Daughter's Friend Moving Away--ideas for Going Away Gesture?

Updated on July 24, 2015
L.T. asks from Houston, TX
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Hi! My 10-year-old's friend is moving away out of state THIS weekend! We just got back from vacation ourselves and have not had time to organize a group going away party or anything (and I don't think anyone else did either). I was wondering if anyone had any ideas of things my daughter could do to help her keep in touch with her friend. This is a friend that is not one of her best friends but they are good friends having known each other since they were toddlers. They did not go to elementary school together until the last two years so had a few years in there when they did not play together as much but have done so more recently even though they have not been in class together at school (just now attending the same school). This friend has lots of family here in town and will be coming back to visit but I wanted to do something to say so long for now. The mom and I have a similar relationship--been friends for eight years and do some things socially but are not super close like some of my other friends (we also had that gap in there for a few years where we really didn't get together much at all).

The only thing I thought of was to have my daughter give her some stationery and pre-addressed envelopes so they could write back and forth to each other but in this day of digital communication I wasn't sure if they would even do that. (although, IMO, who doesn't love getting regular mail that is not junk mail?)

Any other ideas of something we can do on short notice? Thanks for your help!

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Thanks to everyone for your input! We ended up finding a cute stationery set of notecards at Marshall's (great selection of that kind of stuff BTW)! I couldn't find a photo on my computer easily in such a short amount of time because of some other stuff we had going on (they literally drove away with their moving van less than 48 hours after I posted this). But we were able to stop by and we all said "see you later" and my daughter's friend was very appreciative of the gesture and her mom said writing notes like that was right up her alley! So it worked out great...thanks again!

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E.B.

answers from Houston on

A collage of photos of them together from over the years. My daughters have done this for friends that have moved. (and just for fun birthday presents).
Stationery is fun-I still have letters from a friend when I moved to a different town 50 years ago.
A phone card is a little dated in this world of cell phones with free long distance.
Maybe just take her out for one last night on the town? Or a mom/daughter lunch? Since they are moving-mom might be frantic-maybe bring lunch over for them or the mom might appreciate a mid day break.
If they have cell phones or Facebook then they will keep in touch better than you ever imagined.

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T.S.

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Hmmm....maybe a memory box filled with pictures and small items that remind them of the fun things they did together. Or a scrapbook with the first couple of pages completed with pics of them together. They can then fill in the rest of the pages throughout the years of their friendship. And definitely a friendship bracelet. ;-)

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K.B.

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a homemade photo frame with their photo in it.
i doubt they will use stationary, but it would be great if they did.

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D.M.

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How about gifting her a beautiful watch case?? Have a look at the awesome collection here: http://www.gogappa.com/watch-cases

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E.J.

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This answer might be a little dated... I know with cell phones and such long distance isn't as bad as it once was. When I was a kid a friend moved away and we gave her a phone card to call once and a while. I love the idea of the pre-addressed envelopes and stationary. Maybe she will write with the novelty of the stationary!

SO kind of you to think of your daughter keeping in touch w/her friend!

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E.C.

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I think the stationery idea is good - my 9YO DD's love receiving letters and writing them (even to friends who live less than 5 miles away!).
Other ideas: scrapbook or photo album - maybe with a photo of your DD and her friend in the front with a nice note.

D.B.

answers from San Antonio on

I like your idea of stationary. I think our children are losing their ability to manually write things these days. In fact, I've heard some schools are doing away with teaching cursive, which is absurd.

Anyway, I was going to suggest stationary, with the envelopes like you said, and perhaps a card set with different occasions on them so she could send? You might also get her a cute diary or journal.

Losing any friend is hard, super close or just close. I hope you find just the perfect thing for your daughter's friend. Very sweet gesture.

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M.M.

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Yes, I think the stationary w/pre addressed, stamped envelopes is great.
-a phone card so she can all you
-a framed picture of your daughter and her friend
-a small heart charm on a bracelet (silver) that breaks in half and says best friends (my friend and I did tha when she moved away 25 years ago and we are still friends, stay in touch, email, call and visit each other.. So lucky!)
If she's already left, you can mail this to her.
-a diary

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K.L.

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I think that stationary is a great idea as well as something with a photo of the two of them. You might consider getting 2 frames that match so the girls can each keep one in their rooms!

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V.M.

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i love the stationary, and maybe a fun pen with the name of your city or someting memorable like that. I think if you pre address and stamp some postcards it might get the girls started and then they'll take off from there, great writing practice.

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C.S.

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In third grade my daughter's best friend moved to Wimberly. At first we would have her for a week in summer and my daughter would go there for spring break or a week during the holidays. Now they're older (8th grade) and we still do that but they also have cell phones and Facebook now so they keep in touch much better than I ever thought they would. If nothing else, they could email and send digital photos back and forth. It's so much easier now than when I was a kid, back then when a kid moved you never saw them again!

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