Do You Worry a Lot???

Okay, I would just take your own advice...get ALL those books and throw them away!

My son was a preemie, and I had to throw out ALL the timelines and expectations and just go with it. Babies are so amazing, and they do things as they are ready for them...with a little guidance of course.

It's TOTALLY okay to worry, but don't let it overwhelm you. Like Susan wrote, your little boy will be able to ready your feelings and apprehensions. So, relax and let him be the wonderful little person he's meant to be, and keep doing the best job you can!

My son is also my first, and I remember reading like ten books and taking notes and keeping a journal of things, and the first thing the NICU nurse who took care of my son told me was 'LEAVE IT ALL BEHIND' and write your own book on baby care.

I keep a journal of all the amazing things my son has done, and how awesome he is and that is something today I look back on and read with so many tears of joy. He's almost 2.5 years old and it's a miracle what our kids can teach us.

Best of luck to you!

Deanna

It's very normal to feel worried or anxious about your baby... especially the first child.

But maybe what may help keep it in perspective is (1) the Doctor says he's FINE!
(2) keeping in mind that, babies and children CAN feel the "vibes" that a Mom has... and this may/can affect them. I'm sure you wouldn't want your child to "feel" your worrying and then begin to get affected by it, or to feel hang-ups about it as he gets older. You wouldn't want "your" worrying to debilitate him, Right???
Some children are very sensitive and perceptive....and they will absorb any "emotional" upheaval or lack of, internally. And it affects them, negatively. So, this may help to keep you mindful of any worrying beyond what is necessary. You don't want your child getting neurotic or something as he matures I"m sure.

Were you the "worrying" type prior to having a baby, or just once you had your baby? If you are "constantly" worrying about your son, more than what is 'normal' and you find that it is all consuming....then perhaps talk with your Doctor as well.

In the long run, a Mom does worry about her children, it's normal. But if your worrying is something you "cannot" control or come to terms with, then there is nothing wrong with speaking to someone about it... for help.

All the best,
Susan

Hi
Yes, I did this with my first baby too. However, I came to realize that the baby books are JUST GUIDES, and every child is different. Try to stress less and enjoy more. Also, it might be helpful to join a mom's group to see other babies and talk to other moms
Good luck

Jessica,

What you are going through is very normal.
I can't relate about the milestone thing, for whatever reason, with my first I just never thought to worry about that (too many other things to worry about? LOL!) My advice is to definetly try to stop. It's OK to get the babycenter emails that tell you where your child "should" be, keeping in mind, these are JUST guidelines. However, if it is affecting your relationship with your baby, in other words, you are worrying more about these things than just being in the moment then stop. I have a girlfriend that obsessed with BOTH her babies (they are 3 and 6 now) and these kids are just as anxious as she. Your little one will pick up on your stress/fears, etc..

Enjoy your sweet thing, embrace that all babies/children ARE different. Trust me, your gut will let you know when you really need to worry about something.

M.

HI Jessica,

I can relate yes as far as the worrying goes, I worry about everything, do you normally worry that much? It's just the thing you have chosen to worry about at the moment. When my first daughter who is now 18 was born I went through a phase where I worried about how safe she was and how unsafe and terrible the world was and the horrible things that could happen to her, maybe it was a little bit of post partum depression, I don't know but it wasn't fun. I think it's an anxiety symptom, which i know I do have. I know you know in your head that your son is doing just fine, your a good mommy, keep up the good work and I know easier said then done...don't worry so much!!!

Take care..M.

you know thats common for first time moms. i however was 22 when i had my daughter and never worried. well i cant say never because i stress every time she gets sick (long story short she got pnuemonia from meconium had a week long stay in the nicu and now has asthma). but i never worried about her milestones because i didnt stress it. i would make sure she was moving a long in the alotted time for them but thats it. my daughter has always done them all early. rolling at 2 months, sitting at 4, pulling up and crawling at 4 1/2, going from crawling to sitting and vise versa at 5, cruising at 6 months and fully walking at 8-9 months. as long as your sons dr isnt worried i wouldnt be either. i wouldnt toss the books just yet but use them as a guideline to help you along. dont read them soo much that they make you over think :)