C.T.
time out time out and time out... watch Super Nanny we have used her techniques with our oldest since he was 3... and OMG they finally worked when he was ALMOST 4... yes it WAS frustrating the first year BUT when it works OMG it is HEAVEN right now we are working on our other 2 Damian who is 3 and Dante who is 2...
Damian does a good job but he is starting to get a new stubborn streak lol...
for him it is more concern that anytime we have our backs turned he climbs... anything and EVERYTHING...
so needless to say he spends A LOT of time in time out... being that we have done it once and now see a DRASTIC change in our oldest it is encouraging to work harder with the younger two...
Good luck because no matter what method you use... it is gonna be a rough ride...