S.A.
Bless your heart! My son also started his very first day of school recently and I was so sad. I felt like I was giving my son to the world and he would no longer be mine. I know what it is like to worry that others will not see how special your child is, and know that they are a wonderful child even when they do something wrong. The way you handled the situation with your daughter was perfect. This a new experience for her even if she has been in daycare before, she needs time to adjust. I am sure that your daughter didn't turn into a mean bully wanting to hurt other children just because she started school. After some time she will become adjusted and learn the new rules of school. I think the real issue here is how hard it is to send your child away knowing that the people at school don't have a relationship with your child, so thru one bad act they might classify your child as a "problem child". Just keep a constant discussion going with the teacher and your daughter, as you already seem to be doing. At the school that my son attends I am not even allowed inside the school without an appointment, so I have not had the oppurtunity to talk to his teacher and find out how he is adjusting. So you are lucky that you have open communication. Hang in there!