J. ~
The first person you should ask is your DOCTOR! I am not a doctor, but my advice is simple common sense. BAD idea not to use a condom, no matter how well you think you know this man. DO NOT DO THAT AGAIN! What you probably have is just vaginal irritation since you haven't had sex in a long time, especially if you didn't use any lubricant. Or, if you did use lubricant, it could be an allergic reaction. Don't dismiss this! You could have an infection of some type and you don't want it to spread. If you have bumps of any sort, there is a possibility of herpes. Just because someone hasn't had sex in a long time doesn't mean they might not have a disease. Go to your doctor right away. Good luck.
K.
PS) After reading your response to the responses, it seems you do not get it. Your life is not something to take risks with, especially when you have children to care for. You say there is nothing wrong with making love, but yes, there are times when it is wrong. We, as human beings have been given the gift of thought, reason and common sense. We should not live our lives on desires alone. Another reader asked the question as to whether you would want your own children to have premarital sex. Think about that. We are models for our children's behavior. I know this world has become very liberal when it comes to sex, but where has it gotton us? Aids, STDs, unwanted pregnancy, even rape. Not to mention the emotional toll of sexual intimacy with someone you are not completely devoted to. There comes a point when we all should just WAKE UP! Stop secumbing to social pressures. We are bombarded with sex in this society. Please, please think long and hard about your actions. It WILL affect your children, believe me. My words are not meant to be harsh, only to try to tell you to protect the ones you love most. I hope you will take to heart ALL the responses you recieved. People really do care about other human beings.