I work from 9:00am to 6:00pm M,W,Th,F,S we have a 3 year old son in daycare an his granmother has to pick him up, today we recieve a call not from daycare but from his granmother stating he has fallen an has multiple contusions to his face, i wish i could post the pics i have taken for now there is bruising notting an mutiple lacerations to his nose, cheek an eye socket, the daycare told her he fell but has failed to even notify us what should i do?
They didnt notify his granmother they said he fell when she asked what happened opon picking him up at his normal leaving time but no explanation about how or where. Its just this is not the first time something has happened to him an they always
act as if they dont know or it was him an i understand he is three an accident
prone but if you could see his face right now an it is only getting worse, we are the
most well paid people in the world so we have to go this program to help with
childcare an his mother is worried that if we make a big deal out of these
"accidents" that he will be removed from the program but i cant even think about
sleep since i have picked him up an i just dont understand how each time it has
become worse an worse an they have both our numbers including our work
number an we never recieve a call when these things happen i dont even want to
take him back tomorrow but i myself will going up there in the morning. (When i stated accident prone i did not mean he is unsteady on his feet or any of the sort i simply ment he is an active three year old boy an he gets focused on stuff an starts for it before looking around at what might be in his way as his father an care giver i keep a close eye on him when i am with him but i can not be there all the time an further more he has been on medication which makes him drowsy an the daycare an his teachers have been fully notified of this.)
Do you work? If so, he needs to stay there. If you do not work, stay home with him.
That sounds like a terrible thing to see in anyone's little one.
Call them in the morning and ask to speak to the director. Don't attack, but act confused and quizzical (which you are both). Give her a chance to explain. It could be that they filled out an incident report but that the person didn't give it to the grandmother, or that there is some reason they haven't connected with you yet on what happened.
Casually ask your child what happened and see what he says.
And take him to the pediatrician to be checked out.
Until you talk to the daycare directly, you won't know anything or have any info to act on. Talk to you boy, have his doctor make sure he's OK an document his injuries, and see what your daycare says.
I will say that of course they should have called you and followed their own rules for accident reporting but before you rush to judgement give them a chance to explain themselves.
Hope your son is OK and that it was just an innocent fall. Poor little guy!
Typically, you wouldn't be notified unless the daycare felt he needed medical attention. For scrapes and bruises, usually they will just ice, band-aid, and call it good. Some children are bigger risk-takers than others, and will therefore fall down more. I remember both of my kids coming home at one point or another with band-aids or black eyes. It happens. (And we were in some pretty expensive preschools, so don't worry that because your program is less expensive, it's somehow not as safe - that is not necessarily true.)
Just to ease your mind, I'd go tomorrow and just ask what happened. If they don't know, then maybe you should be a little concerned that the kids aren't being watched closely enough on the playground. But if they can tell you what happened and how they addressed it, I wouldn't be too worried.
If he did fall or get hit they may have looked at his face and not seen the deeper damage. I'd be very upset right now too. I'd be taking pictures so I could show the director the stages he's going through, so she can see it had to have happened there.
By taking these pictures you are also showing her that her staff is not paying enough attention to your child.
A child that is 3 should be steady on his feet. Until they turn 3 they can get a bit unsteady.
The term toddler is used for kiddo's from 12 months up to 24. They are usually the ones that are more unsteady, the can be walking along and just topple over. If they fall into a bucket or fall in the toilet they will drown because they cannot pull their head out, their neck muscles are not super strong yet and their head makes them top heavy.
So he's past the age where he should have been more accident prone, he should be much more steady on his feet now.
I think that if this issue is not resolved in the next few weeks, that means no more injuries, then it's time to move kiddo to a different center.
This is coming from a daycare provide myself. As soon as your son was injured they should have called one of his parents. That's what I do. Yes 3 yr olds are active and clutsy. But if his injuries are as bad as you say, take him to his Doctor get him checked out and get it documented. With what your saying no matter how he was hurt there is some neglect going on here. How do they not know how he was hurt. Sounds odd to me. How many children are in his class/who was on duty when he was hurt. Where did he fall? Could they show you? These are all questions you should be asking.
1. Check the policy of the center. They should have provided you with a handbook (I am assuming this is not just someone's house). They should have procedures and should be abiding by them. Be certain they have been.
2. When you say multiple lacerations - s that fancy for scrapes and scratches? Is you son a crazy guy - is he a rough and tumble kind of kid?
3. If you don't like it there, start looking for other options. No reason to stay somewhere that you are not 100% satisfied with.
My daughter suffered an injury at daycare when she was 2. She dislocated her neck. The ER doctors told us that it was in no way a result of trauma from another person. It was just an accident. If they felt that she was harmed by a caregiver, the police would have already been talking to us.
I think that you have to expect little accidents wherever you go - even in your own home and make decisions based on a lot of thought and insight.
Best of luck and I hope your little guy is feeling better.
Kids fall. Kids who are on meds that make them drowsy fall even more.
That said, you should have been notified. I advise that you meet with the director and discuss the daycare's policies when incidents like this occur. Ensure that they understand that you expect notification when he injures himself.
Well, first you take care of your son's injuries.
Then you talk to the daycare.
I would not have expected a phone call, unless my child needed medical attention beyond cleaning up, a bandaid and some TLC - which it sounds like is what your son required. Typically they will have an "accident report" filled out which will tell you when, where and why he fell. Those injuries seem like a lot.... but if he was on a playground and fell through a jungle gym or fell from a bicycle onto cement..... well, who knows.
Is he naturally *active*? I say this because with my daughter it was rare that she even got dirty at daycare. But I have a 2 1/2 year old foster son and it wouldn't surprise me if they called and said he'd climbed up to the roof and was swinging from the rafters while spreading peanut butter and jelly on bread using boxing gloves.... so along with that spirit comes many more injuries.
They notified his grandmother. I suggest that it's reasonable to not call you. She is your representative.
Now, call the daycare and find out what happened in detail. Decide if their explaination adequately explains his injuries. If so, the next step is to discuss what action could be taken to prevent it from happening again.
Keep an open mind. Ask questions and listen in a calm non- judgemental manner. If you think they should've done something differently discuss this with them in a respectful way.
I am assuming that he did not require medical attention and that he received the appropriate first aid? Since he is three he is able to tell you himself what happened. Ask him. I wouldn't want a phone call from the school every time one of my kids fell on the playground and required first aid. I only want to be notified if he needs medical attention. While three year olds are less accident prone because they are steady on their feet, they are also now "big kids" and will now play hard and take risks. It is a pretty normal part of their development to get some scrapes and bruises when they play. Especially boys!
