...or at least someone of the female persuasion. I recently ran across some very "sensitive" information about my husband and his family. Because I am at a complete loss as to how to handle it, I would rather not post the specifics to a public forum.
That being said, I am in a situation that doesn't really give me the opportunity to ask advice or at least bounce ideas of off someone. I really don't have any women in my life and even if I did, some of what is going on is "uncomfortable", to say the least.
If there is anyone out there that may have some expertise in genealogy and would be willing to take some time to help a stranger navigate a sticky family situation, or two...I would appreciate it.
As I mentioned, I'm really not comfortable posting the specifics, but I'm hoping someone has time to private message with me a bit.
It sounds like you might need a private detective or lawyer or counselor. Sorry... but if you are not willing to share any information, my guess is that people aren't going to be inclined to share their information (contact, etc) with you.
I have done a lot of genealogy research. Maybe I am the "S." you are looking for. Every family has some "secrets" somewhere in the family tree, so you are not alone. Your request is so vague it is hard to even give you direction. Also, census data is only available for 1940 and earlier. Ancestry.com has free weekends available where you can trace your family tree. Also, www.familysearch.org is another free place to search that is sponsored by the Mormon church (LDS) and is a great source of information . Some states have more genealogy records on line than others. Other cautions - the records are only as accurate as the original info provider and who recorded and transcribed that information. If you want to send me a private message with what you are looking for and what you know, i may be able to give you some other ideas to search. It is amazing how much information has been digitized. Good luck!
I am versed in genealogy and am willing to help. Feel free to pm me!
You can hire a genealogist specialist. Sometimes through your own local library. Almost all of them have some sort of genealogy section.
If you don't have one find a local LDS church. Ask them if they can recommend someone that does a lot of genealogy. Some people have their lineage traced back thousands of years. So they are experts of a sort.
If that still won't work for you then call the LDS genealogy library in SLC Utah and ask them how to proceed. Ancestry.com is free to members of the church now so if you get with anyone that's a member they can usually help you wade through the murk and mire.
Many of us have those confusing and "interesting" stories and there's really no way to find out the truth since everyone involved is long dead.
My hubby's cousin is actually his half brother but it's a hidden family secret that we're not even sure this other guy knows about.
My grandmother supposedly born 2 sons to her own father. But the other story is that a farmhand got her pregnant and one day he went on a hunting trip with her father and the farmhand was never heard from again.
There are stories like this in every family.
Find a professional and hire them or go to an LDS church and find a person who has done genealogy for a long time. They'll know how to manage the sites and information you're finding.
You are welcome to pm me and bounce ideas around..but I'm not good w genealogy.
If this is in the way past..maybe u should let it go...if it's a paternity thing that would affect a child now...I would at art w a lawyers
Talk to your husband about it. Is it something he did? Does it really matter now? If it is something from before he was born then who cares. I don't care what my ancestors did or did not do. They are not me and I did not do it. I judge people by who they are and not where or who they came from.
