Facing a Stillbirth for the 2Nd Time

I am so sorry, you are in my thoughts. Do you think that there is a chance this may be something medical with you? I wish i could say something to make you feel better...i know there is nothing though....

I am so sorry for your loss!! I have experienced 6 miscarriages and it never gets any easier. You morn each and every one of them. I am sending you a hug. Do they know why the babies pass? Sometimes knowing why it happened can be a source of comfort. I finally got an answer and it helped to know that there was nothing I could have done to prevent it.

HUGS!!

I am so sorry, and only God can heal you so you need to pray very hard. I had a stillborn girl at 8 1/2 months on October 22, 1978, and I am still grieving over her. I had a boy in 76 via c-section, her, and a boy in 1980. I am an only child, and sure could use my daughter in my life. She would been 32 years old now, and I have no clues why she was born dead when I needed her so much in my life. I was 20 years old, and clueless. I had a tubal ligation after my third child, and live to regret it for the rest of my life. I was told by the doctors that it was not safe to have more than two c-sections (my stillbirth was natural), and I listen to them. I was married for 21 years to a non human, and will not go into details right now. I divorced him at the age of 38 years old, and wanted to have a child but could not afford it. I wanted to reverse the tubal ligation, because I was wiser by now but did not have any money. I get resentful when I see big stars with money getting pregnant at 40, or 50 years old. I am too poor to adopt two little girls, and I do not know if I ever will get married again. My ex-husband was rescued by a nurse in Brooklyn, New York. She brought him a car, clothes, and takes him on trips all over the world. She is older than him, and was never married. She has not kids, and spend all her money on him. I am suffering, and am lonely. I miss my daughter, and she would been married by now. I would have grandchildren, and someone to share life. I sometimes see people with disabled children, and wonder if the Lord wanted to spare me by taking my daughter. I ask myself whether she was going to be grossly deformed, and was going to suffer terribly on this earth. I mourn on her birthday each year, and use to cry when I would see a little girl her age. I have my sons, and Thank God they are healthy. A son is a son until he gets married, and a daughter is a daughter for life. I cared for both my parents until they die, and sacrificed a lot for them. My maternal grandma was an only child, my mother was an only child, and I am an only child. My maternal grandfather died very young, and my mom did not even know him. My paternal grandparents passed away, and I sure could use the love of my daughter. It is a little less painful after 32 years, but mentally I am crushed and will never be the same. I never received any therapy, and my ex-husband told me that I was weak. He wanted me to get over it, and would get furious when I am sad. MY ADVICE TO YOUNG WOMEN: 1) DO NOT HAVE ANY ABORTIONS; 2) DO NOT HAVE A TUBAL LIGATION UNDER 50 YEARS OF AGE; 3) DO NO LOVE A MAN MORE THAN YOU LOVE GOD, AND YOURSELF.
4) GET YOUR EDUCATION, AND BUILT A STRONG CAREER. 5) TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. 6) PRAY, PRAY, AND PRAY.
God will take care of the rest, and you have three beautiful children to take care. I suggest you get therapy, and talk to a professional who can guide you. I did not have the money to claim my daughter's body, and left her at the hospital. My ex-husband had told me after my first child that I will be on my own with the bills if I ever get pregnant again, so he did not claim his daughter's body. I hate to think what they did to her little body, and pray that what they learned would save others from this type of tragedy. I go to the cemetely to visit my parents, but have no place to go see my daughter. I was completely destroyed, and I do not know how I would have handle three. I am going to pray for you, and am asking to do the same for me. I do not know you, but I love you because we have a lot of similarities. God Bless.

I don't know. I'm so sorry. I've miscarried 4, one in the second trimester. The first and last ones were the hardest and I've realized I just can't ride that rollercoaster anymore. My husband has now been "fixed."

I don't think there is fairness at hand here. This might sound crazy, but I had a bad omen about my 3rd mc and I remember one night I was lying in bed with the distinct sense that it was a little girl in my womb. I told her I loved her already and I wanted with all my heart to be her mother. I felt her tell me back that she wasn't sure if she wanted to stay or not. She said she would let me know in the morning. I told her I would respect her choice but I wanted her to know that we welcomed her and hoped she would stay. The next morning I miscarried.

I don't know why these things happen, but I sense it for the best. I don't know. My heart is walking alongside you, mama. I wish you peace.

I am so sorry to hear of your angel.

I'm sure that you feel like your OB has done every test possible, but please check out B12 deficiency. It can often be hidden by high folic acid levels in the blood and requires a secondary test to identify. Your regular blood test might say your B12 levels are fine...a false positive. Since you've had multiple losses, a proper test to verify is definitely needed.

This book has tons of great information about B12 deficiency http://www.amazon.com/Could-Be-B12-Epidemic-Misdiagnoses/...

The author has posted plenty of information on B12 deficiency which can be found at wrongdiagnosis.com. Harvard med has also published some recent studies linking multiple miscarriages and stillbirths with B12 deficiency. It's definitely worth looking into.

Again, I offer my most sincere condolences.

All the best,

C.

I'm so so sorry to hear of your losses. Heartbreaking!

It seems like your 2nd, 4th and 6th pregnancies were fairly close behind the previous pregnancy... My math might be off, but did you conceive those pregnancies around 10-12 months after you delivered? Perhaps your body wasn't ready? Maybe it needed more time to get hormone levels more balanced or to store up the cellular resources in order to build the strongest and most heathly tissues (especially in regard to the placenta and increasing your blood supply). That first year after birth is hard on a mother's body, especially with sleep deprivation, hormone fluctuations and breastfeeding. Yes, we all know of women who got pregnant with another baby a few months after their previous delivery, but everyone is different... Maybe your body just needs a little more time in order to support a viable pregnancy?

I have mc plenty of times all have been in the first trimester. That is nothing compared to yours... I wanted to tell you that I might not know you but I am here for you! If your emotions get to much and you just need someone to rant to please I am here! I am sorry for your loss and I am praying for you. You are such a stronge and amazing woman. Look at the positives you have 3 healthy beautiful babies already and you are going to be ok! I would deffinetly talk to your doctor and ask him if there is anything that could be causing this... Again I am sorry for your loss!
Sending prayers and hugs:
Ash

I am very sorry for the loss of your 3rd child. I can't imagine the pain of still being pregnant, but knowing you will not have a baby to hold at the end of it all. I will pray for you.
Between my 2nd and 3rd child, I miscarried. I also worked in post-partum/NICU as a nurse. I had a friend tell me something I found a little comforting. Sometimes, babies want to fill that role. It's difficult to explain now, but I remember how comforting it was a the time. Basically, there was a child, who for whatever reason, just wanted to go through the process of living in the womb for whatever lenght of time it was. That was all they wanted/needed. The details are fuzzy right now, but I hope you get the idea.

I am very sorry you have had to deal with this so many times. My prayers are for your family, and especially you. Allow yourself to grieve, however long it takes. It doesn't matter if this is your first or your 10th, every loss is different, and for whatever reason, we grieve differently each time. Allow yourself to feel differently or the same this time, and your feelings are legitimate.
R.

I'm so sorry. I don't have an answer, but my thoughts go out to you and your family.

M.,
I don't have appropriate words to convey how truly sorry I am that you are facing this situation again. I have had 2 mc and know how difficult it is to lose a child. I will pray for you and your family that you will have the strength and peace to get through this. Many hugs to you.
T.

No matter how mentally prepared you are, I am sure it is a loss none-the-less. My prayers are with you and your family.

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a friend that suffered with the loss of a still born child, it was number 2. Her husband never really recovered, but they plug along. They had their youngest son about 2 years after the loss of thae child. What has your doctor said about this?

I don't really have an answer. I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss.

My prayers are with you and your beautiful family during this painful time.

If anyone could easily answer this question for you and many others there wouldn't be stillborn babies. miscarriages or SIDS. I'm so sorry for your losses. You're family will be in my thoughts.

I haven't been through this, although I do know someone who has. I know it's a very sad time for you, but try and look on the bright side of things. Your blessed with three healthy beautiful kids.
My heart is with you!

I have not gone through this myself but just wanted to say I am so sorry.

M.:

Hello! I'm truly sorry you are going through this.

I too suffered three miscarriages (12 weeks, 20 weeks and 14 weeks) all girls. We had an autopsy done on the 20 week old fetus - a girl. We assume the other two pregnancies were girls as well as I had the same symptoms/problems.

I pray that you will recover and move on - it's hard, I know. We're done having babies. I had my uterus alblazed and tubes tied so I don't have to go through the loss again.