E.B.
It's all relative. My son went to Kempner for a year and begged to transfer to Dulles. He laughs that at Dulles there are some "posers" who pretend they are in gangs and he says "Mom, they have no clue. Kempner has REAL gangs, the Dulles kids that are acting like that are just posturing." He is much happier at Dulles and has lovely friends there.( He just finished his junior year there.) I have been happy with the teachers he has had- he is not a stellar student and so his teachers have had to work with him. I've also had contact with the counselors and they seem concerned and responsive. (As opposed to the Kempner teacher who told me "Yes, math class is loud. The kids are disruptive, but what are you going to do? Can't help it." HUHH????) He complains that the school is too restrictive and they keep the kids too controlled-but I think that is really what you need in a high school-a little more control than the kids want.... My second child is at DMS and has been very happy there and made the middle school transition with NO problems. We are not zoned to the Dulles area but I have jumped through hoops to get my kids transferred there. I'd move in a minute but we have elderly family close by and can't really do that right now. I've heard Clements is GREAT but also has its share of problems. Because there is money, there are also drug issues- and it is VERY competitive. As a friend of mine reminded me "The rich schools always have the best parties in high school- they are the ones that can afford the drugs and their parents are more likely to leave town and leave the housekeeper/babysitter in charge." I think one of the things you should check on the school ratings is the "free and reduced lunch" percentage. Being poor does not mean a kid will necessarily have problems- but if there are a great many free/reduced lunches, then that means there are a great many kids whose parents/guardians are more concerned w/ getting food in the house and paying bills than worrying about their kid's grades. Also- since your daughter is just 9- realize that by the time she gets to high school the demographics of the school could change again- although Dulles is in a fairly stable area at this point- so there is no guarantee that what we say today will be true in 4 or 5 years. When we moved to our house, Kempner was as good or better a school than Dulles- but lots of apartments and some rezoning later- that is no longer the case . The principal is also a huge factor in how well the school operates,as well as parental involvement. I do have friends whose children go to Kempner- and their kids are having positive experiences there- so it really depends on the kid sometimes. (The ones I know at Kempner are in the GT program which seems to insulate the kids from some of the chaos of school.) In fact, I think the best thing you can do is have a GT kid at any school- those classes are full of kids that want to learn! Next best is to have a kid with an identified learning difference- the counselors keep an eye on those kids and the teachers know who they are. It's the middle of the road kids that can get lost in the shuffle. I'm sure you will get many other comments- good and bad- (and I'll probably get some flak for what I've written!) but everyone's experience is a little different and everyone's kid is a little different. Some will bloom no matter where you send them, others will struggle no matter what, some really do need the ideal circumstances and those are the ones that the right school for them makes the difference. (I'm also a BIG proponent of keeping them with their friends- as long as their friends are ones you like- I can't say enough for how a few good friends can make or break the school experience...)