Divorce with 16 Month Old

look up Joe Beam and his book, Your love path. He offers marriage weekends for marriages in crisis
http://www.lovepathinternational.com/Joe_Beam.php
if you and your husband are willing to give it one last try- try this. I will be praying for you!
God Bless!
~C.

edit: I just read this from his blog- thought it might give you some hope:

Another Weekend of Miricles: Joe Beam

All day Friday, Saturday, and Sunday Alice and I, along with Charles Hayden and Jon Hazelip, will be in workshop with several married couples. Most face major issues in their relationship. Most are in crisis. We often hear from participants that we are the “last effort” before proceeding with divorce. Actually, some who come have already filed for divorce, but come just in case there is one last chance.

At the end of the day on Friday, I usually tell Alice that NONE of them are going to make it. By Saturday evening, I tell her there may be a few, and then on Sunday evening can tell her with fair accuracy which will make it and which will not. Our average, over ten years, is three of four couples salvaging the marriage and making it good again. While I’d love to see that at 100%, I guess it will never happen. Too much hurt. Too much stubbornness. Too much fear. Too much anger. I could go on but you get the idea. The fact that we have the success rate we do is a miracle in itself. Most, sometimes every, couple shows up with at least one spouse who doesn’t want to be there. They come to salve conscience, placate parents, demonstrate love for their children, or to get someone - such as a pastor - off their backs. A three of four success rate when so many come with other intentions than trying to save the marriage is amazing, don’t you think?

As much as I dread experiencing so much pain, I have one of these workshops every month. It drains all of us but it is so very needed and must go on. Every marriage that God uses us to save is valuable. Each is crucially important to children, friends, community, and the kingdom of God.

Please pray for us and for all the couples who will be there.

If God puts a couple in trouble in your path, send them to us. Get them to come even if they don’t want to. With God at work, we have a strong chance of seeing that marriage healed

I am sorry you have to go through this. I just went through it and know the pain and grief that you are feeling. I know that miracles can happen and people can reconcile, but you have the right to move on with your life and accept it, if this is your husband's wishes. My husband also walked out of the marriage so I know how painful this is. I ended up being the one who filed because I made a decision that I did not want to be married to someone who did not cherish me. He had gotten an apartment by then and I had asked about having a trial separation with counseling but he would not do that. We have two kids and that is what makes filing such a tough decision. As women, our choices can be really tough but you are stronger than you think! It gets better and more peaceful with time. I was wreck when he left, I could not eat or sleep, lost 15 lbs in 3 weeks but I just could not eat anything. It was almost as if I was sick in a way. I don't think anyone understands that has not been through it. All I can say is that it gets better. Bless your heart, hang in there!

Have you also went to marriage counceling ? If he was the one wanting out, why did you file for divorce and yes you can cancel it. If you are hoping he won't let it go through, you are sending him the wrong signal, filing would sound like you want it. I have no idea what your problems were, but ask yourself if they were things that would probably never change, or something that could be worked on, or if you like the idea of being with this person , but in reality you know you are wrong for each other, and you aren't going to make a pleasant home for your daughter anyway.

I am so sorry that you are going through this. I am also separated after 21 years of marriage. I know the heartbreak you are feeling. I just wanted to share with you what happened with my friend...they got a divorce and realized that they didn't want that after all. Since they decided this before their divorce was over 30 days old they just had to go and file some paperwork that voided the divorce. I tell you this to let you know that there is always hope. You keep on praying and God is going to help you through no matter what way this ends up. I am not sure anyone could tell you that you filed too early or too late...I know how you feel about questioning if you did the right thing. Hang in there. My friends tell me that with time it gets better. I pray that is so.
Best of luck and much peace!
C.