Feeling Unappreciated? - Omaha,NE

I saw a pic on FB the other day that said "nobody knows what I do until I stop doing it."

I can relate . . .

I have felt this way at work and at home. I found that I had to do something for myself that would help me to feel appreciated. I have taught Bible Study at my church for the children, I volunteer for a non-profit in spare time, I help with my son's school parties and I started my own business. (not all at the same time!) Human nature is to only think about ourselves, so I have found ways to make myself feel appreciated. Celebrate the little wins! Remember that we can not control what other people say or do but we can control what we do and what we think. Good luck!

I do-my husband almost never comes into the office now-we are separated-he only yells at me and no one else-no matter how egregious their mistakes or how much it costs the company-one employee-his brother has lost the company over 9K in 17 months, the office girl is so cavalier, when she makes a mistake-she doesn't even apologize or attempt to fix it, her 6 yr old gets off the bus at the office, after school-it is bedlam at that point-she is one of the most ill-behaved children I have ever been around. One other-another brother is very good at what he does-yet is habitually late-to clients' businesses, the young kid doesn't generate enough income or bill enough time to even justify having him there-it's hell! Thanks for listening!

always... fact is you work with and under others that feel just as unappreciated as you. As long as the owners of the company is making the green, its ok to be mean... LOL

I feel WAY underappreciated, but not by the people I work with, the people I work FOR.

I work for the state and I love my job and the clients I work for. I truly believe in my public service. No one's gotten a raise in years, but my taxes and cost-of-living expenses go up just like everyone else. But its frustrating to hear politicians complain about how state workers are a drain to the system. In Minn., politicians shut down the whole state govt. No paychecks for a month (and my hubby's been unemployed since 2007)! Everyone I work with puts in extra hours for the state all the time; we are also active citizens at home--many of us volunteer on boards and community groups.

I know that my work benefits my state...like Angela said, "no one appreciates what we do until we stop doing it!"

TO YOUR QUESTION: Internally, when I feel under-appreciated at home or among my co-workers, I try to adopt an attitude of appreciation to others. Leaving thank you notes; publicly thanking someone for their work or dedication at a meeting, bringing cookies with a thank you card in the break room. Those little things go a long way, make you a more pleasant person to work with, and attract appreciation in return.

Now if I could figure out a way to send cookies to our politicians.... :)

I feel unappreciated and underutilized as well. Recently I've gotten sick of it and I've started looking for a new job--had an interview last week, actually. Not the ideal situation given the current economy, but I just can't take it any more! And coupled with the fact that the two people in positions right above me can never agree on anything, but I need to be able to please both of them--well, it's impossible :( And I believe in cutting my losses and moving on.

I work for the state and with the current budget issues, we haven't had raises or even COLAs in over five years. In fact my husband, who also works for the state, was furloughed two days a month for part of last year.

I definitely felt unappreciated at work much of the time. I'm a retired police officer, a woman in a man's field. I learned that I had to learn to appreciate myself. I did this in part by praising myself for work well done. A gratitude journal might help. I didn't try that when I was working. It helps me now.

I also consciously chose to spend time with upbeat, positive people both at work and off work.

never look for a pat on the back from work-really-if your doing your job to the best of your abilities-never late,never slacking,always smiling-always being polite n helpful to coworkers-TAKE GREAT PRIDE IN THAT N PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK!!!!

if their not jumping down your throat,always critizing,always pointing out mistakes,treating you decently,PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK,FOR A JOB WELL DONE!!!...yes its as simple as that.and be grateful you have a paying job,there are so many that dont.... ;)

Ohboyohboyohboy!! When I was working, I totally felt under-appreciated. You are certainly not alone. Did you just start feeling this way or do you think the feelings amassed over time? Is it your boss? Co-workers?

Once you figure that out, find out ways to cheer yourself on like rewarding yourself after a big project.

I was in an industry that was notorious for under appreciation so I learned to rely on myself (the hard way) to feel good about it.

This may sound like a strange question but when was the last time you got a real raise?

My office used to get pretty good regular raises but now people won't pay their bills, most can, they just won't, so we haven't had a raise in a few years. Pretty much everyone feels like you. It has hit the point where words aren't making people feel good, they want money and some silly purchase with said money to feel better.

In economic terms we are reaching the point where we can no longer continue the level of productivity we reached trying to hold onto our jobs during the downturn.