Feeling Guilty... - Overland Park,KS

The fact that you immediately think about your husband and child proves you are a really loving wife and mom - not the least bit "horrible"! Why not make your little windfall work for you AND your husband? Plan something really romantic - an overnight in a hotel, a special dinner out, a concert - whatever you two enjoy doing together (and that your little "windfall" allows). Use part of it for a babysitter, if there's no grandma around. And don't feel badly about spending the money on the grown-ups - the good feelings from your outing will wash over into your parenting and Emma will reap the benefits too.

B. -

I think that is great that you have some extra money! I don't see anything wrong with spending a little something on yourself. If you are feeling that guilty about it just pick up a treat for your husband too maybe...it doesn't have to be pricey...maybe just a dvd he's been wanting, his favorite candy, Maggie Moos ice cream for the two (well three of you really,lol) of you after you put your little one to bed. You get the idea. Buy something for yourself and if there is something left then do a small something for him too. But, don't beat yourself up about it. We all deserve a little something nice for ourselves sometimes...but, it's totally a mom thing to not be programmed that way! :) Enjoy!

If Mom's not happy, NO ONE is happy! This is a good rule of thumb to live by. Occationally, we need to be women and not just mommies and wives. It is not a bad thing to want to spoil yourself a little with YOUR hard yearned money. Having said that, I know how it feels to be thinking of all the other things that you can do with a little extra. We get so used to sacrificing our own needs for everyone elses that when we get the chance to spoil ourselves, we don't allow ourselves too. Depending on how much extra you have, you might try doing a little spoiling for everyone. Maybe you can get something small for the babies and your husband and still treat yourself to something nice that is just for you. Talk to your husband about how ou feel and see what he suggests. Maybe he will think of something that will work for all of you.

Just remember, the better care you give yourself, the better care you're able to give to your sweeties!

B.,
You are such a wonderful wife and mother.!!!!
You fit in a special place with all of us that look to care for our families before ourselves. Give yourself a great big hug and cry a happy cry because you are doing a Great Job!!!
I agree with all!!! A Happy MOM is a Happy Home!!!
The money willing, take a day to be pampered at a spa, buy a new outfit, then turn it into an evening for you and your husband, and a baby-sitter for Emme. Your whole family will benefit from your reward. Your husband may surprise you and say, use it all on yourself for now and save some for a treat for later after the baby is born--you never know. The treat is wide open for you to enjoy. The guilt is so normal--we all go through it, Mommy-hood is a mixed blessing of selflessness torn with joy for self and it is okay.
God Bless You B.--YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!! :} M. N.

no you're not a horrible mom! :) maybe you could do something nice for yourself, AND your husband...or splurge on a nicer date for the 2 of you, since you both work so hard! i'm sure your husband would be encouraged even by something small that you picked out, knowing that you were thinking of him and wanted to show your appreciation. i think my husband likes it when i come home with a package of his favorite candy more than anything! :)