Daughter"8" Screams

I don't personally have daughters but I have several thoughts.

My boys both went through a "screaming" phase around 8. It was also coupled with a very bad self-righteous and very ungrateful attitude. I think someone else posted something similar about a child that refused to do chores or help out and was screaming at and belittling parents.

8-11 is a weird age range. My boys are 11 and 9 so I am still going through it some but its on the tail end I hope. They are gaining some more independence and a huge amount of more awareness socially. As with every other time in their life you have to adjust and learn to teach them how to cope with this new realm of the world they have just discovered.

Some of my comments are the linked posts below. General gist is with this attitude you need to apply a bit of work. Implement chores and let them gain some appreciation for all the work you do to make their life nice! Also just talk to them and ask whats up when neither of you is mad.

Ten year old screamer http://www.mamasource.com/request/7612428957790502913

Sassy unappreciative 11 year old
http://www.mamasource.com/request/5202762888086814721

Another suggestion... not sure if the women in your family start early or not. Some girls by 8-9 start showing signs of menstruation and hormones. A friend of mine said her daughter was a ticking time bomb of wildly flying and different emotions for about 6 months before she started her period.

If you really don't think either of these things is the issue, I suggest just taking her out for a girls day just the two of you. Talk to her when you aren't mad and ask her whats going on. Give her a chance to tell why she is acting that way. Try to compromise and let her know that its just making things worse. Try to be calm and let her speak her mind. Instead of correcting her ask her questions to get her to figure out the right answers.

Good luck.

Luckly My daughter is just 8 months, but I have a sister in law that is 8 years old. She is going through the same phase. She screams and yells until she gets her way. She calls names, slams doors, and all of that. By the way, she ONLY does that at home. She done that at my house 1 time and here is why. She started it and started the whole "you don't love me" thing and I slapped her in the mouth and told her to sit down and shut up. She has NEVER even acted like she was gonna have a fit on me again. There comes a time when reasoning is pointless. She is as good as gold for me. I didn't slap her hard or anything like that. It didn't even leave a mark. It just startled her enough that she figured out I meant business.

My daughter is also 8, and also started to use baby talk after my 3rd child was born 7 months ago. She doesn't scream, but she does have an attitude problem, and makes a lot of obnoxious comments to everyone. I scold her when she does this, but it doesn't stop her from doing it again later. I try to include her in playing with the baby, and she sometimes plays with her on her own, and tries to help by changing a diaper once in a while, but I still think she is jealous. She has always been jealous of her older brother (age 10) also, and now I think he is jealous of the baby too, but he responds by hugging me a lot and trying to talk to me all of the time. Anyway, I guess I can't help you, but I can sympathize! Maybe our daughters could have a playdate sometime. Does your daughter like Barbie?

W.

It sounds to me like she is jealous of the new baby. Maybe more one on one time with her and letting her be involved in the care of the baby would help.

Ok sister ill tell you what! what would you do if it were your husband doing this you'd ignore him right? well thats the way to get to your daughter i know it sounds mean and cruel but it works she'll finally understand that screaming and yelling isn't the way to get what she wants. put her in another room tell her when she's ready to act like a big girl or big sister then she can come out and talk to you in a respectful manner. she see your serious just don't scream at her talk to her like you would your closest friend promise it'll work