Depression - Denver,CO

Please talk to your OBGYN ASAP about this. With my third pregnancy, I was horribly depressed. I constantly thought of ways I could harm myself without hurting the baby. I wanted to drive myself into a tree or off a cliff...it was awful. I hated my husband and blamed all my problems on him. I cried 3-4 times a day...sometimes in the bathroom at work or in my car, or I would get up in the middle of the night and cry in the living room. It just got worse and worse. Finally I sheepishly mentioned it to my doctor and she gave me a prescription for Zoloft. Within a few weeks I no longer had these terrible feelings. I remember going outside and noticing it was a beautiful day, and it was so weird because I had been in such a funk I didn't notice anything good for a long, long time. I took the Zoloft for about 3 months (my last trimester) and then after my baby was born I weaned myself off it.
Pregnancy hormones can really mess with ya! I know of many other women who have had similar experiences and have even wanted to cause harm to their children when they were pregnant. It is imperative you discuss this with your doctor so he/she can help you. There is hope! Good luck to you.

Tell your doctor immediately!!!!!!!!!! Youre not alone, it happens to a lot of women, but your medical professional needs to know about this ASAP. Dont wait til after you have your baby, the depression could spiral out of control. Im so sorry you feel like this :( Good luck!

Please, please, please call your doctor and tell them this right away. They will not think you are "crazy"-They are used to working with women who are affected by pregnancy and post partum issues. Please take this seriously and get some help right away. You deserve to feel better than this and your kiddos need you to feel better! Hugs and best wishes.

Get help NOW. You don't deserve to feel this way and your family does not either. Hormones and pregnancy are well-known triggers for things like this and most doctors and medical providers are well aware of that fact. PLEASE confide in your doctor ASAP...because if things worsen from here, you could possibly lose sight of the "I'd never act on these" part of it and the results could be disasterous. Even if it didn't get that far, there is no reason for you to suffer through this. There is help available and if medication is recommended, know that you are at a safe part of your pregnancy and medication will not harm your baby.
Praying for you and sending hugs.

Oh, sweetie- Like pregnancy with a pre-school child isn't tough enough! Sometimes, our hormones go just a little too crazy, huh?

You are not alone. You are not the first to feel this way. Help is available.

Check out these links. The first step to getting help can be he hardest.
http://www.marchofdimes.com/complications_depression.html
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Hang in, sweetie. You're doing the right thing in reaching out.

Talk to your doctor – the sooner, the better. Hormonal changes are dramatic during pregnancy, and one experience may not be much like the next. Hormones do some pretty amazing things to women's moods and thought processes. Your doc will keep your concerns private and may be able to recommend temporary medication that will help smooth things out for you emotionally.

Even if you weren't pregnant, it would still be possible for chemical changes in your body or electrical impulses in your brain to cause problems. This is "illness" in that it's not wellness, but there's so much unfortunate stigma attached to illness when it strikes the brain.

But the brain is an organ like any other. It's so critically important to your well-being, and your family's, that you will do well to talk to your doctor about your symptoms. Nobody's going to take your daughter away or lock you up until they are convinced it's the best and safest thing to do. You are a LONG way from anyone considering that option, but if you try to struggle along without help, things you do or say could be misinterpreted. In fact, your caution about talking to someone may very well be one of your symptoms. Get a professional in the loop NOW!

Keep us updated as you are able. Whatever you can tell other moms about what worked for you will probably be of help to others.

I agree with talking to your doctor and exploring anti-depressants, but I would also highly encourage you to find a therapist to talk to. Hormonal changes can contribute to depression, but so can things going on in your life, even if the cause isn't obvious to you. It can be so helpful to talk to someone who will listen without judgment, help problem solve and normalize what you are feeling. No-one is going to take your child away for sharing these feelings. The only reason anyone would intervene in that way would be if you posed an imminent risk to yourself or someone else. But, what you are feeling and thinking is still serious and you need to get some help for yourself. Please let us know if you need help finding a therapist.

Hi M.,

I don't know why, but don't avoid asking for help if you are feeling helpless with these feelings. Is the father of your child being supportive? Do you have a minister or close friend or relative you could go to? If not, please let your doctor know how you have been feeling. I will pray for you and your family.

Blessings.....

It sounds like you need to vent to someone. If you find yourself being "obsessed" with those kinds of thoughts it would be best for you to talk to a pro about them. A few fleeting thoughts of weirdness are kinda normal tho... given whats going on in the world right now I think a lot of us have been having crazy thoughts and dreams lately. It's stressful, depressing times right now... and we all need to pray and get a grip.
Hang in there :)

depression caused by pregnancy. this is what i went through with post partum depression. i decided it was time for antidepressents when i actually got fustrated with my 2 week old and had to catch myself before i threw him across the room i was on the phone 2 minutes later with the doc saying i need antidepressants NOW. tell your doc you are having abnormal thoughts and desperately need antidepressants in fact for what you are thinking going to the emergency room to get them would be highly advisable. you are not your normal self. I would never throw my baby and the fact that i thought about doing it scared the p**ss out of me. I wouldnt touch him for a week afterwards at all. i was scared I would phsyc out and hurt him. for his safety I woudnt touch him at all till the meds kicked in. they wont take your kids for pregnancy hormones unless you actually act on them. get to the er and get antidepressants now before you do something you regret and cant change.

I completely agree with the other moms that you need to talk to your doc immediately.

I would also recommend that you evaluate how much support you have right now. Are you getting any 'me time'? Do you have a friend that you can vent with? Do you have help with the house and shopping? Are there unresolved emotional issues that could be contributing? Is there a mom's group that you could attend? Are you sleep deprived?

Now is a time when you need LOTS of support from all different places. Don't hesitate to ask for help. I have a quote hung up on my wall that says: "You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection." -Buddha

Hi M.!
There are MANY women that feel this way. You should not feel 'crazy' or guilty for FEELINGS. We all have feelings, and pregnancy hormones put them all out of whack. Get help as soon as you are able. Get an appointment as soon as your doctor can get you in to discuss possible medications to stabilize your moods and pull you out of this depressed state. You will feel so much better, I promise!! Give it at least a couple weeks.....sometimes "brain meds" take a little while to help you get control of things. Keep your doctor (and us, if you are willing) posted about your progress.

Blessings to you and your babies and boyfriend.