T.S.
Too much to ask? Absolutely not. Regardless as to if you are speaking off key or not, if you are uncomfortable with the situation you have every right to speak up.
Dirty toys? Not good, but can happen once in awhile, I guess. Especially if they are trying to change rooms and get things organized. But, if this is a regular occurence...unacceptable.
Mold in the fridge? Unacceptable. Please.
Being told to find another facility? Huh? Honestly, HAVE you complained a lot to them that she would say this? Since you didn't make the phone call to hear this - do you think your husband gave off the wrong impression? I deal with everything with regard to anything at daycare because my husband has a habit of being very sarcastic and I know he rubs people the wrong way sometimes (even me, lol).
Your son falling and hitting his face? Well, I had a call about 3 months ago that my son fell back and hit his head. His eyes rolled back and they had to call the paramedics. I was asked to come get him and observe him at home for the rest of the day. He's over 2 years old, so I DO think accidents can happen. They can't have an eye on every single child every single minute. Things can happen in an instant, so this alone wouldn't bother me as much. Heck, I've left the room to get my son's coat and have come back to him standing on the fireplace hearth, speaker, his railroad table, etc. Once they can walk and climb, it's a constant battle (as I'm sure you know).
If you are looking for a center, we go to a great KinderCare center in Cary on Rte 14. Their phone # is ###-###-####. My 2 yr old and 11 week old go there. If you want any information on it, feel free to send me a message.
You didn't mention the name of your center (and I understand), but if it is a KinderCare, they are corporately owned and run by a Center Director. Other centers are corporate named (The Goddard School, for example) but are franchised owned by individuals. If you are at a KinderCare, I'd be on the phone to the District Manager ASAP to let them know your feelings. I've recently become in more contact with a Center Director and the corporate "people" are very strict.
I'm so sorry that you're dealing with this issue. Finding good day care is difficult and I'm sure the stress this is causing isn't good. Is there anyway you can move sooner?
T.