Our daughter is 8 and has been self conscience of a small freckle on her upper arm for a couple of years now. She says that nobody has said anything about it......but I think maybe someone did back in Kindergarten or 1st grade. She would rather wear 1/2 sleeve or long sleeve shirts even when it's 80 degrees! I've had several talks with her about it....how normal it is.....how they are pretty....angel kisses....showed her how others have them........And it is just the one small freckle......she doesn't care about a freckle on her neck or the one on her face........This morning I even attempted to put a speck of cover up on it but it didn't work well. I'm out of ideas! She did go to school with a short sleeve shirt on today!!!!!!! She seemed ok.........Has anybody else gone through something like this? Any advice? Thanks!!!!!!
Thanks everybody for your great advice!! Today I told her to wear a short sleeve shirt because it's hot again....she did without a fuss and said....I don't mind wearing short sleeve shirts anymore. I guess with making her wear them lately, she realized nobody has said anything to her at school....that's my guess anyways....so hopefully in time she will not mind her cute little freckle.....Thank you everybody!
I wonder why she is fixated on this little thing. It seems so insignificant. Dont cover it up, reinforce that it is normal and very much a non -issue. Hopefully this will go away.
Why are girls so hard on themselves?!
WHAT?! Freckles ROCK!! You send her to my house so she can take a look at me and my daughters, she might change her mind ;)
She's LUCKY to have an adorable freckle :)
I loooove little imperfections. Gap teeth are the CUTEST. My daughter has a light spider hemangioma on the side of her nose (that she's finally learning to love); it's adorable!
How about using a Sharpie to turn it into O. eye of a smiley face? :)
Seriously, seems like she's turned the corner to acceptance since she wore the short sleeved shirt, right?
Point out everyone else's freckles. She probably hasn't noticed that just about everyone has them. Perhaps when she realizes that everyone has them but she has never noticed she will accept that no one notices hers.
I'm with Denise.......I was thinking of drawing flower petals around it!
(You have 80-degree weather? What's that like??)
I'm with pointing out "special features" in others to show her just how common freckles are and that no two people will have the exact same pattern. Do you kiss her body parts? She might be a little old for that--not sure--but maybe you can kiss it periodically just to show her that it's special.
I'm a redhead and my arms are full of freckles. Let her know that not everyone is special enough to get freckles. You need to have just the right skin tone and not everyone out there has it. She does.
It's taken me a long time to accept my freckles. When I was in junior high, I bought the bleaching cream and used it on my face to get rid of them. It worked but now I kind of regret not having them because they'd make me look younger now!
If it's truly bothering her to extremes, consider getting the Dermablend cover up concealer. It's meant for severe situations such as scarring and it will no doubt cover the freckle.
my sister had a mole on her arm that she hated to the point of wearing band-aids over it if she had on a short sleeved shirt. she whined and moaned so much about it my parents finally had it taken off. and now she has a humongous scar on her arm instead of a mole! and still puts band-aids on. she's 54 now.
My daughter has a mole on her nose. It isn't very big and it is actually kind of cute. I tell her it is her beauty mark. She is a 1st grader now and was very nervous to go back to school because some new students might make fun of her mole. I have been telling her over and over that it is ok to have moles (I have tons) and that no one will make fun of her. It finally stuck when one girl (3rd grader) yesterday told my daughter that her mole was cute! Hopefully she is past it now. Good luck to you and your daughter.
I don't really know... She clearly sees it as a flaw. I just think it is important you don't emphasize that idea - changing her body becaus eof a perceived flaw. I imagine if you just don't give it a lot of attention, and encourage her not to cover it, the insecurity should go away. I might even "force" her to not cover it. The more experience she has with it being visible and no one cares, the less anxious she will be about it. I also think if someone does notice it, you need to arm her with a response so as to not make a big deal of it. "Oh, that, just a freckle!" and move on.
i don't think you can do anything about it. just let her do whatever she wants to feel comfortable and she'll forget about it eventually. i think it's one of those things that you'll need to ignore. perhaps just support her in how she wants to cover it up but don't offer anything unless she asks. i think i would make a comment about its normalcy but say that if it makes her happy, she can cover it with X and that she can decide to have it removed when she's 18 or something. might want to explain the scarring issue that someone below pointed out tho. she might decide she likes the freckle better.
My 5 year old has a freckle on her upper lip and she has asked multiple times to have it removed...even asked her ENT doc to please take it off when she had her tonsils out....not sure how or why she became self conscious of it...I asked if anyone said anything to her about it...she says no...I wish I had some advice for you...Ill be reading your responses in the hopes that I can get some advice myself!!! Amazing how the littlest things upset them!! :)
I have numerous little freckles on my arms and hands. And because I'm especially pale, they really show up.
But really, nobody notices them. Really.
Use yourself as an example. Show her all your little freckles. Let her help you find them. I'll bet you have more than you even thought! Then make sure she knows that EVERYONE has them! I have 19 (I just counted!) on my left forearm alone!
But I'm of Irish and Scottish descent with red hair...so that might have something to do with it!
My niece had small mole on her tummy.
It drover her crazy, especially in the summer. It looked fine, but it bothered her so much, my sister took her to the doctor and had then remove it.
When I was about her age i did the same thing, i used to wear my wristwatch waay up just to cover the darn thing. I have picture of it. I grew out of it and can't even remember how because all of a sudden my attention was payed to something else. So I suggest to let her do whatever she wants to do (wearing longer sleeves etc) and to see if she can be engaged in things that will really absorb her extra attention (if it makes sense).Redirection is my piece of advice.
