I understand where you're coming from, honestly, because we just went through this with our vacation.
First, you can't control your husband. So if he makes a decision to tell you to plan whatever and he'll go along, then why not? That's HIS decision to be sacrificial. Enjoy it!
If you can't get your mind around that, why not plan something that includes something you both like? (eg, My husband wanted to stay in Boston as he's a city boy/history freak while I HATE the city and wanted to be waited on hand and foot. We compromised on a resort an hour outside of Boston.)
Celebrate your anniversary. You need to have fun, have a date, spend some time as "grown ups", and make memories. Make him do some work tho. If you're planning the date, make him find childcare. Otherwise he's just lazy and won't enjoy what you do no matter what it is because it hasn't cost him anything - he's got nothing invested.
random and off topic: I HIGHLY recommend reading John Gottman's "The Seven Principals for Making Marriage Work" and Jim Burn's "Creating an Intimate Marriage". Read the former first. My husband and I have been married three years and are just learning the things laid out in these books. They will give you the tools to create a VERY happy, beautiful marriage. (And may help your husband voice his opinion on an anniversary date.)
Good luck!