A.D.
T.,
I dont mean to sound harsh when I say this, however, when reading that you dont really want him a part of your life, that bothers me. He is the father of your child, your childs father. Unless he is a threat to you or your son, cutting him from your life is not an option. If he is doing what he needs to do to help care for your son, please, be thankful. So many woman are forced to struggle with being a single mom, with no help from their ex husband / boyfriend. I understand where your feelings are right now, really, I do. Just please remember that the feelings you have are between you and your husband, not your child and his father.Unless there is something else going on that you didnt mention, I think it is important that your husband still be able to help make desicions in regards to your child. Keep things very short, but civil with your husband. Let him know that he no longer decides what you do in your life, or you with his, however, when your son is concerned, then both parents should have some sort of say so. Maybe this will help you detach yourself for wanting to help fix his problems. It sounds like he has some deep personal issues that he needs to work on, and only he can fix those. Seperation is never easy, especially when inside, you still love them. Just know that things will get better, and have faith.
Best wishes to you.