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My husband and I have been trying the whole time out thing on our two year old for hitting, pushing and kicking. Although it doesn't seem to be having the effect we would like on him. I just wondered what other types of discipline you guys have been using and seeing some positive effects. Thanks!!
Hello M.. I think the most important thing is to pick a discipline style (time out, 1 2 3 magic, removal of favorites) and stick to it. I use a combination of the three for my 4 y/o depending on the behavior and how good of a day she is having. I also know that with my children, they act out more frequently and with more intensity when they are tired, but none of them will admit that. Not only is each child different, but each parent is different. I always give a warning (obviously) the first time, but if she just came out of time out and does it again she goes right back. And time out is not over until an apology is given; either "l'm sorry" or a hug and kiss. Good Luck!
We do time out, and nose on the wall, both are timed for her age for our oldest who is 5. She hates it, but it works.
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My daughter just went through this same thing. (She is also 2.) We finally started taking away her favorite things. (ie: the wiggles movies)If she starts to throw a fit now we just ask her if she wants to be able to watch the wiggles and she stops right now. If she is really mad she does not get wiggles or tv the whole next day. She will then ask several time that day and I just keep telling her that if she is good today she can watch it tomorrow. She has really toned down the temper.
Good luck!!!
I am what my friends call a mean mommy. I grew up in a home with spanking(not beating)and I do the same to my childern. My son went through the same thing and I started doing the same back to him. If he hit I hit him, if he pushed, I pushed him same if he bit. He quickly go the message and soon stopped. Now to clear things up with people that disagree with this way, I tried the time out thing first sitting and standing. I have a second child so its hard to take somethings away from one. People would rather take my children to the store than there own because they behave so well.
I hope I DID NOT offend anyone with my discipline methods. I am new to the group and am not sure how everyone is with this one.
