Do I CARE? LOL... absolutely. I take that as a granted. Or I would never bother looking nice. I'd just be comfortable. :) I LIKE when other people find me pretty, attractive, competent, exciting, interesting, etc. I like feeling approval / attraction / respect.
Does it matter? Nope. Not usually.
Because I don't need it. I simply ENJOY it.
Some people NEED other people's approval (my husband is one), and the approval of strangers is more important than the approval of people close to them OR themselves.
I'm just selfish in that I go in the opposite direction.
My own approval first
Those I love 2nd
Everyone else is 3rd.
I only NEED the 1st
Not having the 2nd hurts, but I don't need it
Not having the 3rd is "pshaw".
2 & 3 are BONUS. If and only if, I have my own approval. I don't care how much other people like _________, if I feel badly about it. Screw them, I need to get my self respect back. As long as I have my self respect, though, then other people's approval is just icing on the cake. Warm fuzzies.