C.B.
Hi J.!
First, please excuse my terrible English! ;-))
I am what you would call an "European" woman even if I would consider myself as a French woman only. Making a general status about Europeans is a typical American thing to me by the way. Since you've lived many years in Italy and traveled a lot you should know that there is a BIG difference between , Italy, France, England or Poland for example.So, I guess the problem will not be the same everywhere you are going to travel this summer with your little boy.
I seriously think that you are making a big deal of this "nudity"idea. I said idea because I have NEVER seen in Europe the type of nudity you are describing in your message. "Totally naked woman rubbing porno size boobs" or "naked man with giant erection"????!!!!! What are you talking about??? Of course you can find this type of pictures in magazines or adult shops, even movies but your son should not see that, right?I have lived for 35 years in many different big cities of France, traveled a lot in Italy, Spain, Germany,England, Czech Republic,Switzerland... and again I have never seen total nudity on the streets. Believe me I would have mentioned it! I think my point here is (let's be focus on how to help you with your son)that you should probably work on yourself first. You probably see it worse than it is in real. The fact that you even talked about "naked statues" in Europe as a potential problem is even a little bit scary to me!
Anyway, it is true that we see more "body parts" in magazines,movies, commercials, on billboards or on beaches in Europe than here in the states. But to me nothing that should be so disturbing to you or your little boy. I am not personally pro or against topless women on beaches for example but the more you make a big deal of it in front of your son the more it will be a problem for him. I have a 8 year's old daughter and a 5 year's old son too and they also know about their 'private areas" and being respectful.They don't run naked on the beaches when we go to France or Italy. However it is true that sometimes you can see some topless ladies or naked toddler playing in the sand. I understand how it can be a problem for you and I respect your opinion. Let's remember that we, as grown-up see an other "dimension": the sexual one! Your son is probably not aware of that yet.
Also try to explain him that in some countries it is "acceptable" to do so but he, as an American little boy, lives in a different world where people feel a different way. Maybe you'll be surprise to see that he doesn't even mention anything! And if he does, my advice would be to make fun of it like: " Do you see that? This little baby is going to get sunburns om his butt!" or " oh ! I really prefer my new cute pink bathing suit than this tiny one!It looks like she's missing something!" and so on. Kids at that age have a good sense of humor and he will make his own judgment without feeling uncomfortable.
Also if you really want to avoid this type of discussion,you should limit the access to TV a lot. It is true that you can see some explicit images. But this is common sense, right? By the way I have much more difficulties explaining to my kids what "ED" is. You know, the type of commercials you can see on Animal Planet in the middle of a kid's show for example. To me that's a lot more disturbing and my kids keep asking about what it is. See! We do not have this type of commercials on TV all the time in Europe. In France at least for sure.
Also, don't worry about the statues!Especially the Greek and Romans one. Tell stories about the Olympics for example and how and why they were running naked. They will look like heroes.
And last but most important to me, traveling is all about discovering new cultures. You can disagree, have your own opinions but you should also always try to understand that this is a part of OUR world and that in some countries it is acceptable to do things that are not in others.It is just a question of perspective! What a great experience you are going to share with your family! He is a lucky 5 years old.
Go to Europe and enjoy your trip! I'm sure you'll have a wonderful time.
C.