I have struggled with this since my twins started preschool. Some would call them very shy, others say, " they just like to do their own thing". while I would see the other children having lots of friends.
At times each would tell me they played alone at recess ( gut wrenching )
I have to say it was a gut feeling. We mama's have great instincts. GO WITH YOUR GUT.
My kids have 2-4 kids they call friends . One really struggles to have a steady friendship and the other gloms on to one kid every year.
This in MY CASE was just one of the things i picked up on that i thought was not typical.
Is there anything else that you think is "off" about your child? Behaviors?
If not, don't worry. I found busting my hump to make playdates, helped
give them more confidence, but did not help them to accumulate a bigger ring of friends.
In my case, all the behaviors put together alarmed me. Finally, they were found to be on the autism spectrum. They are high functioning and verbal, nobody would know it unless they lived with them, and if i told them, probably would not believe me.
Anyway, i hope i haven't freaked you out.. there is such a thing as social akwardness, unrelated to autism. I AM NOT saying your child is on the spectrum, i am merely sharing my experience. Knowledge is power right?
do some reading, hopefully thy are just shy. Try some playdates..?
:)