So I just found out I'm pregnant... like 4 weeks along. I told my close neighbor who had a bbq last night, I didn't tell her not to say anything, and she made a comment about it in front of some other neighbors/friends and now the WHOLE neighborhood knows. Her mother was there and said to me (about telling so many people) "You don't want to jinx it..."
So now I'm all freaking out and nervous. :(
I wish so bad that I didn't tell anyone but my hubby.
Thanks so much everyone! All of your comments really helped! I am feeling a lot better and just trying to take good care of myself and be positive... and excited :)
Congrats! Telling a person who then goes out and tell's others isn't going to do anything to the pregnancy that wasn't already in the making. Enjoy and don't stress about it...Stressing is not healthy for you or the baby!!
I told a ton of family/friends immediately with #1; same w/2; little less w/3. I have 3 wonderful children! Don't be superstitious- just enjoy! You can't unring the bell and remember what will happen will happen....what you did or didn't tell anyone won't change it :) congrats!
It's okay, you're excited and couldn't help yourself. Don't let that superstitious lady freak you out by telling you that you will jinx it...sheesh, the nerve of her! Just be excited and don't say another peep, and if the neighbors ask...just tell them you guys are cautiously optimistic. I know that sounds like a downer, but it'll shut them up. You have 4 more weeks to go until most people let the cat out of the bag...it will be here in no time. Congrats!
Congrats on the pregnancy! Don't spend your time being nervous, people know now...enjoy the pregnancy. I know many of my friends and family waited until they we 15 weeks along before telling anyone, my husband and I however told our family right when we found out ( about 3/4 weeks along both times). We didn't jinx anything...we had 2 great pregnancies and have two beautiful girls to show for it. Just relax and enjoy this time!
first I would like to say, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
secondly, as to the women who said "you dont want to jinx it", how extremely rude and insensitive!!!! there is no such thing as jinxing a pregnancy. we told everyone as soon as we knew. mostly because we were so happy and partly because, just in case we lost either pregnancy, we would need a lot of love and support. I am so happy for you new little baby!!!!!! Please dont feel like you shouldnt have said anything, this is a joyous occasion and time in your life, share it with as many people as you can.
Congratulations! Don't worry, just enjoy.
Trust me...this is just the first of many things you will worry about concerning that little miracle. Don't stress, enjoy your pregnancy.
That's truly an insensitive thing to say. My aunt said that to me once. I've had 3 miscarriages. I know how disappointing it is. But take comfort in the fact that things are what they are and the truth of the matter is known by God one way or the other. Worrying can't change the outcome. So unless you have real reason to worry, don't.
I promise you that this time in your life will pass and that you will have your babies. Even when a baby passes from you to heaven without being born, you still have them waiting for you on the other side. Now that I'm almost 45, past childbirth and enjoying my first grandson, I just patiently await that day when I finally get to meet my 3 children. Just think, they already know the mysteries of life and know more than me. My earthly kids certainly think they know more. My heavenly kids DO! :)
Aw, don't worry because what the mom said.
I don't know why people say things like that! I have a friend who finally got pregnant after her 2nd IVF procedure. Her friend's mom told her that she knew someone that miscarried at I don't remember how many weeks after an IVF. My poor friend was really nervous, but everything turned out fine.
Congratulations on your pregnancy!!! =o)
Congratulations!!!
Is this ya'lls first child?
Do not worry. Enjoy your pregnancy!
This is such and exciting time and you are going to hear a lot of old wives tales and hear horror stories.. Just smile and think in your head "Bless their hearts, they are completely clueless."
I do not know why people try to scare pregnant women..
Get a "What to expect" book and it will totally guide you.
Ah, yes. I understand you. I was just over 6 weeks when I found out. We, of course told both our parents. However, my mother in law told most of her friends and family before I got the chance too. It was hard for me, but I got over it. Don't worry. Stressing yourself out isn't good nor helpful during this time. Enjoy your pregnancy, and take good care of yourself. Don't let her superstition spoil it!
Congratulations, and don't worry about "old wives tales" or gossipy neighbors. Just try to ignore them. And now you know who you can talk to, and who you can't!! Just try to keep a positive attitude during your pregnancy, and follow your doctors orders, and eat right. You will be just fine!!
Nic:
CONGRATS!!!
don't worry about what other people are saying or thinking...you are very fortunate to get pregnant so fast after stopping birth control!
ENJOY IT!!!
Well congratulations! Don't worry! I was the same way. I didn't want a baby shower either. I needed the stuff, I hadn't had a baby in 10 yrs but we are superstitious I guess. What if something happened and I didn't bring her home? All that resulted was a big mess and I couldn't find anything! Try ti relax and best of luck!
Telling or not telling, makes no difference about the health of your baby. I have told with both of our pregnancies and our first turned out perfectly well and we had the support of friends and loved ones when we miscarried our second. It isn't easy either way if you miscarry, but I can't imagine trying to hide those kind of feelings from everyone I know and care about. Best of luck! Enjoy the experience and excitement rather than allowing yourself to be fearful.
My pregnancies that stuck were actually the ones where I told the most people! I had several where I didn't tell anyone (even my mom) because I didn't want to 'jinx' it. I was waiting for 12 weeks and didn't get to tell anyone until I called for support. But the ones where at 4 weeks I called right away (after a few lost pregnancies you need support right away) and started telling friends were the ones that made it to the end. So I think telling people is the way to go :)
CONGRATS!!! Not to worry, you can't actually jinx the pregnancy. The best "reason" for not telling people early on is really just so that if something does go wrong, you have less people to "untell". There's no way sharing the news at an early stage impacts the chances of the pregnancy right? So just try to relax, take the best care of yourself that you can and you'll see how things go (and can't change them much anyway).
Congrats!!!
