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I would suggest that you go to the library and borrow books from Dave Ramsey or Suz Orman. You need to get control of your finances, not them controlling you.
Debt consolidation? What difference will it make? You are paying someone else to pay your bills? Heck - if you want to do that - I'll do your bills for you. You can pay me and I'll contact your creditor and set up payment arrangements with them....you know this is something YOU can do - right?
Debt Settlement? Yes, I settled a debt - it was a major pain in the rear. And if it's over a certain amount - you will be paying taxes on the amount as "income".
If you are being sued for debts - and you cannot pay your bills - you might consider bankruptcy. Think long and hard before you do it.
What would I suggest you do other than Dave Ramsey? I would gather EVERY SINGLE bill I have - mortgage, car, credit cards, electric, gas, etc. and put it all in a spreadsheet.
Then I would look at my LES (leave & Earnings Statement) and that of my spouse as well. If it's a salary - and not commission-based - then you have stable income to work with.
Then prioritize my budget. Do you know how to put a budget together? If not - there's the first problem with your money situation. The most important thing in your budget should be your living expenses...
mortgage
gas
water
electric
Car payment
automobile gas
car repairs
You get the gist, right? Call your gas/electric/water/sewage and find out if there is a flat rate fee you can switch to. This will help you budget better as well.
Then you need to find out if you can afford your car. Worst case is call and refinance the payments. Yes, it will make you pay more for your car in the long run but will lessen the payment NOW. Or you can find out your loan balance, what your car is worth - if it is worth more than you owe? Sell it - for a car that you have NO PAYMENTS on.
From this point forward - you are a CASH ONLY family.
Define WANT vs NEED - NEED is something YOU MUST have in order to live - roof over your head, food, water. WANT - is just that - WANT.
You do NOT need a new outfit every week and you don't need a designer handbag. If you feel the need to shop - go to a consignment shop or Goodwill.
No more going out to eat. Sit down and make a menu for the week. Shop off store fliers and coupons that you have. Use what you have on-hand.
If you have a back yard - start a garden and grow your own veggies.
Instead of trying to shove your responsibility off to someone else - get control of it yourself. Many of those who participate in debt consolidation programs find themselves in the same mess because they didn't learn anything...and lack self-control.
If you are unemployed and have run out of benefits? If you own your home - consider a short-sell or selling your home so that you can get out. Find out if you can live with family while you are looking for employment.
Bottom line? you need to be responsible for yourself. You need to pay your debts and you need to learn to control spending. CASH ONLY. If you can't pay cash for it? You don't NEED it.
Good luck!