Hi J.,
I am so glad you post, I love this kind of websites because it allows to let it all.
I am very sorry you have been through so much in such a small amount of time, but very happy that you are going to get your house soon. I think that should help a little, I hope all the other sad things you are going throught don't stop you from appreciate and enjoy the fact that you have a house, many people don't include me : (
I think we woman see sex different then men, not only we have this hormones but most of us need to have peace of mind to enjoy it or even think about enjoy. The good think we have is that we can fake, they (men) can't really fake it, I mean, how they could say they enjoy if you know what is not up. Perhaps when you have your own home and other of the problems get resolve you should just do it. Yes, one day just do it even if you don't feel like it, what are the odds that once you start you enjoy it! It doesn't hurt to try. I would talk to your husband about this matter, I don't know if you are concern about his feelings, which probably cause you more stress, and once you talk each other about other you may found out that he understand and that he is not expecting nothing right now besides affection and kisses, or if he does him knowing what is going on is better then just thinking you don't found him attractive or care. I keep telling my husband: "One of this days I will get you, just don't know when because I am to tired...but be ready one of this days, lol".
I look in Wikipedia, I LOVE WIKIPEDIA, about alopecia, so I could help you in that matter, I didn't found anything about home remedies but they did talk about Minoxidil (aka Rogaine and all of those) it does say that it does work, a little but it does, however stop working if you stop using them. Also I read that the condition may stop and hair could grow back and that stress it could be a unknow factor for the hair lost.
I have been through a lot of stress and I have lost some hair and getting TONS of grays, and I found out that is true, stress is our enemy, not only for hair but wrinkles and healthy issues.
y advice after all this post, is:
-Keep posting, talk, talk, talk, let it all out, not only you are making you a favor to let out some of that stress you make me feel better because I learn about new things and I feel great to help others and maybe we (you, me and all the other momis in here can figurate something or at least cry/laugh together.
-Keep your self busy, I am not talking about house shore, kids stuff busy, but things for you. I would read, read, read all about alopecia, to learn more, found out new remedies and even help other people that are going through the same.
-Keep comunication open with your hubby, we ALL fight, but don't let this stop you from comunicate. Try every once in a while to have sex just because, you may get a good surprise one day, and if not, oh well, you will try later.
-Be kind to your self, you just have a baby, sold your house, work with what you can (add a little more miles in those walks and show those beautiful legs, are you breastfeeding, wear a nice top to show those new girls you got) I will tell you, if I am wearing a tight shirt (I became 34DD after baby 2) my husband wouldn't even notice if I color my hair!
-Be grateful, I am ashame to tell you all we lost in a year, but every time I feel bad about it I think in when I didn't have where to live and I am soo thankful for anything.
Hope see your posting soon