C.S.
Here is my disclaimer - I am a financial planner. I am also Series 7 and 66 licensed (I can sell stocks, bonds, mutual funds, and managed accounts, REITS, etc.). It sounds like what you need to do is to take a look at your assets and debts (which you seem to have done) and then have some discussions with your husband about how you want to see your life in 20, 30, 50 years.. What do you each want out of retirement and what is important to you? In holistic financial planning, you should also consider risk management - life insurance and other types of insurance.
The first thing I would do is to take a look at your current insurance and see if it meets your needs. I am not a huge proponent of making my spouse a multi-millionaire if I should die early but I do want to be sure that he has enough to hande taking care of a 6 and 1 year old on his own - including a nany if he needs to work nights/weekends, etc. As he is actually our primary breadwinner, I've had him increase his insurance so that I wouldn't have to fire sale any of our assets if he should unexpectedly die early.
You do need a concrete plan and you need to stick to it if you want to have a very comfortable lifestyle in retirement. You mentioned "college fund" - you need to decide just how much you want to help your child (ren).
I usually recommend taking advantage of whatever retirement plans you have available to you - the highest match possible if either of you has a matching 401K or 403B. If you are not working outside the house, fully fund an IRA annually. You need to save for your retirement also - whether you work outside the house or not....IRA contributions for non-working spouses are fully tax deductible.
After you have your rainy day fund and your retirement plan funded, then you can consider either general savings or a specific college fund. Your state has income tax so there may be state income tax savings to working through a 529 plan if you have more than one child. I try to remind my clients that you can always borrow for college but there are no loans for retirement!
A true financial planner will charge you an hourly rate to create a plan. You need to decide if you want a book, spreadsheets, a computer program, etc as the outcome of your plan. If you meet with an investment advisor, then you are normally not charged for your consultation as the advisor will end up investing your money for you and be paid a commission. This may be beneficial but beware that at a bank, the person is paid to sell the banks' products and has an incentive to sell items that may not be suitable for you. A financial planner either does not sell product or is usually independent so they have no quota or obligation to sell anything that is not suitable.
Feel free to contact me if you have other specific questions - oh, saving for a kitchen remodel - either a savings account or a CD...depending upon when you plan to do it.
Cheers, C.