S.H.
When my Daughter was in 1st Grade, she didn't have any of her friends in that class. AND in that class, were a bunch of overbearing trouble makers. Sassy and mean kids.
My Daughter, did fine.
She had a good time.
She said it was fine.
At recess she would play with her friends, from the other classes.
She knew, it was only temporary. And said she'd probably have a better class next year.
She would stand up for herself. She was fine, playing on her own.
She was self-reliant.
I would tell my Daughter, that SHE was fine. That each year, things/classes/Teachers/classmates are a different mix. She knows that. So I think that is why... she doesn't take it in a hard way. She adjusts.
My Daughter is a very feeling individual too. But she also rolls with the punches. Not being 'timid' about it, although she can be shy. But she will speak up with difficulties or with other kids.
It is 'skills' that is also taught to a child. Since she was a toddler, I just sort of taught her things... about people, differences, being her 'own' person etc. To value 'herself'.
My girl, will not engage with 'mean' kids. And/or she stands up to them, or will report any trouble to the Teacher. She knows, the 'process' of what can be done, what to say etc. I role-played with her since she was young. So she feels by now, a 'competence' about things.
The school year will end soon.
Or, make a meeting with the Teacher. Speak to her.
See how your daughter is in class....
Teachers, good ones, know the personalities of each child, and what will work or not, per the child and their disposition. And they adjust accordingly. That is how my Daughter's 1st Grade Teacher was, although she was an 'old school' veteran.
ALSO, my Daughter's Teachers, WILL speak to the ENTIRE class, about behavior. NOT tolerating "meanness." My Daughter's Teachers have always done this. No matter what grade she was in. Or, I have also told the Teacher... if certain kids were MEAN to my daughter or if she was Bullied. (She was bullied in 1st Grade). The Teachers, DO NOT Tolerate that. And will, deal with the child(ren).
The thing is, you teach your Girl, how to manage. How to speak up. How to tell the Teacher if she is getting picked on and bullied. AND as the parent of a young child, you also talk to the Teacher. By doing this, in my daughter's case... she LEARNED how issues are solved. And that, a person can be an advocate and how to do it. I try to be an example, for my daughter in people problems.
As her Teacher told me, UNLESS a parent makes a complaint about mistreatment upon their child by bullies/other MEAN kids... they cannot really do anything. My Daughter's Teacher, commended me for saying something... she then took care of it swiftly. She KNEW, which kids were mean and bullies. They were chronic, that way. She spoke to the children's parents as well. Because, as she put it... it has to be stopped. Nipped in the bud. Or they will grow up to be MEAN middle school kids.
The thing is, EACH school year, kids are in different classes/home-rooms with different kids. They will not always have their friends in class with them. And each year is a different Teacher.
If this Teacher of your Daughter, is really noxious though and inappropriately "mean" to the kids, you need to take note of that. And perhaps speak to her. Who knows, if anything can be done.
One year, my daughter had a regular Sub-Teacher who was real old school and yelled a lot at the kids and was really, mean. (I witnessed it myself). I told my Daughter's Teacher. MANY kids/parents were complaining about her. Some kids even getting physically stressed by this Sub-Teacher. And not wanting to come to school. They even cried.
So after I told my Daughter's Teacher... she dealt with it. And it improved. MANY parents came forward and thanked me. They were too scared, to go up against this Teacher.
Teachers..... SHOULD NOT BE BULLIES TO THEIR KIDS.
all the best,
Susan
