Extended Family

Is there a legitimate reason he doesn't like her? Is she inappropriate around the children? Unless there is a good reason for him to not want the children around her (uses drugs etc.) then I would tell him that she is family and you want her there. At the very least tell him him that you will be going to take the kids to see her at a certain day and time and he can come with you or stay home-It's his decision.

Good Luck and Merry Christmas!

P.S. I totally agree with everything that Mimi says as well. She put it very well.

J.,

I agree with the other posters. Have you actually talked to your husband about why he doesn't want you to visit your aunt or have her visit you? Does he want Christmas just to be your immediate family or is he generally controlling about who can visit? I think the holidays have to be about compromises. If you husband doesn't want extended family on Christmas day, maybe you can see your aunt on Christmas Eve or the day after Christmas. If the situation is indicative of your marriage in general, you might want to try counseling to make sure you are in a healthy situation.

It is very controlling. What is his reasoning??

M.

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DId he have any reason for this? Maybe you can make a deal where you all spend Christmas as a nuclear family and then visit extended family the day before or after.

I'm sure you know the reason why he does not want your aunt over for Christmas now wether its for the right reasons or not you must decide if he is being fair to you and your family. It seems to me that you care deelply for your aunt and have a pretty close relationship with her. I don;t know the whole story but if it bothers him that bad then I suggest just as the other ladies you spend either Christmas Eve of they day after Christmas with her. As for transportation I would hope he would be caring enough and respect your feelings as you respect his and at least drop you off at you home so you can spend time with her. Hope it all works for you, you deserve to also be Happy especially this time of year with family and friends all around you. God Bless

Sorry J.,

But not enough info to give you a good response. Sounds a bit controlling to me.

Good luck
D.

Why are you asking permission to visit a family member. You are not a child your a grown women. Take some charge in your life, you should be able to make a decision of weather or not you should or can visit an Aunt. He does not have to come because he does not like her.