Etiquette Question Related to Repeat Baby Shower for Mom-to-be of Twins

You could suggest that they can give gently used baby items, but don't feel unfortable having to register again. Babies grow so fast and to me there is no sense buying extremely buying everything new at this time. It's the thought that counts.

I agree. This is different.

You will need double of everything and on top of that, if the baby is a different gender, you will need all new clothes.

As for registering, if it makes it easier for your friends/family to know what to buy, I suggest it.

You should be grateful that you have such a wonderful friend.

I see nothing wrong with asking for gently used baby items either for the shower or you could just ask your closest friends if they have any gently used items that they would care for you to borrow.

My friend and I have swapped clothes and toys for each of our children. Both of our kids are 1.5 years apart so it has worked out perfectly. When I am done with an item, I will return it and vice versa. She just had her second and I have already started lining up the gear she will need in the next month or so.

We have also done this with maternity clothes.

personal experience: Friends had given me so much when I was first pregnant that I really didn't need anything so refused offers of a baby shower. However I did receive a lot of gifts after the baby was born anyway. Your friends will give you gifts whether or not there is a shower, especially since you're having twins, so help them out by registering for what you need. By your question I can tell that you are a very considerate person who they would be very happy to help.

I was in your same boat a few years ago. My mother in law had thrown a shower when I was preggo with my first child and then wanted to throw another when I was having twins. I felt a tad strange at first, too, but it was something she really wanted to do. I asked for used stuff, too, but didn't get any (that I recall). It was pretty much the same people from my first shower (I barely know their names). They were so happy to be contributing to the twins that I didn't feel bad during the shower. Some people just love to buy baby gifts! I got great stuff---I registered for a few things I was lacking. What I really wanted was diapers but really didn't get much of those. If you are really concerned about the registry just ask for diapers and wipes. You will definitely need them!

I think it is wonderful that you are so thoughtful. I also think your mom is right, let them go all out for you. Having another baby or two more in your case is cause for celebration and for new stuff! I think it is fine to register again, especially bc you are going to need "twin" stuff. People know they can give you something not on your registry if they want to, I had plenty of people do that at my first shower. I am preggers now and I plan to register again. The only thing I am going to do differently is I am going to register at Target and Walmart and skip Babies r us. The things at these two stores are great and less expensive. So I say yes to registry:) If you want to include a little something on the shower invite that you would love any gently used items the moms want to get rid of that is great although in my experience most people want to get you a nice little gift and then just pass along the other used items as well. Have a great time and congratulations!

You're so sweet. I personally think that it's tacky to ask people to gift you because you're having a baby (or babies). It's not their responsibility. I think that it's perfectly acceptable, though, to have a "party" celebrating your pregnancy and giving birth to healthy babies, and requesting of people you know that they extend to you any baby clothes that they've finished using. You can express to them that you just want to share their love with your babies. You'll get all kinds of good stuff, anyway, but you shouldn't ask for it. I think that the official appropriate etiquette for baby showers is that you get only one, especially in such a short timespan. Registering is even worse...like telling them that their gift of love is not good enough. The argument there is that you should get what you want instead of stuff that you won't use. My response is that you should be grateful for whatever someone chooses to give you, out of love. A list should only be used if someone specifically asks what you want. Otherwise, it's rude to tell them what to get you. They shouldn't feel obligated.

There's absolutely NOTHING wrong with having another shower, especially under these circumstances. As for the suggestion about the baby clothes--your friend could put something like "gently used baby clothes welcome" on the invitation. Anyone who wants to could bring what they want.

Don't feel guilty. Just enjoy this special time. Believe me, you're going to need all the help you can get, and having enough clothes/supplies for the new little ones will be just one less thing to worry about.

What about having a "sip and see" after the babies are born? This seems to be a Texas tradition.

This would make it a bit different from your first shower, and will allow your friends to take a peek at your new babies :)

You will still receive gifts. I would not feel comfortable mentioning gifts (new or used) or registering the second time, but that is just me....

Good luck!!!