About a year ago, I made a profile on a popular dating site. After my subscription was up, feeling frustrated and annoyed with the process, I "hid" my profile & forgot about it.
Recently, I started checking the matches sent to me via email telling myself if anyone of interest came up, maybe I'd renew.
Well, today, I was matched with one of my best friends. I knew it was him without even looking at the picture, strictly from the byline. At first, it made me laugh out loud and now, a few hours later, I am completely unsettled about this.
I am not sure how to best approach this... do I make light of it, pretend I didn't see it, bring it up?? I don't plan on acting on the computer's match, risking a friendship isn't worth it. I just want to feel comfortable. He is not the type to bring it up.
And, really, I am not in high school, though that is how this feels!!
Today I spent some time updating my profile on the dating site.
I'll message him something "light" on there, because I am the type of person to do that.
Oh, and I have a crush on him for pretty much the whole time I've known him, just never the right time...
Thanks everyone, your comments made me smile & gave me confidence, I will update you if anything transpires!! :)
IF you do bring it up, the resulting conversation could make things much more awkward. Or, it could just be really funny to both of you. But really, bringing up probably won't accomplish much. I don't see why it has to be brought up, if you don't want to.
Well damn, this could be a very interesting story. I mean, very sweet love story where the right thing is right under everyone's nose kinda thing.
Sigh, I secretly wish you WOULD pursue it and post about it so I could live precariously through yet another stranger!
:)
If it makes you a little unsettled, you may have some underlining feelings you thought weren't there to begin with. I think this is how a lot of relationships start out. Sometimes a friend is more then you think they are. Out of all of the matches you could have been set up with on the computer, it found your friend to be a compatable match. It's interesting to say the least. I would just think about all of this, and see where you feel then. If you think-"I don't think of him that way" that's one thing, but if their is a slight possibility there could be more-bring it up!
Why ignore it? If your friends now, who knows he could be more later...id causally mention it and see what happens...YOU HAVE to update us ;- )
The timing is right, and its right now sista! Get busy and get a move on it...the computer matched you up, the chemistry is there...go for it!
I would bring it up. What do you mean it's not worth risking a friendship? What if it lead to more than a friendship? He is a friend, and apparently a good friend. Why not more? It's not your cousin, he's your friend. It's not your ex's best friend. You're friends for a reason. Maybe he would like more? I have never been on a dating website, but doesn't he know that he was matched to you? Say something and see what he says. You are both on the site for a reason. Why not??? I really don't see it ending a friendship just because you bring it up but it might just end a friendship if you ignore it. You already know that he is not the type to bring it up, so he must know that you're the type that would/should say something. I say Go For It! Best Friends make the Best Husbands!
Thats funny....just mention it
If you have no intention of doing anything with it, why bring it up. Just drop it and move on. Sounds like that is what he would do too.
Also, are you sure that if you are matched with him on your side does it automatically match on his side too. I know a lot of those sites match you but they do not alert the same people on both sides. He may be none-the-wiser anyways.
I think my answer would kind of depend...
Do you have romantic/let's take a roll in the hay type feelings for him? ;-)
I would just ignore it!
Oh WAIT though, you said you have a little crush on him? Just bring it up casually, "Hey, isn't it kind of cute that our profiles were matched together?"
I married my best friend, I totally recommend it. We will have been a couple for 22 yrs this Thanksgiving.
Go for it.
My husband and I were friends first. The computer thought you were compatible, because you are :)
I don't think I would ever be able to keep that to myself. I would have to mention it and laugh about it. Sometimes you just end up with really wierd matches though, My husband tried a dating site a few years before he met me and it paired him with his cousin. Needless to say, he never used a dating site again.
