N.L.
WOW this takes me back to last year. Mike and I decided that we wanted to buy a home together. He has 2 boys I have 3 His 8 y/o has some issues. He was very disrespectful and mean to me. And to my 6 y/o. Alot of it was lack of dicipline that his 8 y/o acted this way and he had resentment towards the fact that hid mom and dad would never get back together. So he took it out on my son. Mike and I had alot of differences when it came to dicipline. I like consistency he is a softie. Which in fact will only enable to behavior that his son. I almost left. But then I thought if his parents aren't going to be consistent with him I will. We have made great strides with this child. He has done a 180 Alot of it is adjustment and another is the feeling abandoned. His children are with us 15 days out of the month. Mike would spend alone time with his children and mine. SO they felt important. We still do have issues with the two we are talking about here. Not nearly as bad. However if I would have known how difficult it would be to date a man with children and an ex wife I would never do it again. It is alot of work trying to make everybody happy. Face it you can't make everybosy happy. Now we are married and things are rough at times but that is when we put up a united front with the kids. Good luck you should never have left I dont know if going back is a good idea that sends mixed meassages to all of the kids