Daycare Problem. Should I Pull Him Out?

Updated on April 23, 2009
E.A. asks from Aurora, IL
4 answers

Hello
I don't want to say the name of the day care yet. I have liked the day care that my sons attends. He has been there since he was 18 months, he is now 3 1/2
They held him back not sending him up to the next class level with his friends due to him not being potty trained. Which I didn't know that.
Got him 95% potty trained so they jumped him up two class levels. Put a 3 year old in with the 4 year olds. It has all gone wrong since. Potty training has gone back to wear he is now being told to wear a pull up at school. He doesn't at home.
He has always went into the school with a sippy cup, which I take home after we get into the school. Sometimes if we are running late, still hungry, or would not eat at home I would take a snack with us like apples, yogurt for him to eat. As well did other moms.
He had a standard pill he always used as well as other children.
So now the rules have changed. According to the director it has always been no. No food, no candy, no balloons, no sippy cup, only small size pillows, no toys brought in, etc
My son lately has been saying no he doesn't want to go to school. Cries when I take him there. He has not been sleeping nor eating very much at daycare.
Talked to the owner and she says any of the above items are not allowed to come threw the doors and has always been that way. But seen a little girl come into the class room this am with a sippy cup and twizzlers but mom took it when she left the class room
If she catches me or tyler with any of the above we will be banned from the school. The reason this all started this past week is the teacher saw my son with some gum which I don't know how he got since I don't give him gum. When I saw it I asked for it right away and threw it in the trash. So the teachers must of ran to the owner and told on mom and child.
They said they are going to work on changing his class room but not with his friends since my son is not potty trained yet. He will have to go into the 2 1/2- 3 year old class room.
My son is 3 1/2 now
So my question is would you look for another day care or put up with what is going on? I have liked the day care alot up to now.
Do you have suggestions where to look?
Kensington, Creme da la Creme...etc??? I want somewhere they are really focused on the care and education.
My son does have a speech delay with some sensory disorder.

Thank you for your help!!!
I just don't know what to do.
Oh my husband has called a meeting with the owner and a couple other people this friday to discuss whats going on

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M.J.

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A meeting should give everyone a picture of what's going on.

I think the regression in potty training, or the fact that he is not using the potty at school, is a sign. One thing about those older classes at daycare is that they have more kids in those rooms and that might be an issue with your child. He might feel like it is just too much - too many kids, too much noise, too much waiting his turn, etc.

Have you talked to him about it and asked how he feels? That might shed some light on what you should do.

M.

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A.D.

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I was going to suggest having a meeting. It sounds like there has been a breakdown in communication and a sit-down meeting would be a good way to address your questions. Write down your concerns and bring them in with you. i wouldn't make any decisions until after the meeting.

J.S.

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I agree with the other mothers that a meeting is in order here. You and your husband should have a list of questions, problems about the daycare that you want the owner to address. My main concern is the changing of the rules without telling anyone. To say, 'this is how it has always been done' when you know that is not the case does not sit well with me. I would ask the owner to account for that - and to explain what prompted that change.

You also should find out exactly what requirements are needed to move your son from one room to another. Ideally, there is open and ongoing communication between the parents, teachers and owners.

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S.A.

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I understand that no food and such is allowed through the doors of the daycare center, but things sound a little fishy. I would not want to send my son there where he would not be receiving the best care. Take it from a former daycare teacher, teachers talk and complain about the kids and sometimes give less attention to the ones that they have a hard time with. Get your son out of there and find somewhere else.

On a side note, I once interviewed @ Creme de la Creme (and was offered a position, so this isn't because I'm bitter), but I didn't like the atmosphere. It felt sterile in some rooms. No artwork on the walls, everything perfectly in order, and it had an essence of snob. It just wasn't right for me. You may like it there, but I'm a teacher that lets the kids explore their environment and get messy. A no-no there. Just saying.

Good luck with your quest and I hope everything works out for you.

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