Disciplining

If this were my child I think I would put her in her crib each time this happens and not let her out again until she is able to behave and has finished her tantrum. She wants attention,so I would do that and walk away into another room until she has settled down. Take her out for a while and repeat as needed.

My son is 15 1/2 months old and when he starts to hit, I tell him, "No hitting...soft (I say that softly and show him what a soft touch is). If he hits again (which he sometimes does) I sit him on the ground on his rear and walk away. He wants my attention and really hates that. My daughter went through the same phase and it worked after about a month.

Hi,
I am assuming she isn't talking much yet. If you aren't you may want to consider starting to teach her sign-language to help her communicate. I am guessing that it is part a phase and part a way of communicating. Kids are typically able to use sign language long before they can speak words. It helps tremendously. I am not sure "discipline" at this age will work very well. Continue to be consistent and try to help her express herself with both sign language and using the words you'd want her to use if she could speak.
Time-outs if you use them should not be any longer than the age of the child -- so one minute. I am just not sure it will work very well. The other option is to give choices (ones that are acceptable to you) and let the child choose, it helps them feel more in control. I think there are parenting classes called Love and logic that go much more into this. I've heard they are GREAT. Make sure you give ample warning when transitioning -- 5 more minutes, etc.

L.

I like the Oh-oh song from Love and Logic ( loveandlogic.com ) That site will tell more on how and when to start timeouts and discipline, but you sing ♪ OH-Oh, ♪ Need a little bedroom time ♪ You can come when your sweet ♪, You put her in her room, and give the option of the door being open or closed, if she throws a toy or try's to get out, it means she wants it closed, then you set the timer starting when she is calm. Now thats the Love and logic approach, but she'll learn, when you Sing ♪ Oh-Ohhh ♪ , Over time, she'll know what that means. Not much more needs to be said.

Check out the site, listen to the Funny Parenting Stories http://www.loveandlogic.com/audioclips.html and see if there is anything you think may be useful. I think you may really like it.

Time outs should not generally start until they are 2 years old. I think what you are doing is great. Show her other postive ways that she can touch you and hubbie. Unfortunately, it takes a lot of repetition and consistency. Keep at it and she will start to catch on what you expect.

J. R.

I watch a 20 month old that I watch during the day that had a problem with biting my 14 month old every time she had a toy in her hand. I started out by biting him back, and telling him "no biting" (and informed the parents of my actions), but that didn't work. I now sit him in time out. However, he doesn't just sit there willingly like the other children I watch. So I either sit him in a booster seat, the playpen, or if I am on the floor--I hold the back of his shirt so he can't go anywhere. That has seemed to work. He has stopped biting all together. Every now and then he opens his mouth like he is thinking about it, but closes it because it has made him think twice.

Every child is different though in how they react to things. My children understood when I bit them back once. This little boy didn't. I had to remove him from all the other kids and pin him in a seat and let him cry. Good luck!!

It is not too early for "time outs". Kids these days are way more advanced than they were when mine were little. She will understand that bad behavior means seperation. I would put her in her room, tell her when she can behave she can come out. Then close the door and wait about 3 minutes or so. Then check on her and see if she will behave. If not add a minute longer...

Hope this helps.

C.

I don't know if your familiar with "spare the rod and spoil the child" but I told one other mother this and she was so thankful.
First of all the Bible says if you don't use the rod you hate your child and if don't use the rod they won't respect you. There are others but when I first was told this I was very much against it till I talked to a counslor at my church who raised 4 boys after her husband passed away and she had 4 of the best behaved loving young boys I've ever met. She said to never hit your child with your hands as your hands are for loving them. Never use a rod on their bare sken and only use 3 swats because it does sting. Had I not used a rod my child might be dead today as one day she went to close to the road and I told her no the second time I swatted her with the rod. One day a year or so later we were going to our car across the street and she didn't see a car c oming but I did and I said Sarah Stop. She did immediately thank God or she would have been hit and maybe killed. If you have a bible look up scriptures with the word rod. It is God's way and I beleive the only way otherwise your likely to end up with a real problem Now is not to young. I started at a year. Also only tell them no once and then next time they receive the rod. If your not consistand with what you do nothing will work.
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My pediatrician says 1 year olds are ready for time outs. I also was told (about screaming and tantrums) that if you calmly get on the floor with them and whisper that they have to stop screaming to hear what you are saying. I've tried time outs with my 15 month old and sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I know consistancy is key. Good Luck