Disrespect

Baby have I been there!
The nine year old still has issues.
Get thyself a job my lady.
Make money of your own and a life for yourself.
Retail with odd hours will really send them over.
The world will not fall out of orbit if you do not cook super or wash clothes.
They have to learn some time. You will feel better.
At this point it is self preservation!!!
Make a list of chores, assign them, forget them.
If they don't happen refer all complaints to the one who was assigned. (Do your own laundry) Whiners are normal.
Get out of that house!!!!

Besides it works better if you have the job thing than just going on strike.

My boys are now 16, 18 and 20 and I don't remember the last time that I did their laundry. I used to and when all of my step kids were living at home also, they didn't want me to do their laundry but we were having trouble with everyone waiting until 9 pm and needing a load of laundry for the next day... not possible.

My husband's ex-wife actually helped us to solve this dilemma, she had certain nights set aside for each of her children to use the washer and dryer and if they didn't use their time then they had to wait until next week. Hang in there honey, you can make it work!!

When I was growing up I had chores(i am 40). My girls both have chores! If they don't do them they are grounded! They lose privlages!~ As for there rooms, it goes the same!Yes they get mad, but they will get over it! It is good for kids to have responsibilities! As for the supper, I cook every night most of the time. If they don't like what we have they don't have to eat it. But they can't have a snack later.
They have a list of chores to do, and I give them a certain time to have it done. Most of the time it is done, if not then they have to suffer the consequences. i love my children dearly, and my husband. I will do anything for them! But giving them chores will not only help you it will help them to learn how to do things for them selves.

Honey, you need to get your husband's support first, in any changes you make in your household. If your husband is visibly disprepectful and unsupportive, your children will follow his example. Talk seriously with him about your concerns and recruit his help in making changes in your household.

I have 3 children, ages 4, 7, 9 and chores are an absolute in our house! We have a chore board on a dry erase board that is kept on the fridge. Chores change every month and are marked off daily, when chores are done. There is even a box they can check for "GOOD attitude". There should be a cause and effect -- if they don't do their chores, what happens? It may be they have no clean clothes to wear, the dog goes hungry, dinner is late, etc. Children need to be taught responsibility -- it's a parent's job to prepare them to be adults. Are you planning to cook for them, clean for them, when they become teenagers? Adults?

I am the Mother of 5 as well I will give you a Laundry tip that works very well at our house and i only have to a few loads each day rather than 20 over the weekend. Assign a Laundry day to each child. The oldest gets Monday 2nd gets Tuesday and so on. My kids have to deliver there laundry to the laundry b4 school this includes bedding and the towels (each child is allowed 3 towels a week other wise we would never have any clean towels)If you don't bring your clothes to me on your day I DO NOT WASH FOR YOU TELL YOUR NEXT LAUNDRY DAY!.MY husband has a day as well same rules apply to him as the kids it took everyone having to either wear dirty clothes or wash there own but it works great.
On each child's laundry day they have to hang up what needs to be hung up. I fold the rest and they put it all away as soon as they get home from school. I works great for us give it a try I hope it helps good luck to you

It sounds like you've let them walk on you and now they're used to it.

Tell them you will do one load of whites and one load of colrs per day. Period. If they don't have their clothes in the hamper when you do laundry, and they have to wear dirty clothes to school, tough. If they actually do wear dirty clothes to school a time or two, they'll figure out that you mean business.
Depending on their ages, you can make them responsible for their own laundry. My daughter got into the habit of bringing me all her dirty clothes on Sunday night, and I got fed up with it. She was 11 when I showed her how the washer and dryer worked, and told her that I was no longer doing her laundry. If she had no clean clothes for school I didn't want to hear about it.

She was a slob about picking up her room - I just closed the door, and told her that if I stepped on anything and broke it because it was on the floor, I was not replacing or repairing it. She didn't believe me until one day I accidentally stepped on a mix cd that her boyfriend had conmpiled and burned for her and shattered it.

I cook one dinner. Anyone that doesn't like what I cooked is free to go into the kitchen and fix something for themselves, as long as they clean up after themselves. If they don't know how to cook, they can make themselves a peanut butter sandwich.
I clean up the kitchen one time after dinner. Anyone that doesn't have their plates in the sink when I wash dishes will have to do their own.

I also have no problem with yanking privileges. If they can't help out a little, then they don't need to watch tv, play video games, talk on the phone, or use the computer.

o honey it will be ok. dont do anything else for them Go on strike. you can not leave the kids. but if you have that many people to care for your husband should help. i have only 2 kids and sometimes to get my husbands help i have fight with him. but he helps nevertheless. go back to basics tell them if they want something from u they need to say please and thank you. and not complain. and anyone who has a child needs to care for it. i got pregnant at 16 and my mom has not had to help with a thing and would not dare ask her to.