Daughter Still Won't Sleep in Her Room at Night Help

I would turn all the lights off except for her night light; there may be too much light making it difficult to fall asleep. However, this is what worked for us (most nights): Ask your daughter if she wants to play a game. When she falls for playing a game at bed time (all kids love games especially a bed time), take 2 playing cards (we used jokers from an extra deck) and show them to your daughter. Get real excited and put emphasis on trying to "win the game". Explain that the cards will be under her pillow. If she gets out of bed, she has to give you a card. But, if there is a card in her bed in the morning she can trade it in for a treat. At first have the treat be something really tempting; for my daughter it was 3 m&m's. If she stays in bed all night make a big deal of her winning the game and staying in bed. You can start with any number of cards that you would like; if she's real young you may want to start with say 3 cards and over a period of time reduce the number of cards you give her. You have to be consistent though; some nights she might use all her cards and be terribly upset when you take the last card away, but that's part of the game and she'll start realizing that she doesn't win if she doesn't save those cards. When someone gave me this idea, I thought they were crazy and that my daughter was too young to get the concept. Trust me, they pick up on this pretty quick and this worked so much better than expected. Good luck!

Sounds like my daughter. Decide what is important to you. We eventually got the routine down to 20-30 minutes (although we sometimes have longer times) by setting a set number of books/stories before bed and sticking to the routine. However, she still gets up in the middle of the night and comes to sleep with us. We've "given in". That's our choice, but I understand it's not everyone's... SO, we did have friends who tried the put them back over and over again supernanny approach and it worked! Good luck.

Ahhhh, how I remember this well!! I have 4 girls, ages 15 months to 13 years and have gone through this myself. Currently I have a 4 year old who just recently developed the same issue after going to be just fine.
Make sure you have a solid night time routine. That might include bath and 1/2 hour of quiet time before bed. During the quiet time we do last minute sips of water, brush teeth, etc. Then when you tuck her in bed, read a short story. It may help to put some music on for her. My kids love being able to select the music CD for the night. If she shows a sudden "fear" of anything in her room, just simply remove it for now. Sometimes objects make shadows on the wall from the night light lamp, and what didn't scare her before might be doing so now. At this age, all you can really do is stay consistant with placing her back into her bed and tucking her in. The first time you tell her it is time for bed and kiss her again. Second time you put her back to bed, don't talk to her. If she gets up in the middle of the night and you are aware of it, just simply bring her back into her room again.
It is hard and frustrating to say the least to do this for an hour or so. Just try to remain calm and don't get angry at her. For kids that are a little older, if they stayed in their bed the whole night, they got a special treat the next day. (you can buy a small bag of m&m's and give them 3 or 4 each day).
Another idea is to get a small picture of you and dad, and put it into a plastic photo key chain. She can sleep with it. I did that when I brought my little ones to day care and it worked like a charm!
Each child is so different, so don't get discouraged if you have to try many different things. And I promise . . . . it does get better! Good luck!
T.

My 2.5 year old climbs in bed with us in the middle of the night. She claims she's scared and lists things that make her afraid. This is the only country where kids have their own rooms and sleeping with parents is off-limits.

Snuggling is fun and we've learned to deal with it. Kids want to be with their parents and she'll go to her own room eventually, but for now the fight and her fear isn't worth it.

we have the same problem a very strict bed time schedule is it you know bath books bed but im not so good at that so we just end up in the same bed more often than not very tired but soon enough they wont want to be in the same room let alone bed

My son who is 3 years old was an awful sleeper until this past Christmas when Santa brought him a flash light. It is one that you wind up. Before that I would have to lay in bed with him until he fell asleep and if he was not asleep he would scream so I would go back in a lay back down so that he did not wake up his sister who needs her sleep for school. Now all I do is wind the flashlight up when putting him to bed and turn it on. He usually falls asleep within 15-20 min. but on some nights it takes him a while. He also has a night light in his room. But he loves his flashlight.
Good luck I know this is not fun.