Daughter Poos in Her Underwear

My daughter was doing this until we took pull-ups away completely. We followed the method of "potty training in one day" and it really worked. She is not night trained yet but we are working on it. She is only 3. What the method says to do is to have her do potty runs when she has an accident. So, in the beginning when my daughter would have an accident we would take her to the potty and change her into clean underwear. Then we would do 5-10 "potty runs". This would consist of her going from room to potty and practicing going potty. She would run from the kitchen to the potty, sit on it and then go to another room and do it again. Im not sure if this is what cured her from pooping in her underwear but it made her realize that she needs to stop what she is doing and go to the bathroom. We also do a reward for pooping on the potty- 3 fruit snacks. She doesnt need them anymore but being that everything is going good we dont want to mess it up. Go to pottypatty.com and click on potty taining in one day. It has good advice!

Rule out medical

My daughter started peeing in her pants aftering being trained and it turned out she was so constipated it was pushing on her bladder and not her fault.

Then if it's not medical let her take full responsibility for her mistakes. You supervise and watch but she cleans her undies in the toliet or sink, she puts them in a bucket or in the laundry room, she finds new undies and puts new clothes on. After all the work she will find it's easier to just use the toliet. You only watch you don't actually assist.

First get a medical evaluation. She might have something medical going on. Other things to consider in this area are, whether she been constipated lately? Has her diet changed?

You don't mention whether she'd go in her pullup when she was still wearing them overnite. If so, she may just not be "night" trained, and that'll be something you'll have to work on.

Maybe she's too afraid to get out of bed at night to use the toilet. Get nightlights for the hall and bathroom, and her room if she doesn't have one. Giive her a flashlight to use too if she's really frightened.

Last but not least. Many kids who are heavy sleepers are also the kids with bedwetting issues. I'm certain there are kids with overnite #2 issues, for the same reasons. This would also be determined after a medical evaluation.

Don't treat this as a defiance issue. Watch her carefully during the day and try to notice when she usually relieves herself. Is she just too busy to stop and take care of it or does it completely take her by surprise. I had one like this and it turned out that he was constipated and only very liquid waste could make it out. He had no control over it at all.

If you can determine what the signs are that she needs to go, then help her remember to head for the potty. Say something like, I'll bet you don't want to get your nice underpants dirty. How about we put your _______ in the potty chair so we can keep you nice and clean. Hopefully she will start to recognize the signals for herself.

What ever you do, do not discipline for this! It only makes it worse. And don't overreact when an accident happens. Just say something like, I guess we will have to stop and clean you up now. It is too bad that it takes so much time to clean. Maybe if you went in the potty it wouldn't take as much time. (If "time" is her issue.) Try not to get emotional or sarcastic when you say this.

My kid was a couple years older when he did that. I talked to him to find out why her was doing that. He didn't have a good reason so I told him that I was worried about him and wanted to take him to the doctor. He was adamant that he didn't want to go. I even made an appointment. He asked me to please not make him go to the doctor and he would try harder and not poop in his pants. It hasn't been perfect but it has improved.

M.