Essure procedure - Done it? Complications? Painful? Love it? Hate it? Any info is appreciated.
We are still going round and round in our home about birth control. I am exploring my options, since DH refuses the big V.
Thanks!
Angela - thank you so much for the insightful response. DH refuses because he just doesn't want to get it done. He said he doesn't want anyone messing with his balls and would be afraid it would affect his "performance". He has done the research on it, we have talked extensively - he says not going to happen.
He is "almost positive" he doesn't want more kids ( I mean, is anyone ever 100% sure?), as am I, but that is why I thought the V would be a better option - Essure or anything similar is NOT reversible, his is. But, he said exactly what you did. That it is his body and his choice needs to be respected. Cannot argue wtih that, although then the only other option is for me to take BC or do some other procedure. After 3 kids and one really hard pregnancy and labor, I think I have been through enough. I am right there with you! I am just so tired of taking pills that make me feel not like myself and being the only one responsible for prevention, and of course the constant worry of getting pregnant again. Ugh!
I had it done back in December. No complications and just had some uncomfortable crampy. I also had the Novasure (?) done a monthly later and loving that one. But make sure you never want any more children because this is final. The insert a spring in your tube and scar tissue grows around it, not able to take it out. My ex had the V done and it was fine. He had some discomfort and it didn't mess with his performances.
I did not get it, but I considered it. It was hard to find a practitioner who had done it - our OB/GYN had taken the Essure training, but had never actually done one...and I wasn't willing to be her first victim (I mean, patient!). After 4 kids, we were ready to stop with the babymaking. I didn't want a tubal though, I was sure about that. After all the hard work my lady bits have done, it didn't seem right. :) I thought about the IUD, I didn't want to do the hormonal options any more. Finally my dh got snipped.
My biggest concern there was that it would affect his perception of his own virility, but it hasn't. He's still just as manly as ever. My advice would be to keep talking to your dh...it was such a quick procedure, and an uncomplicated recovery for my guy. We talked A LOT about it beforehand though. If you're both sure you don't want more kids, it's the best option, I think. However, you don't want to push him into it - it's his body, and his feelings on the matter have to be respected. Why does he refuse? Does he think he might want more kids down the line?
Maybe using some temporary method for another year or so might be long enough to wait while he considers it.
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S. - he sounds scared of complications. It sounds a little selfish, frankly. You've had all the babies and the complications from those pregnancies - it seems like he should be able to undergo this little procedure. I would hold off on doing anything permanent, especially if you feel like your body has been through enough for a while. Maybe taking a break from sex would ease your mind a bit.
Had it done and loved it. It's NOT reversible--you both need to REALLY be done with having babies.
Also had Nova Sure done two weeks ago. OMG! That was just as easy as the Essure procedure.
Two thumbs up.
Had it, love it, should have done it sooner! What's Nova sure? * going to goggle right now!*
I would like to get this done as my husband will not do the V either. We have talked extensively about it and I am sick of being worried about getting pregnant again. My problem is that I don't think it's covered by our insurance and it's pretty expensive.
gosh I just posted about getting tubes tied a week ago and had about 3 moms say to do the essure. I am going to consider it too. My hubby won't do the V either. I am fine to do something for us....just don't know what.
I had my in the GYN office and watched the whole thing (seeing inside my uterus was really cool). After having tea with a friend for 90 min, I hopped in my car and drove 3 hours, no problem. The confirmation test was even easier and as of May 7th I am an Essure woman. I pondered for a long time and glad I did because I have no regrets. I paused my decision while going through a divorce (just after my "wasband" got the big V). I always knew I'd do Essure. Full disclosure, I worked at the company and I'd observed a handful of procedures under many different situations. I knew way more then the average woman about the data and how to get the best experience. Very little discomfort and I knew exactly what would happen each step of the way. As a mother, you really must decide, on your own, that you are done. Life throws lots of curve balls usually when you least expect them. If you are at peace with the decision to be done, then Essure procedure is a wonderful option.
I want it done but chose to get the paragard first. Interested to see the replies.
