Do You Have Problems with Other Peoples Opinions

I tend to answer off questions.

Questions I have strong opinions on.

Or where I have personal Experience on the matter......these are the ones I tend to speak out on the most.

It does not irk me so to speak. Sometimes peoples opinions or points of view scare me. And I have trouble seeing their side on things.

I am learning tolerance right now. Dealing with large groups of people with vast differing opinions. Which can be a nightmare.

This is making me see where I may have been to judgmental on a few things.

Even still I will defend what I know is right. I will be truthful and can only hope, people can see me for who I am.

If I feel strongly enough about the issue (politics, for instance -- or the judge beating the puddin' out of his teenage daughter), then I'll respond. Although, sometimes I just read what everyone else has said w/out posting my comment because many times it's the same ole position rehashed and I've already made my opinion known many times before.

I only have problems with other people's opinions when they're wrong. :)

What do you consider a volatile question? I look for people opinions on the outside of a situation because sometimes me being on the inside I would wantto do a self check to make sure I am processing things clearly. It does not irk me when others do not see my point of view for many reasons.

I have LEARNED to agree to disagree. A poster told me yesterday that if I had to put an item into lay away and could not afford to purchase right away than I should not purchase it.

I laughed at her opinion because it was just that! as I said in my post lay away works for me! I am not putting the item on a credit card and paying interest, I am not putting several items away at a time but I am building MY wardrobe 1 or 2 pieces at a time (which is MY goal) all while not missing a beat on our budget....

Well, MartyMOMMA,

I think everyone has an opinion.

I find it funny that some feel if they just go back and "explain" their points again, the person with opposing views will "come around" to their way of thinking. That's just NOT going to happen on many topics. While I do believe that POV may change over time, I don't think you're ever going to change the opinion of a passionately pro-lifer about abortion, like I'm likely never going to be a conservative, etc.

I will gladly state my opinion on lots of issues "volatile" and otherwise. People are free to learn, consider or dismiss, as we all are with anything you offer.

"What do you do" if someone doesn't see your point? Really, what can you do if their opinion is well thought about, informed, etc.? Nothing.

Where I have issue is
*uninformed opinions (you know, people that believe everything they read or hear in the internet or extremely slanted media sources) and choose to focus o the talking points that they are spoon-fed. But...still...you can't change opinion for the most part

*Backbiting and behind-the-scenes gossip and general underhanded sneakiness that just increases divisiveness in an office, a website, a family, etc.

*Attempting to lie to others about others in order to garner more support (like this site is real life and we're all back in 6th grade!)

*Failure to at least consider that not every situation fits a cookie-cutter mold of "right" and "wrong"

There are times that people with opposing views really make me stop....and think....and cause me to at least consider another aspect that I hadn't thought about, or learn facts I had not been exposed to....

I answer some of the volatile questions, but a lot of times I just read them. When I think of "volatile" questions, I tend to assume ones that elicit a pretty strong reaction either way....either you are for or against the topic on a base level (such as vaccinations or politics). In those instances, I think most people have a very set opinion from the beginning. So, while I will try and take others points of view into account, they generally have to have a VERY strong argument to change my opinion.

I don't mind other people points of view so much as the WAY in which certain people present their points of view.

Yes I like to answer thier questions. I always try to see thier pov and sometimes you have to read between the lines... other time you have to take it at face value. Sometimes I have to go back later on and read it again when Im in a different mood and see if I am seing thier pov for what it is before answering.

Yes I have others way miss my pov! Then it seems like once in awhile other don't fully read what i write but go off how someone else answered and then they are both way off of track. I have learned trying to defend or explain myself always seems to get it more messed up than what I was trying to say in the first place lol. So I just brush it off and go on and figure it out my way.

Other times after I have gotten past my bumb Im asking about and go back and read some of the responses that I thought was off track and thought... hmm maybe they were more on track than I thought and I should have opened my mind a little bit more and listened.

Then you have the ones that will still be out in left field and even having a gps and a personal guide still wont get them even close to what I was asking about lol Those are ones that get ignored.

BAHHH! CAWriter beat me too it! :)

I do answer the volatile ones, if I have something to say. I try to look at things from every view point. Sometimes really different viewpoints irk me....but only because they are so wrong. (Kidding of course).

I don't tend to answer but I enjoy reading the exchange.

I read questions, or "So what happened" comments, and realize sometimes that someone is not worth my time. I read things sometimes and think "that person is annoying", or "I don't like the tone that she routinely writes in". But then, generally, I just move on to one that is more interesting or open to hear what people have to say, rather than feel any opinion out of agreement with their own is invalid.
Do I answer volatile questions? I like to read someone's question and what they have to say about it, and read other answers (sometimes I answer off the cuff first, sometimes I read first), and if that person seems OPEN and actually asking a question rather than just posting a gripe, yeah I like to answer volatile questions. Sometimes I see where someone is coming from but still disagree for my own reasons, other times I've been like "Hark! Never thought of that". However, someone needs to have (at least in my mind) a valid point before I can be swayed. Do I try to see other points of view? Yeah, if they actually have one, and are not totally dislikable in how they word things. Does it irk me if my point isn't at least seen or acknowledged? Nah. I really like several moms on here, and have had little private conversations with some of them that have nothing to do with any questions, but we don't agree with everything we say. I have read some answers from some people and been like "No, No, NO!" and then the next thing I see from that person, I'm sending a flower to. However, the TONE and attitude behind something makes all the difference. I do feel irked by people who have a little martyr syndrome where they think if someone disagrees that they are either idiots or "attacking". That's lame. Usually, I just ignore it. Right now though, eh. My chores are done, dinner's done, the boys are napping......I'm bored enough to answer today. :)

My intention with ALL posts that I respond to is to help and make life easier for the mom/dad if I can. I do like to answer the volatile questions and to get a better perspective on how other people feel vs. how I do etc. I always try to view it from the person's perspective and look at things objectively. It doesn't bother me if people agree with me or not-- I feel everyone has the right to feel however they feel and I strongly support that! As far as what do I do if they don't see my point? I don't do anything. There is no reason to fight or bicker about differing opinions etc. Everyone has the right to their opinion and as long as no one is infringing on my right to have an opinion, I don't mind at all. You never know when you might gain valuable info and realize that your way of thinking wasn't the best and another person's way of thinking makes perfect sense. I am open to that and welcome that. So...no attacks from me. Bring on the differences, I love it!
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Only when they differ from mine! lol
The volatile questions are the most interesting. They get my blood pressure up and engage my brain. I answer truthfully, from the heart if I have something to add to the debate. I base my answers on what I know, not what I heard. If I am paraphrasing someone else, I give them creidt. It annoys me when someone just vomits what they heard on the pseudo news last night and claims it as an original thought.

I skip all the political questions. I spent 5 years married to a poli-sci major. Any desire to discuss or debate politics was burned out of me long ago.

But I will weigh in on breastfeeding/co-sleeping type questions and those can get pretty volatile. I TRY to approach it from the angle of sharing my experience and what did and did not work for ME and hoping that will help them find what works for THEM....

Yes - I try to see the poster's pov and I often do answer volatile questions as they tend to be some of the most interesting. I don't have a problem with other people's opinions and I've learned a ton on this site. I can and do have a problem sometimes with how someone presents their opinion. Arrogant, no room for discussion, insulting etc. If someone presents their opinion in that fashion, they should be open to people responding in kind and not be upset about it.

I LOVE seeing different opinions from mine. If I wanted only my own opinions, I wouldn't even waste my time coming here--I'd just ask my sister or my mom for their input. I like to have my notions challenged and to be called out when I am wrong about something.

If someone doesn't see my point, it is probably because 1) I failed to articulate it adaquately, or 2) they have some deeply held belief/prejudice that won't allow them to see my point. Still, if they make reasonable & logical remarks, and remain civil, I will take it into consideration.

Yes I always try to see myself from the poster's point of view...
Yes I like to answer volatile questions....
Yes it irks me if someone cannot even consider my point of view but am more understanding if they cannot see it.

When this happens I try to get links to articles or research to back me.