So it really has happened! On Friday night, Guy took me to a dinner theatre here in town. We had a wonderful dinner and watched an excellent show. At the beginning of the show, the announcer stated that there'd be a raffle during intermission. They'd be giving away a Valentine's gift as it is the week of Valentine's Day.
At intermission, the gentleman gets on stage with a hat and pulls out a slip of paper. As soon as he started stumbling over my Guy's last name, I knew. So Guy stands up and the announcer says "but it's a gift for a lady...do you have a lady here with you?"
The next thing I know, I'm climbing the stage steps with Guy.
The announcer has two gift bags and asks me to pick one, and then tells me I must open it right there. So I do...and pull out a ring box.
My hands were shaking SOOO bad as Guy went down on one knee in front of over 150 people. I thought I was going to black out for a moment there! I just stood there with the ring box in my shaking hands, staring into his beautiful eyes.
He said "C., I love you. These last months have been the happiest of my life, and I want to spend the rest of my life with you. I've always been told that you don't choose someone you can live with, but someone you can't live without. Will you marry me?"
OF COURSE I said YES!!!
So...I guess now I have to make up a question...
After all the excitement of the engagement night, it seems that so many people (CYNICS!) immediately react with "Wow...you haven't been together very long" or "Are you pregnant?" or "What's the rush?"
It's so frustrating! We're not even planning on having a wedding until late Autumn or even next Spring. We're not pregnant, getting married next week, or going to Vegas (but if we were....it's not for them to comment on!). Ugh...what's WRONG with people? Why can't they say "Oh! We're so happy for you!"
So here's my question: How do you maintain your happiness AND deal with the cynics?
ETA: We met in October and went on our first date in November. :-) Also, I don't think there was anything in the other bag. I think no matter which bag I chose, if the ring wasn't in it, the announcer would have handed me the other bag. And I doubt I'd have noticed...he might have done just that!
ETA2: Mary, we couldn't agree more on the importance of premarital counseling. We've done the PREPARE/ENRICH premarital assessment and counseling and are also working through the book/workbooks for "Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts."
Guy actually has a Master's Degree in marriage and family counseling...so this is a topic which has been well covered. We really want to do this right and are willing to work hard for it. We know that marriage isn't always a walk in the park, that romantic love fades...but we also know that romanitc love can be replaced by a love which is deeper and more meaningful. No rose colored glasses here...we want it to be right. :-)
I'm so happy for you and I don't even know you... Some people are jealous... From what you wrote you have a really great guy...
My parents married 6 month of dating or something like that, been married for 42 years... sometimes you just know...
That was very romantic, he sounds so wonderful, and he appreciates you greatly...
Aw congratulations. That is a wonderful memory to keep. When you know, you know!! right?? Ahh I am a tad jealous......does he have a brother????? haha just kidding. Well done - he is a keeper. :-)
Amazing!!! Congratulations. Do not listen to any of those questions. Shame on those who ask them. You just love Guy and let him love you!! When someone asks those questions tell them that is not a concern and we are so happy and love each other so very much so if you want to talk about those facts I am more then willing. .
I think people are always negative when they don't understand things or you do things so radically different than they would.
I would have married Troy the first night I met him so I got a fair few comments. I just rolled my eyes a lot.
The thing that sucks about your rushing it comments is that the only way to prove them wrong is time.
Well, how long have you been dating? No, it's really no one's business, although if it's an incredibly short amount of time, I can see close family members or best friends perhaps saying a little something just out of concern. However, you wrote that he said, "These last months..." so I feel like you've at least been dating 3 or 4 months -right? My parents dated for 3 months and were married for 46 years until my mother passed away, so disregard them if you're happy! Everyone thought my mom was pregnant too -until she didn't have a baby for 6 years!
Obviously you will be together for quite some more time before your wedding, so that should silence others. Just smile and say, "When it's right -you know it's right!" When your belly doesn't grow, they'll know you're not pregnant!
congrats i'm curious as to what was in the other gift bag=)
Don't allow it to be up for discussion?
By the way, congratulations! What a sweet gesture!
Congrats!
As for the "people can be morons" part? The sooner we learn not to compare/contrast our lives to others, the better off we'll be. Be honest, but not snotty. Do what's right for you!
I wanna proposal like yours.. so jealous but so happy for you. CONGRATS.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! If I could make my print any bigger I would!!!
YAHOO!!!
HAPPY DANCE!!!!!
I was married when I met Bob (separated but legally married) and I KNEW he was the one the minute I shook his hand.
Dealing with cynics? Just ignore them. They might be jealous that it happened this way for you - if YOU KNOW in your heart and mind this is right - then don't pay them any attention!!
That's so beautiful! Congratulations. What a thoughtful romantic you have there!
I would deal with the haters with a beaming smile. They say the best revenge is living well. So, prove 'em wrong. You go get your happiness. Grab it with both hands. They will all eat thier words.
my husband and i met in feb, engaged and moved in together in june. we married a year and 3 months later. we went through counseling at our church. we have been married almost 17 yrs. happily i might add. so go for it. congrats. too
Congratulations! What a wonderful memory the two of you have already created, and so many more to come. Life is an adventure, go for it!!
Congrats! Don't let the haters get you down! You both are old enough to make your own decisions and live with whatever comes with that. My ex and I got engaged after 2 1/2 months, married exactly a year from the day we met. We were married for 9 years. My husband now actually put my engagement ring on layaway on our SECOND date!!! We moved in together after knowing each other 4 months, engaged after a year, and married a year after that. We've been married 2 years. And neither one were we pregnant! Lol!!! So don't let them get you down, be happy!!! Oh, and "romantic love" does not have to fade, but I believe your love does deepen as you are together and it isn't always easy. Since we are both in our second marriages, we are committed 100% and will NOT divorce. We are literally in it forever, come what may. Congrats to both of you and I wish you the very best always. =)
What other people think about you is none of your business :) Congratulations!
What a wonderful story! May you have a long and happy life together. As to how to deal with the cynics ... I've found that a somewhat shocked look and a comment along the lines of "My goodness! I would have never thought you would make such a rude comment!" sometimes works wonders.
People will say what they want...unfortunately. I think because the divorce rate is so high, people are naturally skeptical about "true love" when you've only know each other for a few months. Best of Luck!!
Oh, congratulations!
Let the people's comments roll off your back. They're just trying to be *clever*. You know how it is when you want to say something but haven't thought through what to say? Something weird and totally unintelligent always pops out. Those comments say more about the speakers than about you, so don't give them more time or energy than they're worth. Be a lady, smile, and give one-word responses; don't start any conversations over that stuff.
You have better things to occupy your mind right now. You can start planning the wedding and start on the pre-marital counseling (because the marriage is even more important than the wedding!). Sounds to me as if the man who loves you is a smart, romantic fellow!
Wow, congratulation! What a wonderful story!
Don't live yourself for everyone else, live it for you and your significant other. There will always be someone to rain on your parade. And as my husband simply says, "When someone else pays for your bills, then, listen & care what they think". Best wishes to you and may you have a happy life!
Congratulations to you! What a fantastic way to propose - your fiance sounds like a creative guy. Don't listen to the nay-sayers. Some people only know each other for a few months before getting married, and they stay together forever. And others take years to get to the point of getting married. It just doesn't matter. All that matters is that you're happy.
Congratulations!!! How romantic!! Don't worry about what people say. Just live your life and be happy.
Congrats!!!! That's so exciting!!!!!!!!! Don't worry about what others day when you know you have found the right one you know!!!!!!!
Good luck and God Bless!
My husband and I met while I was visiting Germany and he was stationed there. We wrote letters and spent a week with each other 3 times over 2 years. We were scared to get married but we knew we couldn't live without each other. We've been married for 20 years now. You follow your heart. If it feels right for both of you then I say go for it! Congratulations!
No answer to your question, but congratulations! How romantic and fun! I hope your marriage turns out to be the same. :D
Congrats! What a great story! Very unique sounds like a great guy!
As far as the cynics, I like to call them the "uglies"...
I honestly didn't listen to them. I knew I was happy, nothing could bring me down. We were quick dating to engagement as well. Lots of things were said by family on both sides. I was even told by one of his family members I would never be good enough for him and we wouldn't last longer than the sibling and her mate. HAHAHAHA! Jokes on them the perfect couple got divorced two years into their marriage. We are going strong on almost 7 years of marriage.
Back to happy news! CONGRATS! You can see the smile in your writing! Thanks for sharing an awesome engagement story!
As long as YOU don't have any red flags going off, then I say CONGRATS! :)
That was a super way of proposing. Thanks for sharing!
Updated
As long as YOU don't have any red flags going off, then I say CONGRATS! :)
That was a super way of proposing. Thanks for sharing!
