Some of my extended family from my Mothers side wishes to get in contact with her....this is a bad idea and for that reason I've refused to pass any of my mothers contact information to them and I explained why....and now I've found out that they've gone another route to try to reach her... I'm upset that they just can't let it go...
My mother's extremely hostile towards this cousins particular side of the family and my sisters and I know for an absolute fact that our Mother will be horrible to/about everything....we've been hearing her vent for YEARS !!! We (my sibling and myself) have contact with them and know that they have no idea whats coming from my mother. She is a very hateful...and angry women...they're going to get hurt.
So I guess my question is what should I do....so I warn my mother they calls will be coming ?
Nothing has happened so far, with the exception of another cousin sending us a very understanding letter regarding the situation.
She has no intention of getting involved either. So we'll stand by an let it happen and hope instead of a feud maybe there will be some kind of peaceful resolution.
Well you already told them why she didn't want to hear from them and I am sure you told them she wouldn't be happy about it if they did, so it will be there bed to lie in when they do call her.
You could tell your mom the situation so she knows you and your siblings did not get them the information and then let it be. THey were warned.
You didn't give them her number, so stay safely out of the way. If she asks you can honestly say you didn't do it.
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Personally, I would stay out of it. When there is a family feud, let the feuding family members do their own battles. It is so easy to get sucked into drama and before you know it, you are forced to take sides. The extended family wishes to reach your mom, they will find out soon enough who they are dealing with. Just stay out of it.
You've warned your family what will happen when they contact your mom...they're adults & it's their decision whether or not to go ahead with it. Obviously they're determined to get in touch with her, since they've gotten her contact info anyway. And I don't think you're obligated to "warn" your mother...what for? She's the one who's hurtful & mean, not the other way around. If she asks you how they got in touch with her, you can honestly say you don't know because you did not give out her information. And I would stay as far out of it as you possibly can. GL!
If you are close to your mother then contact her. But if she will vent and rant and rave on you, be prepared. Or, you can write her a note. Better yet.
