Daycare - Very Angry, Need Advice & Perspective

I will tell you this, that you by no means are overreacting. We as mothers by all means want to shield our children from scrutiny and when they are made to feel embarrassed or ashamed about any part of themselves regardless of what the issue is then we go into protect mode. I would have been furious as well. I have to say that if it were me there would be no second guessing my decision, I would have informed them right then and there that my child would not be returning. I could not imagine someone embarrassing my child like that especially an adult. Children can be so cruel and an adult should no better then to do something like that, especially if they had already talked to you. My mom is a director at a daycare and the policy is that if they feel your child is contagious in any way then the child is brought to the office and sent home until a doctor's note can be given, they certainly wouldn't treat a child like that. Do what's best for you, but you definitely want someone caring for your child with their best interest in hand. Children are a gift from God and deserve to be happy at all costs.

I think they need a proper education on warts. My son has had several for over a year. We have tried many treatments including freezing them off and they always return. They are very common in children and never are kids removed from a daycare or school enviroment due to warts. I would be very angry as well. I don't know about pulling her out because you really need to consider her overall happiness there, her friends she already has, your happiness with other thing there. At a minimum, print some info. on warts off the internet and go over it with the director and tell her you expect her to educate her staff on the topic and apologize to your daughter for humiliating her. Poor girl, luckily kids are resilient and she probably has forgotten it or at least doesn't care about it anymore. Good luck.

I think that you are having the exact feelings that you should. If you assured them that the warts were not contagious and were being treated by a physician then they should have taken your word for it. I do understand that they still be apprehensive about them (we all know there are parents who take their kids to daycare with all sorts of things) but they should have at the very most put band-aids on them. No way, no how should they have put large rubber gloves on your child. What if she had had a latex allergy or an allergy to the powder? How could they think that was appropriate? I would guess that she and her friends have forgotten all of this by now but you definetely should speak to the director and her supervisor together. The director shold hear from you how this situation and her actions made you feel and her boss should see how she reacts to it and talk to the 2 of you together. I wouldn't pull her out, it would be even harder for her to have to make more friends at another school and it would be more difficult for her to understand why she had to leave.

I think you have every right to be upset, especially by how your daughter feels about all this. The poor girl was embarassed in front of her friends. I've worked in daycare for several years, and I normally understand where the directors/teachers are coming from. I've had many parents tell me that their child wasn't contagious, even though they had a fever. My son actually got rotavirus b/c the mother of twins said her babies only had diarrhea b/c of teething (not true, they never even saw a dr. til after other kids got sick...they got my son sick and I was out of work with him for over a week, not to mention how sick my son was). Unfortunately, there are parents that make it difficult to believe them b/c they need to go to work so they send their kids to school when they should be at home. So I can kind of understand why they might still have doubts. However, if the daycare were still concerned that the warts might be contagious, they should have simply asked for a dr.'s note stating that they aren't. At the most, they should have only put on bandaids (even thought I don't think that would have been necessary).

I would suggest staying as calm as possible when talking to the director. Explain your concerns about how it was handled, and how your daughter reacted. I would offer a dr note even if they don't ask for one. If you are otherwise happy with the daycare, then I would tell them that. Just let them know you are unhappy with how they've handled this "situation" (it shouldn't even be a situation, but it is and there's no way to change what's happened now). What really matters now is how they handle it from now on. I hope it all works out for you, but mostly for your daughter!

#1 Hell no! You are not over reacting. They should've never done that. That will sit on her mind forever. Things like that can socially scar a child, especilly a girl.
#2 I would have a talk with the director, expressing your feeling on the situation. They need to appologize to your daughter, and explain to her why they put those gloves on her, even after you spoke to them. It will show her that it is ok to handle humilation and recover from it. It will also show her that she is not a freak, and that people shouldn't be afraid to play with her. Once that is done, and she feels better about herself. Take her to another day care.

I know it is not on the same subject, but I was sending my son to a prep school, paying a lot of money, and putting my trust in that school. My step daughter had gone there and came out very smart. The second day there, I get an accident report. Saying that my son got in the way of a flying metal car, and it hit the back of his head!!!! what!!! Day after that, another report, saying that he and another boy, the same boy that threw the car, were fighting over some trains. Following day, another report. After ther first two reports, I had a talk with my son, asking him what was going on. Mind you, he is two, but a smart one. He told me he didnt like school anymore and didnt want to go. This coming from a kid that woke me up the first day of school because he couldnt wait to go there. The third report said that he had pushed the same little boy that was messing with him, causing the little boy to fall on his face and scuff his chin. When I had my talk with my son, I told him that if anyone was hurting him to tell them to stop, and if they didnt to push them away if they were hurting him. That little boy was stepping on my sons hands while he had a car in them. There were shoe marks on the back of his hand and a cut inside. So my son pushed him to make him stop and went to get the teacher. But the teacher had only seen the little boy falling.

I had a sit down with the owner of the school. Told her that I did not think a place should be run like this. The teacher was overwhelmed with 22 kids in a room made for 12. I told her that I understand kids are kids and will fight, but this was unacceptable, and I was taking him out. I got up and went to get my son from class, and he was crying. He couldnt have been happier to leave.

Your daughter will make friends anywhere she goes.