breast feeds and I tried it as well. It didn't work out for me so I bottle fed. We tried several formulas and in the end settled on a cheaper brand called Kirkland. The can it came in had a comparison between what was in Kirkland and two other higher priced name brands. Since pretty much all the ingredients and amounts were similar we felt it was okay to go for the cheaper version. My son also seemed to tolerate this formula better than the more expensive name brand. I'll give you a hint on formula though...the powder kind is the cheapest. The liquid kind (ready made) is the easiest since you just put it straight into the bottle but it is very expensive. I used to keep individual sized liquid formula on hand for trips to the grocery store or doctor's office and use the powder kind the rest of the time.

I didn't read all of the responses you got but I can bet you'll get lots of pressure to try breast feeding. That is your decision. If you feel the bottle is best then go for it. I have many (12) nieces and nephews. Four of them were completely breastfed. Four of them started on the breast but when that wasn't successful they were switched to a bottle. The other four were completely bottlefed. I really couldn't tell you any significant differences between any of them as far as health or connection with their parents. I think you just have to really concentrate on what's going to work for you and your family.

As for the post partum...my oldest sister had it with her first and they were on the look out with her second (she also had a c-section with her second). She was fine with her second. Don't worry too much about it...just be on the look out for it.

My situation is not exactly like yours, but there are a few similarities. I breastfed my first for 8 months and loved it, so I was looking forward to it the second time around. A couple days after my youngest turned 3 months old, his father and I came down with viral meningitis which lasted about 11 weeks. I was so sick I had to quit breastfeeding. He responded beautifully with the formula, and is just as healthy. We started him on the Good Start, which we also used for our oldest the last few months. But at Christmas we were given 5 cans of Enfamil Lipil, so we switched and actually like it more because it dissolves better and more quickly than the Good Start did.
I am glad we had the first 3 months of breastfeeding for a healthy jump start and bonding time. Maybe you could do both too, may help the hormones also.
I, too, experienced terrible post partum with my first. So I was extremely nervous about the second, but I was better equipped. I made sure I had help, took extra time for myself, took care of 2 months of financial things before baby and I didn't seem to experience it as badly. I still had the blues but they didn't last as long and I recognized what was happening and took that time for myself or made my husband spend some extra time with me. I'll be praying for you!

Dear GK,
It is probably too late to discuss your reasons for a C-Section, but please reconsider the breastfeeding versus the bottle. Consult with a Lactation Consultant regarding your choice. Nursing has so many advantages. Each child is different and while it can be demanding, it also has benefits for you and baby.

While you had postpartum depression with your first, it doesn't automatically predispose you to depression with your second. Consider consulting with a skilled herbally oriented Midwife. Herbs are not always the answer, but there may some natural ways to turn the depression around. If you have serious depression, then of course seek Medical help. I have a daughter-in-law that has postpartum depression after her deliveries, but from what I see, her poor diet is the main contributor to her highs and lows. Try and evaluate your diet and see where you can make improvements.

What I have used and has worked for me is Nutritional yeast(Brewers Yeast). It is high in B vitamins and helped me so much after my deliveries. It was a balancer for my emotions. You can buy it at any Health Food store, but even easier is buying a high quality B-Complex and take it daily, as directed, regardless if you think at the time that you need it or not. There are other herbs that help with the hormonal transition as well. I take the Polly Block formula my last 5 weeks of pregnancy and postpartum, it has helped greatly. My health and stress after delivery has improved over time with better nutrition and with Polly Block's herbs.

Also look at your attitude about your body and nutrition (and nursing). Many women want to lose weight right after delivery and they need to wait and eat well, exercise when appropriate and let the excess (if there is any) come off gradually. The stress we put ourselves through can greatly contribute to postpartum depression. Remember that when we self criticize, we bring ourselves into a state of constant demeaning. Realize that being a mother is very challenging and it's ok to just do your best and love your babies AND Take Care of yourself in the process!
God Bless,
H. B MOM- Mother of Many (9)

I honestly would not worry about the depression thing this time around until it actually happens cause it very well may not. I had a situation very similar to yours. My first child was born naturally and I had post partum after her. My second child was born by c-section and I had no post partum depression. I am not saying you won't, but I didn't and I had the c-section with my second one. Also, with my first child, I only breastfed her for two weeks and had to give her formuala. She turned out just fine. There are many strong opinions about this subject, but I think you should do what you want and stick to it and not let others make you feel bad cause you will have enough to deal with as it is!!

G K,

I am a breast feeding mom, However I am open minded enough not to judge another family who is making the best possible decision for the whole family and not just one member. Having said that.

There is nothing wrong with feeding formula to your child. They grow and thrive just like the breast fed babies with maybe some small differences.

Having a c-section is going to be hard on your body, don't feel about about everything else.

I am assuming that you have had the baby by now, are you having trouble with the postpartum depression? I hope all is going well. And that you are feeling better about your decisions.

Good luck!

As far as breastfeeding goes...don't beat yourself up if you choose to formula feed. Yes breastfeeding is great for many reasons but formula provides your baby with all the needed nutrients as well! I breastfed both of my daughters and I never thought it was something I could do but it worked out great for both girls. I also used formula from 6 weeks on.
When I wasn't home or out in public I used formula. Both are healthy and happy. My biggest advice is to give it a try so that you won't have any regrets. If it is too difficult for you and causing too much stress, stop! I would give it at least a full 2 weeks before quitting because it takes at least that long to adjust. You may be surprised and it might work out well!

As far as brands of formula go, we used Good Start with DHA/ARA. It was nice and gentle on the tummy and didn't cause too much spitting up. We didn't have luck with Similac!

Good luck!

Hi. I had PDD with my first child also. the second time around was not as bad this is why in my opinion. first i planned ahead to have all the help and support i though i would need: folks to help with meals the first weeks, people to watch the baby when i need a little break. and finally i breast fed my second for the first 5 mos. i think this helped because i did not have to actually get up to feed her at night wich gave me more sleep wich helped me to cope wich ultimatley helped my mood. sleep deprivation does nasty things to us moms. so maybe get a co-sleeper bed, and think about nursing at first. breast fed babies are usually less fussy less gassy and more content. this too will help you cope. when you little one is a little older maybe then you can think of switching if you still want too. i know breast feeding can be stressful for the first bit and it can hurt quite a bit too. but if you gather good support ofr thistoo in advance i bet you can do it. that is the key to cope with PDD i think sleep,and alots of support. don't think about how bad it might be, just make a plan so if things start to go south you know what to do. oh and now that i am doing formula, i use enfamil lactose free and breast flow bottles and my little girl is doing well best of luck to you also if you want an e-mail buddy as you move through the next weeks and months i would be happy to be your on-line support. I have two kids of my own and have been doing child care for infants and toddlers for almost 10 years ____@____.com

I've been able to breastfeed all of my children and so haven't used any formulas. For me, it was the best decision. I also teach nutrition classes and want to reinforce that formula feeding is NOT BAD. Babies grow well, and are healthy and safe with forumla. You may miss out on a few bennefits (immune system boosters mostly) but breastfeeding can be more stressful than formula feeding and if you may be battling PPD you don't need extra stress.
I don't have specific advice on formulas other than to say, don't buy too much of anything to start with. Occassionally individiual babies will be sensitive to one or another formula. What you've chosen will probably be fine, but keep your mind open about changing in case it's not a good fit. I expect your health care provider (midwife, dr, PA, or nurse) might be able to give you better direction.

Good luck with everything! I hope the c-section and it's recovery are exceedingly smooth and that the depresession you suffered the first time does not return again.

L.

HI GK
$0.02 Congratulations on your new baby. Kudos to you for trying to research your options!
I breastfed all my babies....until they were 3-5 years old.
You might want to consider breastfeeding as you will be kicking out some of those hormones for a positive outlook. If you are already predisposed to postpartum depression, the breastfeeding may help significantly.
I would ask WHY you are considering formula. Is it for convenience issues, like going back to work, or personal reasons, had the breastfeeding been too taxing on you, etc.
If your Dr. is going to put you on drugs for depression, I guess formula would probably be better, you'd have to ask.
Overall, though, breast worked really well for me. I know there is significant pressure out there to use formula....the formula companies even mailed me more coupons, asking WHY I HADN"T used the initial ones from the hospital. So THEY DO KEEP tract....which is scarey in one way....big brother watching over you...et...not necessarily for YOUR health, but for THEIR pocketbook. something to consider. Best Wishes....Mikkey

HI GK, I went through both labor and c-sections. My daughter was planned to be natural birth but we ended up with C-section. I didn't have any post partum with her, but I did with my son 3 years later with a planned c-section. I breast fed both but was unable to go past 6 months with my son due to medical issues.

You didn't give any background as to why you don't want to nurse this one, so I don't have a really good answer for you, only genaric. Of course it is best to breastfeed. If you're feeling that it will be overwhelming because it's your second and you'd have a 'free'er' hand with bottle feeding...sit back and relax. You'd be surprised how your first will kick in during nursing time. It's natural for them and you, so don't worry about that aspect.

If you are choosing to bottle feed due to a medical issue, don't sweat it. Yes, your baby will catch more colds and have a couple more issue's, but they're not going to 'suffer'. I say this even as a strong breastfeeding advocate. I believe every mother needs to nurse for at least the first couple weeks while the baby gets the most important ... colostrum.

I wish I could help you a little bit more. And in saying this... relax. Your baby is coming, you're going to do great whatever road you choose. If you worry and worry about PPD it's sure to come on because you'll be talking yourself into it. If it's something you can't get off your mind, create a support system. Ask your friends to visit you often, ask your family to come over so you can shower once a day. Even though it's cold... go stand outside for some fresh air (even if just for 2 mintures a day). Don't be afraid to take baby for outings this early either. If they're ready to come home, they're okay to go to grandma's or a quick trip to the store (just keep fingers away). Relax and enjoy your experience. I hope your recovery goes well!!!! Please let us all know how you do.

Hiya. I had my baby 6 months ago by emergency C-section. Post Op was painful. The best advice I can give is be gentle on yourself - expectation wise, physically and emotionally. Try to get as much help in the month following delivery to allow your body to recover from the operation and especially from the pregnancy. Take your pain killers as this will ease the pain and allow you to be more positive - you can ask your Dr for painkillers that won't seep into breastmilk. If you can avail youself of help, don't attempt to be supermom :) until after the first month after delivery. I did get the baby blues but I don't think they were more severe than the usual - focusing on all the blessings in my life and telling myself that the blues were part and parcel of having a baby helped to lessen their effect. Getting lots of rest and support was also helpful in dispeling the blues. I managed to breast feed but not totally and we had to top up the feeds with formula. I wouldn't worry too much about not being able to breastfeed (totally). Many babies are given formula and they turn out just fine. Our baby's supplemental feed was Similac. All the best to ya!

Hi G K,
I am the mother of five children and have breast fed all of them as much as possible, two of my children where bottle fed after about 5 months of age because of problems with my milk supply. I will tell you of the two children that were not breast fed as long they seem to get ill more frequently. I would encourage you to breast feed as long as you can, research shows that it is the best choice for your baby's health and also has many health benefits for you as well. I would be cautious about using a soy based formula as soy is very high in phytoestrogens which can cause imbalances in your baby's hormones. For more info on the subject you may want to look at this web site for health articles and info.(www.mercola.com) Good luck and God Bless

I have never had a c-section, but I have had post partum depression. With my second child, my doctor actually put me on anti-depressants about 3 months before she was born. They helped a lot. Also, if you are worried about depression, I would try to breast feed for a little while. That will help. It will also help your body go back to normal faster, which takes longer and is more difficult (so I'v heard, anyway) after a c-section. There's nothing wrong with bottle feeding, and if that's your choice, don't let anyone make you feel bad about it. But I would give it a try for at least 6 weeks. That's what I did with my son. I was able to breast feed him for a few weeks, then we went to formula and he is a very happy, very intelligent, very healthy boy. My daughter I was able to breast feed for 8 months and it was such a great experience. I realize it is more difficult to breast feed after a c-section. You can also pump and bottle feed for a while, that would be easier for you and beneficial to your baby. But remember, it's your decision and your baby will turn out just fine either way. I like to encourage other moms to breast feed because I found it such a wonderful experience once I gave it a chance. I didn't really give it much of a chance with my first born. But don't beat yourself up if you choose not to. It's ok! Lots of babies have been raised on formula. (My husband was actually raised on goat's milk!!) So I wish you luck and I hope your delivery goes well and that your baby brings you lots of joy! If you ever want to talk about depression, send me a message. I've been there before and I'm a good listener. :)

I also had a 2nd c-section, and although it is difficult to breast feed after a c-section, please try your hardest to breast feed your baby. I believe that in the long run it will help you bond with your baby and also it will help you with the post-partum depression. Best wishes and congrats on your new baby.

1st What is the reason for the c-section? If it's for breech what have you tried to turn baby? (My 12lb newborn moved from frank breech to vertex at 39wk 10days before labor started) www.ican-online.net

Is there anyway to wait for labor? This will give you the much needed hormones and insure baby is actually ready to be born.

Breastfeeding after a c-section can help stave off Post Partum Depression and promote bonding because you have to be close to and hold the baby. And breastfeeding releases oxytocin which serves a dual purpose, it will help to shrink your uterus down to size, and it is a "feel good" hormone.

i breastfed my daughter for 10 months, and my son for 1 year; however, when he was born i had problems starting and actually quit for 3 weeks - during which my hormones were going crazy and the only thing i can relate it to is postpartum. i contacted a lactation consultant and was able to nurse again for the remainder of his first year. during the 3 weeks that i bottle fed i felt very disconected from my son, as though i wasn't good enough, i couldn't do it, i felt like a failure. i think those feelings were the postpartum hormones talking. i know this is NOT the case for everybody as there's alot of people who choose to not breastfeed, or can't and never think twice about it. for me going back to breastfeeding was what helped me emotionally. i don't know why i felt like i had failed, because i know he would've been ok on formula. Breastmilk is best, but i understand that sometimes its not possible! you really do just have to make the best choice for YOU and your baby! with the breastfeeding, it can actually be easier, i think, as hubby can get up, bring you the baby, and you can sleep through a feeding if you need to, with hubby supervising. but again, you have to make your own choice!

I've had 6 children. The first 3 by C-section; the last 3 vaginal at home. I breastfed all 6 of mine, although the first two I had to switch to formula before I was ready to wean. I felt abandoned, myself, and felt that I had sort of "walked away" from what was right and good for them, myself. I decided that I could bond with them - no matter how they were fed. Time spent is far more essential than HOW that time is spent. I vowed to not prop a bottle up and do what I needed to do, but rather - sit with them, holding them and making all those eye contacts and facial expressions that so build relationship. Looking back, I don't feel like I lost anything. A friend once told me, "...enjoy the time while you have it - it passes all too quickly." So true! As far as postpardum. I only experienced that with one of mine - my second c-section. Somehow I pushed passed it all - kept my focus through it - talked a lot and got good advice - and, survived! *smiles* The best to you, as you bring this child into this world (by c-sec. or not - you're working to get this baby here) - and, as you bond with him/her.

Hi, I don't know about the postpartum depression issue but wanted to respond regarding breast feeding. The best nutrition that you can give your baby is breast milk and it's free! There are so many positive advantages to breastfeeding that even if you only do it for six months, you will be giving your child a much better start in life. It's not that formula is "bad" but breast milk is so much better.
Whatever you decide, I am sure you are a great, caring mom and wish you the best.

GK,

I am the mother of 2 boys now 6 and 8. I had a C-section with my first and then vaginal with my second child. Both deliveries went well, but I perferred the later. I did not have postpartum depression so I hesitate to give advice there.

I am a big fan of breastfeeding. It sounds like you breastfed your first child so I am curious what has changed your mind this time. It is more work in some respects, but honestly for myself there was nothing more rewarding than knowing that I was given my child the very best nutrition. And when they are that age, they don't have a lot of complicated needs, so why not focus on making their nutrition a priority. It has been more than 6 years since I stopped nursing and I still look back and have fond memories of those days and I would do it all over again without question.

Good luck and congratulations!

NP

Dont feel bad about formula feeding, advances in formula have come a long way and there is nothing wrong with it.
I breastfed/formula fed my son (he stopped nursing at 5mths) and he was on the GS w/natural cultures and did really well on it. *knock on wood* he hasnt been sick once.
Sorry I dont know anything about c-sections though or the release of the hormones, but I do with you luck with the delivery!

K.
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Ultimately, of course, you need to make the decision about which method of feeding works best for you. (BTW, I bottle fed my first after breastfeeding "failure"--a long story-- & breastfed my other 3.) However, since you are worried about PPD & admit that you are vascillating about whether to bottle or breastfeed, & even feeling guilty already at the thought of bottlefeeding, then I assume that your reasons for not breastfeeding are pretty serious. Otherwise, why would you decide to bottlefeed even though you feel guilty about it, & run the risk of increasing your depression level?
Even though I felt I had no other option at the time, I felt INCREDIBLY guilty about not breastfeeding my 1st. I still do, because she had difficulty with the formula (projectile vomiting with some brands, & constipation with those that weren't low iron) was catergorized as overweight for most of her baby & toddler years, & was sick SO MUCH MORE than her siblings. In her 1st 18 months, she had ear infections for 6 months straight & then intermittently even after getting tubes put in at 8 months of age, RSV, repeated bronchitis & pneumonia, & roseolla (with an associated febrile seizure. I can't believe that just differences in people could account for all that, when her 3 siblings (who were exclusively breastmilk fed--they did take breastmilk from the bottle when I was at work-- for 6-12 months) were hardly ever sick. I'll always wonder if she could have been spared some of that grief & pain if I had been able to breastfeed her, thus increasing her immunity.
In short, I just want to encourage you to consider all of your options carefully, as I'm sure you will.
Finally, in regards to the PPD, I sincerely hope that you find this time to be different & so much better. God bless.

I can understand your fear of suffering from post-partum depression! You should be assured that just being aware of the problem is the first step, and will allow you to do all the things you know could help you if and when you start to feel badly. Be pro-active! Be sure you take care of yourself, and reach out to those around you who know and love you! I breastfed my two girls who are now 4 and 6, and I'm a BIG advocate. Remember, our breast milk is tailor-made for our own infants. Formulas are well-made nowdays and babies do thrive on them, but nothing can replicate breastmilk exactly, and no formula can give your baby immunity to disease like you can! And it sure is a lot easier to stick them on the boob right away than it is to plan ahead for a bottle! Also, don't overlook that boob-juice is FREE. If you don't have a good reason not to breastfeed (and some moms do) then I think you should give it a shot. Whatever you decide, take it easy, and enjoy your sweet newborn.

HI I had 4 kids 1 was natural and the other 3 was c- section why does someone have postpartum. Given birth is the best thing ever just think of it as winning the lottery. The fomula you have chosen is a good one or goats milk my boys drank goats milk and that works great. Why is that because that way if they had a reaction to the formula, the goats milk made their tummys feel better. So good luck.

I'm afoster mom so all my babies are formula fed, goodsart has been highly recommeded to me by other foster moms to me and I have used it with great success, even with my now 3 month old granddaughter who preferred it to her mothers breast milk. Regarding depression, get help right away, keep talking to us, get some fresh air and sunshine, mall walking pushing your beautiful new baby around, count your blessings in a journal everyday, rest whenever your children are resting, take your vitamins, kiss and hug your mate at least twice a day. remember quilt and anger are wasted energy and stress your body's and minds health

As far as breastfeeding goes, I tried with my first child and it didn't work very well. I almost had my mind made up with my second that I wasn't going to go through the hassle but then when I tried it, it was a lot easier with the second one. I actually enjoyed it. I did it for almost 4 months. I would say give it a shot..if it works,it works, if it doesn't that is fine too.
P.S. There is no right way to feel after you have a baby. Just stay healthy and get rest and that's all you can do.