Do You Care What You Look like down There?

I couldn't care less what it looks like. The only reason I trim at all is because my husband loves to give me cunnilingus, I love getting it, and he says that he prefers that sex and flossing be separate activities.

I think it is generational. Pretty much all of my girlfriends shave or wax, or at the very least keep themselves trimmed very short. I'm 30.

I tried to keep up with it when I was pg, but when I couldn't reach/see anymore, I gave up and just shaved the bikini line the best I could.

Nope, I didn't. But, in all honesty, I really don't care most of the time. I trim if I'm going to be in a bathing suit, or when the bush is becoming a jungle. Having pubic hair, doesn't make me feel more or less sexy (though, completely shaved pubic areas aren't MY cup of tea), and my husband isn't bothered by pubic hair either. If it's not actually getting in the way of...things, or popping out while swimming, trimming is not where I choose to spend my aesthetic/beautifying time.

I always cared. I couldn't always REACH.

Towards the end I started waxing (LOVE waxing, just can't really justify the expense). Sigh. I'd had a waxing appt for the day AFTER my son was born and I was over due to get waxed. Granted, I was in enough pain I didn't give a rip at the time, but it was grand central station in our birthing room (if I ever had another baby I'd "elope").

TMI to follow:

Especially with all the blood for the next several weeks (and not being able to use tampons) I REALLY wish I'd made that waxing appointment. Adding insult to injury... having your vajayjay glued together with dried blood caked in the hair in the morning is just one. more. thing. to have to deal with that I really rather would not have. Not to mention throughout the day having to wet wipe, and wet wipe, and wet wipe... it's just plain annoying. I had a septic tank at the time, so I couldn't even flush them (flushable ones, of course). What do you DO with all those wipes? Stink up the bathroom? Ziplock bag? On zero sleep I'm supposed to also be dealing with THIS??? Ugh. I trimmed as well as I could once I could reach again, but it took over a week before I was able to.

i kept it trimmed until i couldnt see "down there" anymore. Then my husband trimmed it. I was laughing the whole time he was doing it so i had bald spots, but it makes for a great memory!Good Luck

oh, i always cared. especially cause i knew people would be seeing me. not like they don't see 50 a day :), but i like it to be "clean"

I'm sorry but I would NOT allow my husband anywhere near my foo foo with a blade!
Growing up, none of my friends shaved, plus being European, it was not seen over there too much - now it is, and seeing as I live in Texas I do trim it for bathing purposes. My hubby doesn't care if it's bushy, or non bushy, so mostly. It's bushy.

I didn't bother because I didn't have the energy to deal. I did with both my kids though got waxed just before birth. I did not want to be able to see and not like it (once baby was out) and also not be able to deal with it. My waxer was like you don't know how many about to pop (yeah, she's in her 20s) mom I get in here, I hope no one goes into labor on me. Good luck and congrats!!

"Kept up" the trimmings? Doesn't that imply I was trimming to begin with?:^)

Sorry. I'll do anything for love...but I won't do that! Owie.

Absolutely! I may not have done as um, precise, of a job, but who wants to look at that all "not taken care of"?! I just looked in the mirror or went by memory....

Lots of my girlfriends got waxed down there during their latter months of pregnancy. Now, I never went that far.

Mum 4 ever - I think it may be a generational thing....my friends and I all wax and some are dark and hairy, some are not. Ages range from 27-32.

=)

Out of sight, out of mind, I say! LOL

No, once I couldn't see down there anymore, I figured I'd rather be unkempt than try to injure my parts by taking care of it without being able see it. As long as it's washed and clean, who cares? There's enough to worry about during pregnancy without adding that.

My husband kept it up for me, lol.. Seriously... It was a lot easier for him to see me, then me to see myself..

When I was pregnant? No I didn't care at all, once I couldn't see, I no longer worried about it.

i'm lucky...hubby like it "natural"!!! Just a little shave on the sides and I'm good to go! whoo hoo!!!!

Funny isn't it how we feel about ourselves when we are prego...with my first daughter I didn't care...with my second pregnancy my oldest was taking swim lessons and I was the only one willing to swim with her since an adult had to be in the pool too. So my darling hubby, the wonderful man he is, waxed me down there so I wouldn't be hairy in the pool. LOL So, I think it is your preference. If you don't have a reason to shave, then don't worry about it. Who knows your hubby might enjoy doing it for you, mine even did my legs for both pregnancies. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and don't fret the little things. You are still beautiful!! Good luck and God Bless!

during my last months of pregnancy I wasnt even shaving my upper legs let alone pubic hair

until I could reach, I did what I could, after that, I quit caring. figured the doctors could probably care less and they were the only ones that were looking!

I kept it trimmed. I'd usually did it while taking a bath, which made it easier to see and reach.

I think it's generational. I have light, not very thick hair, but I hate when it is long. I just feel cleaner and fresher when it is short and trimmed around the edges.

Sorry if Im repeating or this is TMI:

I would at least trim it up very short before you give birth. If you can't reach and don't feel comfortable doing it with a mirror, ask your partner or make an appt. w/a professional. You will have SO much blood coming out after you give birth. The last thing you want is it all dried up in the hair when you get up in the morning. It will hurt and it will be a pain (literally ) to deal with. Also, you'll feel alot cleaner which is a big plus considering what's going on "down there" :)

I kept up with it, I have a little trick where i can hold the razor at its head, not the stem and maneuver it over the curves without looking. I AM very o.c.d. about my hair down there. I just feel sexier against my clothes/panties. When i feel sexier i am happier. When im happier so is everyone else i come into contact with.

it kept it shaved down there during my pregnancy. Like you, as my belly got bigger, it got a little more complicated. I put a mirror on the bathroom floor so I could actually see what was going on. LOL. I also wanted to keep it nice so that when I delivered, I wouldn't look like I had Don King in a head lock. LOL.

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Feel cleaner when I'm clean down there but hate shaving for a multitude of reasons. Have been waxing for years and waxed throughout entire pregnancy.

I just have to ask after reading all the posts.....is this a younger generational thing to shave or wax or care how much pubic hair there is????

Or is this from darker haired women who grow bushels of hair???

I never cared, but there's not much to care about...I will trim the sides a little in the summer so my curly blonde hairs are not protruding outside the bathing suit.

I couldn't care less. LOL! I completely let it go... my doctor didn't say one word to me, no weird looks or anything either... and I sure as sugar didn't get shaved by anyone at the hospital!!! (I didn't get trimmed either... I think it depends on the hospital...) Honestly, I don't think they care too much. Whatever your situation is 'down there', I'm sure they have seen worse. :P And really, it wasn't that hard to keep clean afterward. I had that little water bottle that I sprayed water (which I guess you are told to do anyway...) and I would wipe, and that was that. After a couple weeks went by and I was brave enough (and able to stay awake long enough) to mess around with that area, I got it back under control.

I kept manicured the entire time. Just cant stand not to. When it got to a point that I couldnt see - I either did in the tub or did the best that I could do . . :) DH offered but I didnt trust him w/a razor :)

i gave up when I could no longer see. It was too hard to get a good angle in the mirror! and forget having someone else do it!! ouch!

just cut it a little-I'm not a waxer or shaver of that area because of breakout, ingrowns, and I'd have to shave it a few times a day to keep it clean! but they had to shave the top inch for my c-section. and it was one of my former mom's at daycare that did it! she shaved and we caught up. a little awkward!

I got waxed every 4 weeks. I did prior to pregnancy, and just kept it up. I just didn't like the way I felt if I didn't.

yes I kept it up! I care adn it gets uncomfortable if I don't. I usually wax so I don't have bumps and when I couldn't Hubby took care of it for me :)

And yes most Dr's shave you when it's time but when they did it with my first there was no shave cream or anything, dry junk disposable razor which left me with sore & painfull bumps for weeks....do it your self (or your hubby) before its time if you can.

I am almost 39 weeks preggo. I stay groomed, but I don't really care that it is even or sightly hahaha!! I can't see a darn thing, so I try. It is what it is!

let it go. Yes I cared, but I was helpless to do anything about it.

1) yes.
2) when pregnant and/or I could not reach down there, then well, too bad.
Or, my Hubby on occasion has done it for me.
3) Your OB/GYN does not care. They see all kinds and know when pregnant well it is hard to keep things trimmed.

:)

I cared. For me it's more comfortable to keep it neat and trimmed.
I guess I had an advantage though...I have always been chunky and have always gone on feeling for it to shave it. Almost like brail (lol that sounded bad). I mean I could see it non pregnant (and even chunky had a flat-ish tummy), but it's not how I started shaving it. So when I was pregnant and had the belly it didn't hinder me trimming the hedge.
Riley J and Amanda C summed up the whole blood issue I wanted to avoid. The thought of it just irked me. Sounds weird I know, but it was something I had thought about.

Nope, I couldn't care less.

Great question. lol that people's husband's helped! I did my best to keep it up and had a wax about 36 weeks along, all the estheticians are moms and did it too! but truthfully noone cares!

I did and do - pregnant or not. I have a trimmer for "regular" maintenance but will fully shave once or twice a month. I am one of the lucky ones that Hubby helped out when I finally got to round to manuvuer around. I actually found that sitting as wide legged as possible on the tiolet worked best for trimmings. The trimmings would fall into the bowl. Full shaves really need to be lathered up and soapy so that was more a shower or tub situation.

I know that Hubby probably wouldn't care either way when I was preggers and I know the doctors see all sorts of kinds, but for me, I hate the bushy feel (like CherylO)! I also found things easier to keep clean post-partum without all that interference (as someone already mentioned).

Good luck!
~C.

I'm answering late but was cracking up at some of these answers!
I always shave and even through all my pregnancies I've kept doing it. I always just squat in the shower then you don't have to worry about "being able to reach" when you have a huge belly.
(and yes, Pamela Raven & son is always nasty)

I first trimmed when I was in high school and a cheerleader....then as i got older - I HAD to - couldn't stand the bushy feeling anymore!!!

My very best gf was here when my son was born - she shaved me..my husband was scared he was going to cut me...LOL!!!!

Still keep it trimmed....I don't see P,R&S's but usually - she can be nasty - she started a whole huge drama a few months back about breast feeding and admonishing mom's who didn't breast feed..man...is all i can say!!!

I always attempted to maintain my grooming. Yes, it got complicated! As I got bigger, I would just shave for my appointments, but as I got closer to delivery I tried to stay as tidy as possible. Somehow was able to do a side-bend to see enough of myself to get the job done!

I just recently had my third baby girl almost 4 months ago and I always kept up with myself. I know what you mean when you say its hard I would use mirrors, prop my legs up, and etc. It was crazy. I mostly did this because I wanted to still look sexy for my husband and also for myself. I did not want to go to my dr.'s office and them see me all not polished lol! I did not go to the extreme just made sure it was nice and tidy.

I did.... I cared - so I kept up with it.

i cant stand the thought f being hairy, so when i got too big, my WONDERFUL hubby kept it up for me. what a sweet heart ;)

I cared what I looked like down there as I did everywhere else on my body.It does get harder as belly gets bigger.I disliked the bushy untamed bush that needing trimming but didn't.

Wow, some hospitals still shave you for child birth?? I did not realize that. With my first baby I kept it shaved the entire time. I was worried what the doctor would think. ;) lol With my second baby I did keep it shaved/trimmed the best I could, but I don't think I was as worried that time!

I'm 33 weeks pregnant with my second child, I'm lucky if I can even see down there, haha! I do care what it looks like, but at 8 months pregnant, it's hard to deal with myself. My husband is so sweet, and he takes care of the trimming for me.

I always got waxed... then the mani/pedi.

When my belly got too big for me to see down there I had my husband wax/shave the area for me.

I kept up with it....I don't have an OCD....I felt groomed and good about myself...I did go to a professional...well worth it. :)

LOL, like some of the other mothers, I stopped when I couldn't see it anymore. My hubby groomed me once when I was pg with baby #1 though :) -at my request not his insistance, I didn't marry a jerk.

I kept trimmed just to keep the area easy to clean (and a little less sweaty) but I didn't care what I looked like.

I follow the "if I can't see it I don't shave it" rule when I'm pregnant! LOL! :)

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I follow the "if I can't see it I don't shave it" rule when I'm pregnant! LOL! :)

I kept up with it until I could not longer see it! After that I didn't care and wasn't worried about it.

I used to be super crazy about keeping a manicured look especially living in Florida. Now, I'm not at the beach or in a swimsuit as much so I don't care. My husband doesn't really care either. When I was pregnant I tried to keep a neat look but couldn't after a while. My hospital did shave me some, so I don't know. I've gotten very lax about shaving to the point I only shave below my knees for the most part! I'm so bad but it's just a pain in the bum in my opinion.

i did before with my first and my husband would actually hold a mirror for me when i got alot bigger. And i am now pregnant with our 2nd and yes i do care what i look like down there and im fixing to be 6 months so i dont need my husbands help just yet. But even if i let it grow out a bit my husband likes it.