Follow up from Sam I Am's question...meddling

I dont know the "right" answer, but I told my daughter, you dont have to like everyone, but you HAVE to respect everyone, even if they have no manners. :)
No calling names back, etc. I told her to ignore kids like that, and if its really bothering her, Mommy will take care of it. :)

Shes only 6, so I still feel like I have to stick up for her, I dont care what anyone thinks. Luckily most moms were on board with Sam I Am, because I would have done the same thing.
Unfortunately this is a fact of life, and its going to happen to everyone, even the "mean girls". But when its to the point where its really bothering my child, Im going to "meddle" for as long as Im allowed. :)

LOVE MY KIDS!!! ROAR!!!

We go over definitions of what these names are. If he says someone called him a baby, I ask my 5 yo what a baby really is. He tells me "someone small who wears diapers and drinks a bottle". I ask him if he wears diapers and drinks from a bottle. He says no. So, we conclude together that he isn't a baby and whoever calls him that isn't all that smart.

Same thing w/being called stupid. I told my son a stupid person doesn't know anything. Then I asked him to tell me 5 things about a tree, and he tells me. So, we conclude he isn't stupid b/c he knows things and whoever calls him that isn't all that smart.

I'm never nominated for mother of the year... I'm with Jo W.

Kids need to learn to be tough (to an extent). Eat or be eaten.

Instead, as your child WHY it bothers them to be called a baby. Then ask them if they are a baby, or if they think they're a baby. When they reply that they're not, tell them that you and they both know that, so why does it matter if someone else says it? It's not true, and that makes the other kid a liar.

Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never hurt me...

I'm rubber, you're glue, whatever you say bounces off me and sticks to you...

LOL ;)

I just tell my daughter to respond,"Hey, that's not nice!" She uses this when the comment is directed to her or to another. I think that it is better than slinking off with no response, and that it also teaches her to stick up for others. Hopefully others will catch on and help do the same. It also does not "name call" to the offender, but kind of quietly labels his actions as "not nice."

I tell my four year old to tell the kid it's not nice and then to ignore them. When I got older (around 3rd grade or so), the best way to disarm a name caller was to say Thank you for the compliment. Got any more? I did this with a big smile on my face and most of them moved on after a couple of times of me doing that. One day I had a really persistent girl who kept on for about 10 minutes getting madder and madder because I wasn't getting upset. She ended up crying and ran off to tell the teacher that I was being mean to her! Once I told my teacher what I had been saying, she covered her mouth to hide that she was laughing and sent me back off to the playground. :)

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I have always told my son that if he is ever getting picked on, talked to in a rude way or physically touched to "speak up"!
You can advise your child to say "Stop calling me that!", "I don't like it when you keep touching me.", "I want you to STOP. NOW." etc.
By teaching them to use "I" statements you are empowering them to stand up to bullies and behaviors they might otherwise feel they cannot control.
Of course, for more serious situations, my son knows to tell the adult in charge.
We've had issues with kids "touching" my son (he hates that!) Not in a nasty or hurtful way, but you know how some kids just HAVE to have their hands on other kids? Teaching him how to express his dislike has gone a long way to him getting the desired behavior and the other kid getting hurt feelings.
My son knows to use the positive, positive, negative trick: "Bob, you're a nice kid and I really like you a lot, but please stop xyz because I really don't like it when you do that." Works pretty well!

I tell my kids that you know when someone is being hurtful or disrespectful ignore them & move on there is no need to make a friend who has that kind of behavior at school it will only get you into trouble & if you end up in that principals office you will have to speak up for yourself tell the truth & then deal with me when you get home LOL

Thanks for the follow up question... It was nice to read the other suggestions!