I am married and mother of 2 kids ages 5 and 9. I love everyone but my husband works 2 jobs and is home only to sleep. I do appreciate his efforts to keep us in the things he thinks we deserve but it leaves little to no time for us. When we do see each other mostly on the weekends we either are arguing or doing something unrelated to spending qualilty time with each other. Our anniversary is quickly approaching Feb 2007 it will be 10years. The only thing I'm thinking about doing is being with someone else. I rather just have a few good girls friends to hang out with that would take those thougts and fill that void of adult contact. I know you mothers know what I mean. We love talking to our kids but sometimes I don't want to hear about what Bobby did in the school yard. Any help or advice would be appreciated. Desperate in Philly
I know what you mean.. I am the mother of a 19 month old beautful girl but don't have too many people i would call friends .. i am looking to meet some new people.. contact me directly.. we can chat ____@____.com
Hi, S..
I feel like I can relate to you in many ways. First of all, I also graduated from Temple/Tyler School of Art, but in 2005.
Anyway, my husband also works 2 jobs for us and I really appreciate him for doing that. We've been together for almost 10 years but been married for almost 3 years. When he's not working, he rides his bike twice a week with his friends and he works on his computer at home, or falls a sleep watching TV. He does spend time with our 11 1/5 month old daughter and he does do things with me when I need him to(food shopping, shopping for our daughter, just things that need to be done). I feel like he does not spend enough quality time with me and it upsets me. My mom thinks I expect too much from a "man", but I just feel like he always does what he wants and does things only when I ask him to.
I don't know..I feel like I'm always nagging and probably being meaner that I should be..and my crazy mother-in-la does not help our situation either.
I always had more guy friends than girls, and now since they are all busy with their family and lives, I don't get to see them and can't really do thing for fun for myself or with my husband.
If my husbands more quality time with our daughter as I hope him to and actually plan something fun for us as a family, I won't ask for more. We've been arguing a lot too and I really do not like it and I do say things to him that I should say and mean..like being separated and stuff...
I just know that we need to work things out and be a family for our daughter, but I just wish that he would actually understand how I feel..men seem to be so emotionless when it comes to things like this.
It's funny that I read your request today. My husband and I had this discussion about quality time last night. I love my husband, and I enjoy the time we spend together. However, we have a three year old daughter that takes up a lot of our time. My husband is also in school two nights a week. When he's not in school or at church, he's over his mother's house making sure she's okay (my father-in-law passed away February 2006). As you can see, our quality time is limited. We talked about this, and we decided to devote every Friday to each other. This is our date time. You know, I am witty by Thursday. You would think this is our first date ever. Please do not give up on your marriage. Marriage is work. Let me tell you, I was going to give up and hang out w/ my mom and sister. However, I prayed about it and my attitude has changed. I now leave nice messages on his cell phone. I send him sweet email messages. I even do nice, romantic things at home. One of my adopted mothers told me women are always the one to initiate the romance, the fun, etc. She should know, for she has been married for over 30 years. Since your tenth wedding anniversary is vastly approaching, think of some ideas to bring the spice back into your marriage. If you can, please arrange a baby sitter for your children. Ten years of marriage is worth celebrating. My husband and I have been married for five years in October 2006, and I pray the Lord bless us to see our tenth anniversary. I'm going to give you my email address, just in case you want to talk: ____@____.com I look forward to hearing all about your tenth anniversary. God bless,
why dont we all get together for a girl's night out sometimes
I know exactly how you feel. I stay home and take care of my 13 month old little girl. I love being able to take care of her and everything but sometimes I need some mature adult interaction too. My husband works all day and when he comes home, he just wants to rest most of the time. And the few friends I do have don't have children so their methods of going out consist of clubs and the such. And well I can't go with them since I have to be home at night in case the baby wakes up. It can get pretty lonely watching children all day by yourself, I know! Now, that I have a car I am trying to find places I could take my daughter to play but haven't found any so far. Do you know of any? I am in the PA. area as well.
