Family Bed

If it isn't working for you, then change it, but have you considered just letting her sleep in the bed with you? No matter what anyone says, she won't do it forever - most children easily accept weaning from the family bed around age 2, and it's a great way to provide nighttime comfort and self-esteem for your child.

it's not a "terible habit"! it is the most natural way of sleeping for an infant! how do you think we survived as a species? with babies sleeping in a next cave where they can be eaten by somebody? or safely in the family bed where their parents can protect them? you are all fighting against evolution! sleeping separately is very new thing, only one or two generations old... and not very successfull one, considering all postings on the subject... let the baby sleep where she feels safe.

have you tried putting a little formula inher milk at night to keep her from waking up at all from hunger?

If you really want to do it just do it. Put her in her bed and keep her there. She'll object for a while but if this is what you want you have to do it. She has been in your bed for 10 months so this transition to her bed will take time, maybe not 10 months, but a while.

A.

Consistency is key! I tend to let my girls come into our bed at night when they wake and won't go right back to sleep. If this happens a couple days in a row they get used to it and expect it.

If you've decided she needs to be in her own bed you need to put her there and stick to your guns. Perhaps sit in her room with her at first, sing to her, talk to her, whatever may help her back to sleep...

Hi D... Unlike how some people think, I think your right with thinking that it's a bad habit. I saw my sister go through it with my oldest niece and I knew it was something I didn't want to do with my own kids... Parents need their space and in my opinion children belong in their own beds and parents need their own space as well. Just remember that it will take a few days to break her of the habit. I am sure you will have a few long nights but honestly in the end it will be well worth it.

GOOD LUCK :)

I just read your post about your baby in your bed and staying up at night. If you can do it I had the same thing but I FURBERED my daughter I had no choice (that is the cry it out method). 1st if was my bed then it was my arms then it was rocking then it was as she got older when i was PG with my 2nd (daddy started this habit) laying in bed with her to get her to go to sleep. It might be hard on you but it works. I mean not to point of sheer hysteria but it takes a little bit but it does eventually work... It's funny it only takes 1-2 times to create a bad habit but it take 1-2 weeks to break it. I know i didnt' go into to much detail but I think you get the gist of what I'm saying.... I would eleborate on what I did BOTH times (with both children) if you needed me to. Talk to you soon.

D.,

Hi, I just want you to know that if you don't put a stop to it now then it will only get harder. Let me tell you from experience. My daughter was sick a lot as a baby so it was easier for her and me if she slept with me. I needed all the rest I could get because I'm a single mom and was doing it alone. Well, she's now 10 and still wants to sleep with me. My situation is different in that I'm still single but if you want that alone time with your husband and to keep the spark alive, then move her into her own room now. It's going to be a rough few nights but be consistent and just keep putting her in there and don't give up. There may be a lot of tears on both ends but it will work and you and your husband will be able to have private time. If she gets up in the middle of the night (and she will) just keep her in her own bed. I wish I had followed my own advice way back when. Good Luck!!

if you think its terrible then put her back and stay consistent. but if it doesn't interfere with you sleep and your relationship wit your husband then its not so terrible.
we've been co-sleeping with our daughter for 2 years now, we All love it! and my husband that doesn't see her a lot during the day feels its so special that he can be so close to her at night. would do it with our next child as well. but everyone is different

Why do you want her to sleep through the night in her own bed? That isn't a loaded question. I have nine children, some who crawled into our bed every night, others who always slept in their own beds. In our home the bottom line was/is everyone needs a good night sleep to be in best form the next day. It really isn't a matter of good/bad habits, I can tell you as the mother of three college age children, as well as twin three year olds and three scattered between the two groups...eventually they all sleep in their own beds. I promise you, I have yet to meet a child that slept with Mom and Dad in junior high. If she sleeps through the night in your bed, and your sleeping well as well, don't worry about it. HOWEVER, it isn't working well for either of you, than you need to not bring her to your bed peirod, and stay consistent. Best of luck!

des,

its not a easy habit to break and its gonna take time now to change her,

when she wakes , bring her in your bed, but then when she falls asleep put her back in her bed, as many times as you must, but the key is making her wake in her own bed in her own room,so she gets familiar with the sounds,and feels comfortable there,

so i suggest you put the crib in her own room, or with her brother. other wise she will continue to wake and know your there and jump into bed with you eventually

M

I have to say I am againts children sleeping in the "MARRIAGE BED" LOL, that showed my age even knowing that term. I think you should stop it ASAP. It is going to be hard, but it will be harder the longer you let it go on. ou could try and put a folding dressing wall infront of her crib. Maybe if she cant see you..... Or a curtian. Keep her up a little latter if you can, don't give her too much to eat or drink until it is just a little closer to bed time, that way she has a full tummy and will be sleepier. Good luck, you can do it.It is harder on you and your husband then it will be on her. It is just touch to overcome.