"Excuse Me, but I Can See Your Heart Shaped Undies"

OMG She has underwear on!!!!!!! AND I know the color!!!!!

I seriously don't get why we as grown women make such a big deal out of silly things. I think the only reason for embarassment would have been if she had grannie panties on and you could see! I mean we all/Most o us wear underwear. Granted we try not to have see through pants on on puprose/...but still...its not the same as a booger on the face...Now I myself would have been embarassed to know that moms were judging M./
I would have ignored it, she couldn't change there and probably left early knowing moms were talking and giggling about her heart shaped undies

well, it probably ruined her day.
was it something she could tuck in and fix?
i'd let someone know (very discreetly and with humor) if they could do something about it, but if not, it's just causing them discomfort for no good reason.
khairete
S.

I wouldnt say it was rude, but you could have saved her some stress by not saying anything.
I could see if her g string was hanging out, I would let her know her roos came out to play, but in that situation what could she do? Go take her underwear off?

The proper rule for this is: only tell someone about something they can fix immediately, so as not to ruin their day.
Do this: something stuck in teeth, skirt tucked in pantyhose, button undone...
DON'T do this: you have a run in your hose, you can see their panties thru their pants....
That's what I've always been told.

Not knowing her I would have let her be. If there was something she could have done about it I would have said something.

I don't think it was rude so much as unnecessary. Granted now she knows not to wear those panties with those shorts in the future but it probably ruined her trip.

If I were that woman, I would have wanted someone to tell me!! I appreciate stuff like that. If I literally got dressed in the dark and you could see my panties, don't let me walk around looking like a hoochie! Tell me so I can tie my kids sweatshirt around my waist until I can change!

You weren't rude, you were her hero ;)

Not really rude--but what's the point of telling someone that when you're out at a public place and she can't "do" anything about it?

Sorry, I think that kind of information is never welcome coming from strangers. If it's your best friend, sure, you can say, "Pssst, Stacey, wardrobe malfunction alert," and it'll be funny and welcome, but how is telling that woman really going to help her? The kinder thing to do is just let her be blissfully unaware.

Thank you for telling that woman! I have been her and was so embarrassed to find out I'd gone all day with my underwear being seen through my pants!
I've never been on your side of this situation, but I like to think I'd say something since I KNOW how grateful I would have been had someone told me.

I would have let her be.

Like others have said, this isn't somethign she could take care of at that moment and it isn't like she is able to scrap this whole trip with her kids and just go home.

If i were in her heart shaped undies, I would be extremely embarrassed and uncomfortable for the entire rest of the day. You would have ruined my trip by pointing it out.

I wouldn't have said anything because at that point what is she going to do about it?

I had something similar happen to me except I was the one showing undies and it was a man who kindly informed me. Of course she was embarrassed.. I was, too. But I was glad someone told me so I could go do something about it. My vote - not rude. I'd want to know.

If I had been that woman, my "thank you" would have been embarrassed but sincere! (I don't know what I could have done about the situation in a museum, but I still would have appreciated it.)

Once I bought a pair of jeans but just put them away in my closet because it was a busy week. The next week I grabbed them hurriedly, yanked them on, and went to the post office. There, the lady in line in back of me pointed out in a whisper that the bright plastic adhesive strip that announces the garment size was still decorating my backside. Eeks is right!

If the woman had said nothing and had carefully ignored my, um, interesting appearance, that would also have been courteous - and that would actually be the default method of courtesy. But she was quiet about her correction and didn't make me feel conspicuous - there was no junior high school point-and-laugh about it.

Everybody needs a "keeper" sometimes. Not everyone appreciates correction from a stranger, though.

That's a tough one. It's not exactly a situation like when someone has lipstick on their teeth or cheek or they have a booger stuck to their upper lip or food stuck in their teeth and they can fix that right away. This is someone's skivvies, and presumably she didn't have a spare pair and would have to go home to change. Hopefully the ones she was wearing were clean. I'm not sure I would have said anything about the hearts showing through since there's nothing that could have been done then and there.

HOWEVER if she had her period and it were leaking through I would say something immediately.

Husbands don't look at life like us gals do, Sam. We women can be supportive and helpful to our fellow sisters in a way men will NEVER be to each other. Our "gal code" and their "guy code" is vastly different.

Ignore hubby about this! You did good!

Smiles!
Dawn

It's not rude.
Rude would have been calling out loudly and pointing "I just love your heart underwear!".
When I first started working in Virginia I had a co-worker tell me "It's snowing down south".
I'm thinking "It's July. It's 99 degrees out. It's not snowing anywhere.".
But then she explained that it's code for 'your slip is showing'.
I had no idea!
But I thanked her then went to the ladies room to adjust my slip!

As for the heart underwear lady, to fix it she could go take her underwear off (problem solved), or tie a jacket/sweater around her waist.
It's not un-fixable.

You did the right thing and how she reacted to the news is her business. Unless you were flat out rude about it, she may be momentarily embarrassed but ultimately thankful. My only absolute rule is I refuse to tell the opposite sex something like that. At the office I get a discreet, trusted male colleague to break the news of an open barn door to the offender. Men may not care but I do so I prod them into action on behalf of each other.

Well, was it something she could do something about at the time -as in, the undies were sticking up out of her shorts -or could you just see the print of her underwear through the fabric of the shorts? If the case was just that you could see the print through the fabric, I wouldn't say anything. What could she do about it at that point except have a complex about it for the rest of the day?

I only point things out like that (toilet paper stuck to shoes, tags hanging out of the back of shirts, etc.) when the person can easily remedy the problem.

You did the right thing.

Like many pointed out - not much she could do then except maybe remove the panties - but in the future she will know FOR SURE to check her rearview in those pants before heading out the door.

One time I walked all the way to work (lived in the city) with my skirt stuck into my pantyhose. I got lots of smiles and waves (man I thought I was looking H-O-T that day lol) and didn't realize what was going on until I got into my office. I would definitely have appreciated ANYONE letting me know I was flashing all of downtown!

Not knowing how the woman would react, I would not have said anything. Who knows, she could be very sensitive and been really really embarrassed and felt just awful. Or she could have been an angry-type and have gone off on you super offended that you would comment on her underpants. A close relation I would probably tell, but not a stranger. A lot people, even strangers would be appreciative, or find the humor in the situation, but you just never know.

OMG!! That’s so funny. I was at Universal last week with my daughter and husband and I saw a woman wearing white shorts with hearts on her underwear too.

I chose to say nothing to her. If her friends couldn't tell her then why should I. Maybe it's just me, but I always look in the mirror with certain clothes and I always wear white or nude colored underwear with khaki or white pants/shorts.

Way to go! It was a kindness that many of us are too unsure of ourselves to do for another. Like Mommaof4 & Rachel D, I would want to know so I could tie a sweatshirt around myself (might even go buy one ;) ). If the message is delivered discreetly and with kindness, it erases any rudeness. You performed a nice service to a fellow mama!

BTW -- sometimes the, shall we say, smoothness of the fabric across your butt shows stuff that you can't see when you look at the front of yourself in a mirror.

I think you did the right thing! I'd want to know for sure! If you didn't tell her, she'd continue to wear the same outfit probably!

You are good :).

I don't think it was rude! I would want to know, if I was her. You never know if she had a sweatshirt with she could wrap around her waist, etc. If she lived nearby, etc. I wouldn't worry about giving her a complex. She might have weird lighting in her house where she can't tell, so you could save her future embarrassment as well! It drives me crazy when I see co-workers wear white completely see-through blouses...I know they're not doing it on purpose, but they may as well be naked! I just never had the courage to tell them (said co-worker is gone now) but I think in the future I will. I would want to know!

This made me smile a lil! No, I probably wouldn't have said anything...I guess my thoughts on this are, she should have known better! LOL! I have taught my 13 yr old to be aware of the clothes she wears and what underwear are underneath! And if she wears low rise jeans, to wear low rise undies too! hehe!

Good for you...I'm sure this mama was mortified and she will never let it happen again!

Everyone else sees it and notes it but are not brave and kind enough to help her fix the problem. You were kind enough to let her know that she had a problem. Now she can do something about it. Don't worry about it.

I would not have said anything BUT I would have appreciated someone telling me if my panties were showing thru!

I would have done the same.