Dreams?!?! - Borger,TX

I don't how to help you have better dreams but they will most end after you have the baby. I had dreams of giving birth to a mean looking cat - it really freaked me out!

You're stressed. You're having these dreams because you are stressed and worried/scared about what's to come. Thus you are having scary and emotional dreams. Is this your first child? Try to relax, get some books to read to educate yourself about taking care of a newborn etc, so you won't feel so uneasy. Once you feel a little more confident in your ability to handle being a mommy, these dreams should go away.

Perfectly normal! Try drinking milk before bed. It can be in any form... Hot cocoa, warm milk, in cereal... There is something about metabolizing milk which helps you sleep. If you are lactose intolerant or don't do well with dairy, then try Boost drinks. They have about the same effect they are just a little more expensive.

I've been pregnant 3 times. Both my girls went fine. With my son - it was a bit differant. My honey and I split over the pregnancy. He didn't want a child. I felt like when the bullets were flying, he duct and ran for cover and left me standing there in the line of fire. SO, even though he came to his senses and apologized, I hated his nasty guts. The fact that I loved him only fueled my anger. I not only had gorey dreams, but I had really angry fantasies about driving up next to him and throwing a grenade in his car or hitting him in the face with a bat. The more violent the better. They gave me peace and let me sleep! How odd is that. Well, I was really afraid that I was going to hatch a murderer. I mean come on, his mother spent the whole pregnancy dreaming about killing his father. But after I had him, the dreams went away and he is the happiest little love bug ever. I finally forgave daddy and let him come back and all is well. I am not violent and would never hurt anyone. But the dreams allowd me to subconciously and consciously work through my anger and frustration. ALl sorts of old emotional stuff crept up on me during that pregnancy. Maybe hormones, maybe because I was really tired. But I was visited by all sorts of ghosts of old heartaches. Now they are neatly compartmnetalized just as before. I think pregnancy just opened the emotional flood gates. I'm saying all that to say I went through it, it was out of character for me, but still I think it's realtively normal and it does end. Get as much rest as possible and cry if you need to. Before bed, try yoga, a prayer, and a hot bath. Spend 10 minutes just before you lay down journaling. That will help get some of that out before you close your eyes. But try to focus on the positive so you fall asleep with positive thoughts. I dont know if dr will sign off on it, but Melatonin is great for restful sleep. Ask 1st.

I had a lot of dreams when I was pregnant. I don't dream a lot now, but when I do, they come in form of very realistic dreams of those who have passed and left an impression in my life.

My most recent dream was of someone who I called Aunt, but she was my XBILs Aunt. She was the most beautiful person and I loved visiting her and her family. Her home was one of those open door gathering homes for everyone. I never saw her in the dream, but she was definitely there. For some reason I was next door and walking past her house which was like story book/Hollywood false walled dining room space full of teenaged kids eating. These kids were all her Grandchildren and there wasn't enough room for them, but they were there and sitting on stools, end tables, and where ever else they could find with their plate. Like I said, I never saw her, but I tried so hard to stay in the dream because I was waiting for her to come out...I really wanted to see her. I shared that with my friend (XBILs sister) and she was touched. I don't visit the house anymore, but I am certain that is how it is.

I used to feel bad that I had the dreams, but now I just take them as blessings to remember those who were so wonderful in my life.

Your question struck a chord with me. Up until a few years ago I would have emotionally draining, violent and upsetting dreamse several times a week. Around that time I was diagnosed with severe depression and got treatment, including counseling. In therapy I told my counselor that I was having these bizarre, horrible dreams and we talked about them. She said that I was having these dreams (the violent ones particularly) because on some level I was frightened of being attacked or killed. Turns out I still had some issues left over from when my father was accidentally shot and killed when I was a child. We worked through those issues and I no longer have those dreams. Although I will say that issues surrounding his death do pop up again whenever I am in a very stressful point in life or at a big milestone. Maybe this is what's happening with you - you are pregnant, your brain could be sorting through the implications of this new life you are bringing into the world yet your brother is no longer in the world.

One more thing that helped me (although the only long-term fix was to deal with the underlying issues) was to write the dream down. Somehow writing it down made it less powerful, and then the next day I would talk to my husband about it. Somehow talking about it made it less real and put it into the context of my real life.

Having any kind of bizaar dreams - sexual or no sexual, is normal. I had very strange dreams for all 3 of my pregnancies - don't even remember what they were about, but they were bizaar. Maybe you need to talk about your brother's death? Maybe you are not completely at peace w/ his death like you say you are? Perhaps a therapist could help you, because if you talk about his death during the day when you are awake (to a therapist or even a friend or relative), hopefully your brain will be satisfied that you already discussed it and let it out, and that it will give you a peaceful night's sleep. However, being pregnant, that may not work. I think it's worth a try, but your pregnant hormones might be in control no matter what you do. The good news is that these dreams should definately go away once you give birth. Hang in there. So sorry!

Have you ever read "Potatoes, not prozac". This woman suggest eating potatoes before going to bed - to help with dreams.

Good luck!
L.

My daughter had really bad weird dreams during the last two months of her pregnancy. She'd dream about people cutting her open and taking the baby, or stealing him after he'd been born. We don't know what caused it, and after a few weeks, they just stopped.