Daughter Wetting Bed @ Night

It is totally normal, some kids bladders don't fully develop at 3 1/2 and it may not be something she can control. My 4 year old still wears a pull up, we call it "night time undies" b/c she would wake up so upset and we reward her for dry nights, but we do not punish her for wet nights. IT takes time. My 6 year old did not have full bladder control until she was 4 1/2. Kids develop differently, so dont be frustrated or concerned quite yet. :)

Hi there, I haven't researched night time bedwetting extensively, only a little, but I really don't think you should be too worried about it (or too hard on your daughter). To my understanding bedwetting is a bladder control/maturity issue. So unless you know for sure that your daughter is just being lazy and not getting up to go when it wakes her, or is doing it on purpose, I'd just put her in a pull-up at night until she starts being dry in the morning when she gets up. My daughter is 3 1/2 also and still wets the bed at night, but is fine during the day. We are just putting a pull-up on her until she starts waking up when she needs to go at night. Also, to my understanding it might take quite a while to develop bladder maturity enough to not wet the bed. Sometimes as late as nine or ten years of age (hopefully not, but it is good to be aware that it takes some children longer than others to be able to wake and go to the bathroom at night.)Hope this helps and gives you some encouragement. It would be sad to create trouble/issues with your daughter over something that she probably has no control over.:)

Hi C.!

I wish I had some advice to give you but I wanted to drop you a line to say that I think it is wonderful that you are being supportive rather than disciplining her! I personally think a lot more is accomplished this way and just wanted to tell you to give yourself a great big ole pat on the back... you are a great Mama!

Blessings to you and yours!

could she be constipated? That usually causes accidents.

I have 4 children and only 1 of them wet the bed. I found out that my husband's brother wet the bed when he was younger too. So it is a family thing sometimes. Anyway my son had trouble with it till he was going through puberty....which happens a lot. It is totally out of their control and as he got older it was so difficult for him to deal with...he would beg me to take him to the doctor to try and get some medicine that would cure his problem. So we did talk to the doctor many times about it. My doctor had told me it could take till puberty and it did. My son was always nervous to sleep over at a friend's house...he would barely sleep because he wanted make sure to get up often to go to the bathroom. Luckily he did keep himself from having any accidents at friend's homes. I'm not saying that your daughter will have trouble till she's 12 like my son did but be supportive of her and approach it as if you two together are going to help her conquer her problem. Hug her lots, they grow up so fast!!! You sound like a great mom!!

I am still dealing with the same problem and mine are 6years old and 4 years old. They were staying dry, but just recently they are wet most nights. It has become very frustrating and expensive because we put them back in pull-ups. One thing we did is create a "dry night" calendar. Everynight they are dry, they get to put a smiley face on the calendar. If they get five in a row, they get a coupon good for a special treat. So far, the 6 year old has earned his coupon and the 4 year old is trying harder to earn one. I don't really make a big deal about them being wet though. I do try and wake them in the middle of the night to use the bathroom. One thing I discovered is that if they don't void enough during the day, they tend to wet the bed at night. So make sure she is going enough in the day. My boys like to hold it so they won't miss anything. Good luck. She is young yet.

Hello, You daughter is still young and most Dr's will tell you this is totally normal...BUT, I am going to share with you my troubled story...and maybe it will save you years of heart ache. Dr's kept telling me my son would grow out of it...no matter what approach I took to talk to them. At 12 my son was still wet...a lot every night and not waking until morning. We tried so many different things...waking him up in the middle of the night to go...stopping drinks early evening...and on and on..
Finally I talk to a chiro/accupuncture Dr. Who happens to also handle sports med and nutrition.
He said, though your son has not been diagnosed with Diabetes or Hypoglycemia I have a strong feeling that he is intolerant to sugars. I didn't think we were taking in enough to cause a problem. He had us right down everything my son ate for 2 weeks. Then again another 2 weeks with making better choices...only to discover we take in a LOT of carbs. We cut out all drinks except milk at water. No more chips or cookies. Snacks are now fruit, cheese, yougurt, veggies and dip, nuts. we eat whole grain breads and pastas. (the more fiber and protein the better the body processes the carbs)
I will say that my son has not been wet since about a week after starting this except when he splurges on special occations...so much as a can of pop or juice can throw him back.
He also has not had but 1 asthma attack in a year and a half. (and he's an athlete)
This may help you too.
I wish I found this information years earlier!!
Good Luck and please feel free to contact me if you have any questions!!
good Luck!

My daughter will be 8 in April and this still occurs in out home. I noticed it happens just before a growth spurt. I would keep track of things that might trigger it. What she has eaten or drank, my ped. metioned milk and dariy being a culprit. Also can she sneak extra liquids herself? My daughter would sometimes drink the bath water, or help herself to a big drink when brushing her teeth. All these things considered I still feel the growth spurts are the main culpret with her. Luckily we have been dry for awhile but most importantly try to keep your cool and know there is an end to it. Don't blame her, I don't know any child that would choose to wet the bed if they could help it. I know it can be tiring and frustrating for you both. Been there done(?) that, or maybe still am. (just in a dry spell)
Best Wishes
Peggy

Hi C.! Bed wetting can be very frustrating for both child and parents. I myself was a bad bed wetter until I was almost 16 yrs of age!! After many diff doc opinions my mother found a wonderful chiropractor by the name of Dr.Donald Garret, located in Palatine IL. He is so wonderful. I received accupuncture treatments and amazingly enough IT WORKED, how I do not know but it did! I was thrilled and I still see Dr Garret to this day for my lower back and for Migraines. He is a miracle worker. My 7yr old even see's him and gets adjusted. I always thought for kids NO but it's amazing how he FEELS and ACTS afterwards. Give Dr Garret a call and try it, he and his staff our wonderful. :) Good Luck!

I have a three and a half year old as well. She started not wanting to wear a diaper jsut after her third birthday and did OK. She would wet occasionally and then would have bouts. Our dryer broke and we spent the entire sumemr using a laundry line. after MANY more bed wets I offered her a diaper...then our hosue sold and we started packing. Three days after we moved she (without any encouragement) wanted to ditch the dipe. Our washer and dryer weren't hoocked up yet and I cringed. But she was so proud and insisted. She's been ood ever since then - unless she is sick. She recently had a cold and I think with the fever and coughing couldn't control - but now she is fine again. i think it's fine for you to offer her a pull up and just gently talk about it. When my dd wet her bed this week with the cold she was devasted and upset. I just said "no big deal, it's ok, we'll wash it up." I think it's all about the confidence and handling of the situation. She may just not be ready and it's ok to go back and forth.

My kids were pretty much potty trained by 2 1/2. But at night they wore pull-ups until they were about 3 almost 4 yrs old. My son wet the bed until he was about 7 and still sometimes but rarely does. It did not matter when we stopped him from drinking at night It is usually when he is very very tired that he does. I think at 3 they are still too young to be able to handle it all night long. When l\my current little one finishes the potty training phase, I am sure we will have the same thing. I figure I will worry about night wetting when she is about 5. Of course, all children are different and have different phases. If you are truly worried about it you could talk to the doc or see a chiro.