Diaper Change Issue

He may just be at a stage. We went through it with our second son. He didn't like being touched there and would put up a fight about pamper changes. I would talk to your doctor to double check that there are no physical health issues. And then start teaching him to wash himself in that area. As for the baby wipes try switching to the sensitive brand ones with no scents or harsh chemicals.

Could he have an infection? That would be painful and make him not want touched.

I'd recommend that you leave diapers off as much as possible, get some training pants that he and you can pull down easily, and show him how to use a little potty. Check out the "elimination communication" website & several good books such as the diaper-free baby, diaper free, infant potty training. theecstore.com has some good cotton plastic-lined training pants that are on sale now (bright bots). Also when you do need to wipe, I'd definitely use warm (rather than cold) nontoxic wipes or better yet a soft washcloth, or a quick warm shower or play time in the sink. And maybe you don't even need to wipe every time if it's only pee. I definitely wouldn't force anything - this is a sensitive area and forcing it could have longterm impacts on his sexuality.

When my kids were infants/toddlers I had a wipe warmer, basically it was a low temp heating pad that wrapped around the wipes box. It kept the wipes warm and less intrusive when we wiped their bottoms. Check out a baby store or... use a warm wash cloth. Yes you'll have more laundry, but you'll have a happy baby and you won't be buying wipes, more eco-friendly. He's getting older and exerting some control over his surroundings and you're accomodating his demands, you've changed how you do things. Best of luck!!!

My son did the same thing, only he was about 2 months old. Knowing that unless he had rolled off the couch etc, which wasn't likely, he wasn't hurt. There was no rash etc, nothing, he just screamed everytime we went to change him. One would think we were hurting him. This was my solution.

I got a wipes warmer. I got mine at Toys r us, and I still have it. My son is 16 months old.

Just as another tid-bit. My son was 11 weeks early, and when he was in the hospital, the only wipe that they used were the Pampers Sensitive. I have tried to use other wipes, but seems that those are what we always resort back to. My point is that maybe your wipes have alcohol or somthing else that he is sensitve to.
Hope that helps.

I would try a baby wipe warmer. You can get them at most larger stores that carry baby products. I was thinking too, that may just be extra sensitive. I have twin boys and they both say that it tickles them, so maybe it is just really sensitive to the point that it hurts. I would check with the doctor too, there may be something wrong that you can't see.

He may be sensitive to the products used in wet wipes. Have you tried just using a warm wet paper towel. We always have to do this when our little ones have a rash on their bottom. But he may just have an all over sensitivity.

Is he circumcised? If not, he may have an irritation that is bothering him causing more pain as you try to clean.

Does he have issues when not having a change or in the bath? Also, how "thoroughly" are you attempting to clean the area? It may be moreso than he actually needs (check with the pediatrician).

If it isn't raw or rashy, it might just be a control issue. He's gaining more and more independence, and this might be one of his ways to say, "I want to be in charge here". Give him responsibiities during diaper changes, "can you hold this for me?, how about if you wipe (when it's just wet) or whatnot and see if that helps. I know our daughter was much more into trying to figure out ways to control certain aspects of "routine" events, like diaper changes, at 18 months than she is now at 26 months!